How would you make your teacher your friend?
You can be friendLY with your teacher and cordial but it's not really in keeping with good student teacher relationships to be 'friends' per se...unless say you were to take extracurricular activities that the teacher also taught, such as long distance running etc...but it's kind of **conflict of interest**and against school policy to be OPENLY hanging out with the teacher..(female or not)...but you can be cordial...and then, maybe next year-when you don't have that teacher-you can hang out outside the teacher-student relationship...which for the time being is rather sacred and important to keep in tact--in perspective. Maybe--if it seemed mutual, you could have a secret out of Public eye friendship with teacher but let her do her job on Public time...and surely expect no preferential treatment.Keep it hush hush if you do--for your own peace of mind as well as hers--if the school board or students got wind of that friendship...it may wreak havoc...meaning u accused of getting special treatment and her perhaps catching flack from school board or teachers...accusing her of giving you special treatment because of this friendship.
Can a student and teacher be friends?
No, you cannot be friends. That being said, she can be kind to you. She can care about you. She can look out for you. She can want good things for you. She can function as a mentor and a role model to you. But remember that none of these things automatically equal "friendship" - she is doing her job as a teacher and as a nice human being by being kind to you. There is a big difference between being FRIENDLY and being a FRIEND. She is being "friendly" to you but she is not your "friend." You can ask her for advice. You can consider her a role model. You can joke around with her a little bit. You can ask her for help when you really need it. But, no, you are not "friends." She is a teacher and you are her student. A friendship is inappropriate ... both because of your roles, and because you are a child and she is an adult. She could get in a lot of legal trouble for calling herself your "friend." And she isn't your mom, or a surrogate mom. I'm sorry that you have a bad relationship with your parents, but you cannot just go substitute a kind teacher for a mother figure. That's inappropriate and it's not the same thing. You are desperately looking for something that just isn't there, honey. Don't take it personally. She isn't refusing to be your friend because she doesn't like you ... she's refusing to be your friend because it's not appropriate. And because at this stage in your life, a teacher/adult should not be your friend. Healthy adults do not want/need to be friends with children. An adult who seeks out friendships with children has something mentally wrong with them. Please respect what she's said. By all means, continue to have a nice cooperative relationship with her. And by all means, if there is something BIG going on in your life (abuse, mistreatment, a big personal problem, harmful thoughts, etc.), confide in her and ask her for help. At graduation, write her a nice note thanking her for her kindness. But if you are looking for a "friend," then find someone your own age. Or write in a journal if you need to unload. But you should not be treating her like a friend, because she's not. She's your teacher and you are the student. You need to keep appropriate boundaries between the two of you.
Is it okay to be friends with your former teacher?
Hi, In my last year of high school I was pretty close to my psychology teacher (we're both females). She would help me with class material that I was confused on after school sometimes so she was a big help academically. Second term was when she was no longer my teacher (I only had her first term), but once in a while I'd pop in and we'd chat for a bit. Now I'm in my first year of college and once in a while, she and I email each other, updating each other about our lives. I'm going back home from college during Christmas, and I would like to visit her, but rather than just like talk to her like after school while she's still in my former high school, I was thinking of suggesting that we go out for coffee or something instead. I don't want to cross any boundaries, so would this be innappropriate? I'm pretty sure those student-teacher relationship (friends or more than friends, but in this case, friends) don't apply to me since I already graduated right? Thanks :)
Is it ok for a teacher and a student to be close friends?
You need to be aware that a very tiny number of teachers will use these methods to groom a child for future sexual abuse. You may think that because you are both female that this will not be an issue. However, there are cases where sexual abuse of a female student from a female teacher has occurred. In one, a female teacher became friendly with an entire family, but ended up sexually abusing one of the daughters. As far as I know, these events happened in the family home of the student. It is a little unclear from your answer the nature of the 'friendship'. I myself live in a small town, and so I have been involved in playing sports with students, including on the same teams. Lots of teachers are also sporting coaches, just like your teacher.Also, in a small town, there will be students who arrive at high school that the teachers have known since they were babies, simply because the teachers have been friends with the parent. They are of course, already friendly towards the child.The question is, has your teacher singled you out to become her friend in a 'special' way that would not be how she views another student. Are you spending time outside of wrestling and school together? Is this time in the company of other adults and/or other students? Or are you alone together during this extra time? Are you friends on social media? This is illegal in some places, for good reason. Do you text each other? Again, this is illegal in some places. Do you contact each other using any other form except both of you using your legitimate school email which is monitored? Again, in some places this is illegal.If you are spending time alone with your teacher on a regular basis, and any of the other signs are present, this could be the beginning stages of grooming. If your teacher is your class teacher and your wrestling coach, and spends time openly chatting to you, and is not seemingly intent on organising alone time, then this is fine.However, you need to realise that this teacher would likely simply be encouraging you to do your best and negotiate life. Most teachers are NOT grooming their students, but what you think is a special friendship in that case would not be special for the teacher. She is likely just treating you as well as every other student and you are reading more into it.You should not be thinking about this teacher as the most special person in your life either. You should hopefully be making other friends at school and at the wrestling club.