How can I tell if someone is jealous of me?
I had a colleague who was very jealous of me, at least that is what people told me when I complained of her behavior. Here is what I experienced:She would copy me. If I got a new piece of jewelry then she would get something very similar shortly afterward. If I traveled somewhere, she would go on a trip also to some place similar.She would be very nice to me to my face but them put me down behind my back. People would tell me about some of the things she said I was doing. Not of it was true.She was constantly complaining about others. No one was very competent in her opinion. I was one of them when my back was turned.We were friends outside the work place. But she would like to purposefully exclude me and tell me about where she went and what she did.She would never compliment me or ask about a trip.I always had the feeling that she was trying to “ put me in my place”.These things went on for quite a few years. I tolerated it because I worked with her and wanted to keep my work environment as peaceful as possible. She must have taken this as permission to keep doing it. Finally, the last straw came. I had golfed with her and a couple other ladies for about 8 years on Wednesday afternoons in the summer. She had recently been particularly difficult to work with and had alienated several other people with her negativity and complaining. She was going to schedule a tee time for the following week. I asked her to just let me know. She never told me and I found out that our group had gone without me. I finally confronted her about it and told the entire group that I would never do anything with them again. They were not “friends” if they were going to treat me like that. At work I had asked to be reassigned to a different area so I wouldn’t have to work with her again.After breaking it off with her I realized a few things… Her negativity had unconsciously rubbed off on me. I had to work on not criticizing and complaining about others. She really had been toxic. I developed better friendships with other, more positive people. I was so much happier!
What role did the Christians hav during the fall of Rome?
Very little, by the time, Rome had fallen Constantine had already made Christianity the religion of choice within the Roman empire. It is speculated that the Christian belief in pacifism affected the Empire is ability to crush its enemies without remorse. I dealt with it, that is actually the case, and historians have now reached the conclusion that lead poisoning may have had more of an influence than any social dynamics.
How can I fight this battle of morality versus passion in my most important relationship? My wife is an ideal woman in all respects but considers sex as dirty and not important. This has created my resorting to internet sources for gratification.
You can start by framing the question in a more useful way.This is not an issue of “morality versus passion.” There is nothing immoral about having sex, there is nothing immoral about wanting sex, there is nothing immoral about not wanting sex, and there is nothing immoral about watching porn.And your wife is not an ideal woman in all respects. This is, in fact, a rather large way in which she is not ideal for you.What you have is sexual incompatibility.Sexual incompatibility, as you have discovered, is toxic to relationships. It robs your marriage, and your life, of joy. It undermines intimacy. It creates tension.This is why refusing to have sex until you are married is such a terrible, terrible idea. Rules against premarital sex create the situation you are in.It sounds like both of you come from repressive societies that taught you poisonous ideas about sex. She grew up thinking sex is dirty; you grew up thinking turning to the internet for gratification is wrong. I’m sorry you were both raised that way. Those toxic ideas set you on a course to an unhappy marriage.Now you have arrived at a place where you have few good choices.You can both go into counseling with a sex-positive therapist who can help you unlearn the toxic baggage you grew up with, and learn healthier attitudes about sex.You can keep on in a sexually dysfunctional relationship, and give your unhappiness fertile soil to grow.Or you can divorce.Those are basically your options.Good luck!