Uh oh! I like my best friend's brother!! HELP!?
My best friend, Allison, has a brother, Kevin, and yesterday i was talking to her and she invited me to a chatroom (with her bro and a couple of other people) i've always thought he was cute, but never really talked to him. I mean, i saw him at her house sometimes, but i'm really shy with guys so i just pretended like he wasn't there (yea, yea i know :[ ) so anyways, during the chatroom it seemed like whenever i asked a question he would respond to me!! and we'd have these little mini convos together. and so after a little while he IMed me separately (hehehehe) and we started talking and Allison didn't really like it so she started telling me to stop talking to him hahahah and i didn't cause he was fun to talk to! afterwards Allison was like do you have a thing for my bro? cause i think he has one for you. and i was denying it but she kept telling me we should go out..and idk what to do! does he like me?! HELLPP!! :[ btw he's a year older than me and really shy w/ girls. thanks!
Is it a good idea to ask her best friend for help in dating her friend?
Yes absolutely. Keep in mind every conversation you have with the friend will most likely be disected to the smallest detail with her friend. That's good though - if you have a chance you'll find out exactly what the girl wants. If she's not interested you'll probably get advice not to bother.All of that is assuming the friends have a healthy relationship and the one you're thinking about talking to doesn't fancy you for themselves. If the friend likes you and they have a healthy relationship, best case scenario is shock, upset, won't want to talk to you anymore. Worst case is she'll slag her friend off to you and you to her friend.Other thing to keep in mind is that sometimes the friend doesn't fancy you but doesn't want her friend to have anyone too nice because that takes the friend away from her.Best thing to do is be direct with the person you like but if you really can't bring yourself to do that, talk to her friend.Whatever you decide hope for the best and know that it is a learning experience. The more contact you have with people the more you learn, the better you get. Love can be beautiful and breathtaking, it can be painful and awful but it's all lessons.
I love this girl, but she thinks of me as her best friend. How do I escape? Ps. She knows I like her.
This is a secret, the secret of getting out of the friendzone!! Shhhhh!! So I will describe it step by step. And this is a self tested technique I have used several times. (It could also get you the girl but you may as easily loose her)Become her best friend.Tell her your deep dark secrets. (Like family stuff)Be there for her. Go out of your way to support her. Make her completely dependent on you. Ask her out. (Don't say you love her, just tell her you have started seeing her differently and you are not able to control yourself)If she says yes, yay!!If she says no. Start avoiding her.Avoid her some more. And just a tad bit more. (Don't overdo it, she might find someone else; plenty of fish in the sea for her)Untill she really really absolutely needs you. Then come to the rescue. Now she will definitely ask you why you have been avoiding her, tell her 'everytime you see her it hurts.' (HIMYM)Tell her you cannot be her friend anymore and this was the last time you are going to be there for her. If she likes you back, she won't let this happen. If she doesn't. You never really had a chance (sorry)To my experience, here is when you should strike the blow. Tell her that she should consider going out with you once, if she doesn't she might regret that she lost something real.If she does like you, this should do the trick. In reality, if a girl really likes you but has kept you in the friendzone, it's not really her fault.,It's your!! Have the guts to just ask her out, face the rejection and simply walk away. I have been in the friendzon because even after being rejected I stuck along being her friend and helping her out in the hope that she might fall in love with me by seeing how great I am. While she flirted with other guys, and eventually started dating someone else.So the gist of it is, if she wants you, she won't let you walk away. If she doesn't, well, good for you!!
Are we best friends??
I had a best friend in high school... she was my world. But I was not HER best friend. She had another best friend that she had since she was 5. There was nothing I could do about that. But I still considered her MY best friend and that had to be enough. We had a great time together and I knew that she cared about me... as I'm sure your friend cares about you. The title of "Best Friend" is just that... A TITLE. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't change the things you do or the way you feel about one another. And although it is always nice to know you have a "best friend" that is not the most important part. I don't know if you should ask her... but if you feel the need then just put it at the bottom of a letter just put BFF and try to feel her out that way. If she responds and puts BFF at the bottom of hers then you know... if not... Then just enjoy her being YOUR best friend. I hope this helps a little. Good Luck! And Merry Christmas!
I dont know what to do about my best friend PLEASE HELP ?
Tell her this isn't good for her and you are worried about her.
Should I go straight to her or should I ask her friends to help me? (SEE DETAILS)
Going to the friends is usually a bad idea. Ever heard of the telephone game?You to her friend: “Melissa is pretty”Her to her friend: “Guy said girl is smoking hot”Her friend to her friend: “Guy said he thinks Girl is hot and wants to make out with her”Her friend to her friend: “Supposedly Guy wants to hook up with Girl next week”Her friend to her friend: “I heard that Guy and Girl hooked up last weekend”See how shit can hit the fan FAST?Ever seen what you would you would call an unattractive guy with an absolutely perfect girl and thought, “What’s he got that I don’t?”Don’t say money.Maybe he does or maybe he doesn’t have money, but unless she’s a hooker, he didn’t pull out a wad of cash and say, “Yo, you like these benjamin’s?” in order to go out with her. If she’s shallow maybe she’s still with him because of his money. Maybe. But money isn’t what got him the date.So what got him “in” in the first place? Confidence. It took sack to approach her and do the work himself. He definitely didn’t go through her friends to get the date.Saddle up and do the damn thang boyyyyyy.
Should I ask my crush's best friend is she likes me?
Ok, so last year I really liked this cute girl. We used to talk for hours online. So one day, I asked her best friend if she liked me. So the next day, her best friend told me that my crush only liked me as a friend. Ever since that day, she started losing interest in me and that was it. The same thing pretty much happened last week. I met a beautiful girl from college. We were paired up with her best friend and a couple friends to go on a trip to the beach. We really hit it off, we laughed the entire day and even met her favorite band performing in the street. Funny, isn't it? Later that day, when the rest of the group wasn't around we started talking. She told me she had a boyfriend of 2 months and that she really didn't see them compatible. So she asked me what to do. I told her: "In my personal experience, the first 3 months of a relationship are supposed to be the nicest." That night, she told me she broke up with her boyfriend, before she even made it public! The next days, we started to get to know each other, we would sit next to each other every class. So one day I asked her best friend is she liked me. She said she didn't know and that was it. The next day, I could tell my crush was acting indifferently. I think I already know the answer to the question I made in the title. I think the answer is NO. I think it hurts your chances because it ruins the mystery of attraction. So my real question is: HOW TO GET THEM TO LIKE ME AGAIN?
Is it a bad idea to ask your girlfriend's best friend for help or advice if your girlfriend is upset?
If you are really concerned about your girlfriend and she is not opening up to you then I personally don't see it being a problem for you to go to her best friend. However, don't be surprised if her best friend doesn't tell you either because sometimes when a girl doesn't want the boyfriend to know something she will always tell her best friend but when she talks to her friend she more then likely will say, "don't tell anyone" meaning she will be breaking the best friend code and promise as well.
Can I ask my ex-girlfriend's best friend to help me to patch up with her?
In short, NO!! Depending on the circumstances surrounding the breakup she may not like you very much and would most definitely not help you. Chances are your exes best friend was the one she went to after the breakup and told her all the awful reasons why she isn’t with you anymore. Considering that, why would she help you?? In addition, after a breakup there’s a certain “code”…I’m sure you know these rules: you don’t ask your friends ex girlfriend out; you should not be up in your exes business as she is your “ex”; and you don’t employ her friends to try and gain her favor. Better yet, you would be well advised to just keep a distance between her friends and yourself as it would be uncomfortable for all parties.If you want to rekindle a relationship with your ex, go to her! Any other method will seem needy and underhanded.Good luck!