How do I support my boyfriend of 2 months who just found out his ex girlfriend is pregnant?
It really depends on the circumstances. Is this HIS baby she is pregnant with? If so, I’ll assume it was before you began dating. You then have to decide if this is something you can handle. If you feel you are not ready for that kind of relationship, dealing with a boyfriend who has a child coming into the world that will cost him both time and money, then do the right thing early and leave.If the baby is not his, how valued was this ex? If she was just “some girl” then don’t worry about it. His emotions will straighten out quickly enough. We get frazzled sometimes when we get such news, “that could’ve been me” and either we are relieved or a bit melancholy.If she was “the love of his life” then you either need to be incredibly supportive or leave him immediately. I know that if I heard nine of the last ten girls I’d been with were pregnant, I’d not even bat an eye. But if I heard about ONE of them, a very specific girl, getting pregnant? I’d be an absolute mess. I still love that girl more than anything (and I’m single, so no one is hurting over this aside me) but I have dated since her. I am able to separate my feelings for a current person vs my old “flame” burning in the background. But if she were to get pregnant? I’d struggle. I’d need someone who could understand that while I hurt over this, it did not diminish my feelings for them.Unfortunately, I do not know of many who are capable of such compassion and understanding. And I do not really blame them. So, I remain single and working to work to work to work…
What do I do now that my boyfriend found out he got his ex-girlfriend pregnant?
You support your boyfriend, knowing that his baby is his legal and moral responsibility and will be until the child is an adult, at minimum. You will, by necessity, come after the baby. Your boyfriend will have a relationship with the mother of his baby forever, and that (sorry) will also come before you.You have to decide if you can handle this and be happy.
My Boyfriend Just found out his ex is pregnant?
I need some crucial advice i havent been through this before and dont know anyone who has been through this either. I have known my boyfriend for two years so i knew he was alot older than me and i knew he already had a 7 year old daughter, and when we recently became single we decided to try a relationship out. I didn't expect to fall so hard, so fast for him and a month into it we find out his ex/babies mama is 2 months pregnant. He says he wants to stay with me that he will keep both his worlds separate mine and his kids at least until if we ever decide to get married, but he wont tell her were together because he has recently helped her buy a new home for them and he doesn't want to tell them until they move in, in February. I am just scared that she may try something or feel like she has some kind of right because shes pregnant again with his kid. I love him and i feel he is the one, but i just have so many mixed feelings about all of it that i dont know what to do because babies are a lot to handle aren't they? i just need some huge advice from someone whose been through this or at least understands how im feeling.
My boyfriend just had a new baby with his ex--- I am scared. Help!?
My boyfriend is one of the most amazing people I have ever met. It's Funny how you go through a tough break up & you think you will never find anything then all of a sudden someone comes into your life- out of nowhere. That's how it was with me & my love. Here is the thing--- His ex girlfriend of about a year & a half just had his baby. When he told me I was terribly hurt & so was he. We cried in each others arms & he told me how much he loved me, that he was sorry, he didn't want to loose me, that I was so different... I thought "Why couldn't it be me?". A baby is a special part of someones life & all he wants is to be the best dad he could be & I am so proud of him. He is so responsible & just wants his daughter to experience a happy life. But then again there is me. I want to be happy too. He makes me feel like I am on top of the world but now that the baby is here I know everything will be different. I know I will be part of the baby's life & I have no problem with that. I would enjoy playing, changing, having walks or just watching the baby with him. I am just scared that he will all of a sudden want to rekindle things with his ex or vise versa. He says that his first reaction when she had told him was trying to make it wok for the baby. I questioned that to him--- "If you didn't have feelings for her then why would you suggest that?" He told me that he never pictured his life like this. That everything is backwards & he thought that doing that would make things better for the baby even though that would mean sacraficing his happiness since him & the baby's mom do not get along. He tells me he knows things will be okay & yes it will take some time for everything to come into place but to please be patient with him. I see potential in our relashionship & do see it blossoming I am just afraid & would just like to know if anyone has or knows someone who has been in a situtaion like this. What was the outcome?
My boyfriend is upset because he found out his ex-girlfriend is pregnant?
My boyfriend of a year is upset because his ex girlfriend is pregnant (with her current boyfriend's child, of course). It makes me feel like he's not over her. I don't understand the dynamic of it or why he feels the way he does. It honestly makes me feel like I don't exist when he's giving so much thought to this girl being pregnant and now getting engaged. They were together for about four years and even lived together. I've tried to be unselfish and not act jealous and be here if he needs me, but it's hard. Why would he be so upset? He says he feels disrespected because they only broke up a year and a half ago and now shes having a kid.
My boyfriends used to beat his ex-wife?
Get out NOW! It doesn't matter who threw the first punch. He has no right to put he hands on a woman especially an pregnant woman for that matter. Are you serious? get out now.
What should I do when my new boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend tells him she is pregnant with his baby?
4 days? Run away. It sucks to be him. It really does. She's going to destroy his life. Whay she did was evil. She has no business having a child. But why let it drag you down? You don't love him. You hardly know him. Run far and fast.Alternately. If he can convince this scheming whore to have an abortion…He needs to be a man and tell her that what she did was wrong, and that he won't be weak and be conned into being with her. It's over, and he wants nothing to do with her, other than to send the child support that the government will screw him into sending for 18 years, or being a dad while avoiding her. His choice. Either way, she does NOT get him back. She's stupid, desperate, and sick to even do this.I'd honestly take one of two routes with him. Tell her he will never ever see her again, that she disgusts him, she'll be a horrible mother, and that she's raising her scam baby alone. He doesn't have to mean it, he just needs to sell it. If that fails, he can tell her that he hates her, she's a disgusting person and an unfit mother, but that because of that, he's filing for joint custody, but that he won't spend a minute in the same room as her for anything other than picking up his kid. He'll tell her that the baby will have a stepmother someday. That her plan backfired and caused nothing but hate.If this fails, I'd walk. You hardly know him, and if you stay would will be dealing with her drama, her manipulation, and her craziness forever. Even if he walks away from her, he's on the hook financially for 18 years. Plus, if he chooses to be involved, that means a baby. In a brand new relationship. Not worth it.
My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex and now she is pregnant...?
Ohhhh mannn. That has just got to be one of the most painful things to go through. I am only a year younger than you and I can't imagine havi9ng to deal with that kind of pain. Is your boyfriend and his ex also around 16 years old? If so, then realize that he has pretty much just ruined both his and his ex's life. They both have to become old, mature parents. He has to provide child support, and she can't have the teenage life that most girls have. So in some twisted way, think of the bright side to that. You are still normal, you have your whole career and future ahead of you. As for the other girl, her youth stops here. She's done. Might as well be 30 years old. I am sorry I don't have much advice for your feelings with your boyfriend. All I can say is that I know you love him, but sometimes we have to let go of even the most important things in our lives. He doesn't deserve your love, your attention, or your time. He has done someting that has more consequenses then he even knows. Find a guy worthy of you. Find one who won't cheat. Who will love you for you. Who will devote his time to school, sports, life, you, instead of running off and becoming a stupid and boring adult because he got someone pregnant. He is stupid for not using protection. Realize these faults and try your best to move on. I hope you feel better soon.