Be Honest What Do You Think About These Pictures Of Me

My boyfriend posts naked pictures of himself online. Am I wrong for wanting it to stop?

I’m not sure how long you two have been dating or if you knew about the pictures when you first got together or not. Those two things greatly change my answer here, but I will do my best to give a thorough answer.In a good relationship, you have to compromise with one another. If you knew about the pictures in the beginning and didn’t have a problem with it, it is somewhat unfair to expect him to change this behavior now. I’m not sure what motivates him to post naked pictures, but I would have a conversation with him about what this fulfills for him and be honest about what your issue is with it. If you knew about it in the beginning but are no longer okay with it, mention why you were okay with it before but aren’t now. That could be something as simple as, “When we first met, I thought it was okay, but now that I feel for you the way I feel for you, I don’t want to share that part of you with strangers on the Internet.” or whatever the case may be.If he cannot stop himself from posting these pictures and you can’t accept it any longer, it is time to move on. Understand that relationships are about compromise, communication, respect, and honesty. Don’t settle for anything less than that. I hope that helps, and I wish you luck!

Is it okay to post pictures of yourself on Instagram? Would people think I'm too much into myself?

Since 99.99% of instagram users have chosen to make evident how in love they are with themselves, you’ll fit right in.Most people on social media don’t think about this. Actually, most people on social media barely think. To be honest, most people have lamentable thought processes, whether on social media or off.I wouldn’t worry too much. Eventually you will post less pictures of yourself and more pictures about how awesome it is to be you.

What do you think about girls wearing make up on online dating profile?

I think women (because they’re over 18, right?) can do whatever they want in pictures on their profiles. Whatever is authentic for them.I’d advise to consider what message they want to convey in the pictures however.My first pics were lots of cleavage and I attracted a lot of dick pics, duds, and douchebags. Yuk. Then I switched my pics to ones of me doing activities. The quality of responses changed to more dateable guys (maybe because the guys who were looking only for “hot” pics weren’t interested?).My philosophy on lots of makeup in pictures for myself was just that I don’t wear a lot of makeup in my day to day so I didn’t want my pictures to misrepresent myself when we met in person.(I also didn’t want to be one of the women who has to wake up and get fully dolled up before my partner wakes up because I don’t want him to see me without makeup. I like my sleep too much.)Guess what? I found a guy who hates makeup and loves me au naturel. Squeeee!

I sent this guy a picture of myself on Instagram and asked him if he thinks I am pretty and he replied saying "No". Is it rude to tell a girl she is not pretty?

I think to be able to assess if this guy was being “rude” we need to understand his own cultural context. What is his background? Did he grow up in the United States? What kind of household does he come from? Generally most actions in of themselves aren’t rude. For example, if you are in a country where it isn’t customary to say anything similar to “bless you” after someone sneezes , is the man next to you on the bus being rude by not saying anything after you sneeze a few times? Of course not! It would be really unfair to pass that kind of moral or social judgement on someone for failing to fulfill a cultural rite that they aren’t aware of or involved with in the first place!So on to your situation. While there are definitely exceptions, generally speaking mainstream US culture demands politeness and positivity often at the expense of honesty and pragmatism. Ever notice how awkward it feels if someone compliments your outfit or appearance and you don’t find some way to compliment them back? Maybe you are immune to it but I feel that pressure all the time here. Or another example, how often do people really say just plain “no” in the US? Most of the time “polite” Americans will say:“oh I’d love to but blah blah”or“well I would but I’m busy”or“that is so thoughtful, I’ll have to check and get back to you on that!”We are pretty used to this kind of flowery denial, but it is definitely not the norm in many other cultures. I lived in Brazil for awhile where my friends (and strangers) would often inform me directly when I looked like crap, had gained weight, was speaking Portuguese poorly or had a bad haircut. They weren’t trying to be rude (I find that most Brazilians I meet are incredibly polite and hospitable people), they were just being honest and operating within the bounds of their own cultural context.So in the mainstream US culture you could argue that it was kind of rude of the guy not to do the American thing and try to find some way to make his opinion more palatable to your sensitivities (although you were the one who solicited it in the first place!), but in many other countries and cultures it is perfectly polite and not rude for him to tell you exactly how he feels. At the end of the day if it makes you feel any better one person’s opinion of one picture of you is definitely not enough to assess your attractiveness, and certainly completely irrelevant to your worth as a human being. Thanks for reading!