Is the beating of students in Indian schools legal?
I got slapped by a teacher in 8th class, because some people who didn’t like me told her that I called her crazy. I thought my jaw got dislocated. Moreover, my class teacher yelled at me. It was illegal. I'm not going to write laws but yes, if your parents go to someone in a position of authority and complain - preferably aggressively - she's likely to face consequences. And it was a light slap this time, if teachers like that are not checked, they can get more violent with other students.You do not have to "get used to it" as people here would say. You go to school to learn, not to get battered. You can tell your teacher exactly how many ways she can be legally punished if you or some other student were to complain. Many teachers take out their own frustrations on students, physically as well as mentally.Anonymity : Your parents can request your headmistress or principal to be discrete, but your teacher might let it slip during gossip or something.I can understand not wanting to be the one to get her fired or arrested, but teachers are not supposed to be violent. If your fellow students tell you that it's no big deal, you need to point out that accepting oppression and violence at a young age makes you more likely to take unjust treatment as an adult.Update: So, as it turns out, a teacher “disciplining” students isn’t illegal. At least, it isn’t criminal (according to some case laws). Yet. However, I still maintain that disciplining should be left to the parents. Mine said,”Did you really do that?” My brother accepted that it was irrelevant. Depending on where you are and how much harm was done (and whether your parents are on your side), the teacher could face anything from a termination to criminal proceedings (only in cases where severe damage is done, not for the little whack on your head you get after making a smart comment.) Remember, quoting a section of the IPC should be sufficient to shut her up. Even sending anonymous letter to the school authorities should work. If you’re gonna do that, do it after someone else gets punished, so they don’t immediately suspect you. And have someone else write the complaint (or print it out). You can do a lot, but it’s very likely to highlight you as a deviant or miscreant and mess up your internal marks.Personally, I let it go. I treated her with respect afterwards and 2 years later, I found out that her son had some medical problem. I was really glad I didn’t do anything drastic.
I'm living under my father’s control and I can’t change it, because by law, he's my guardian. How can I be happy while I'm oppressed?
There is no single best way for being happy.Happiness is an illusion. You have to be attached to something to feel happy or sad. Let's observe the people around. 20-25 age group : They'll find happiness in girlfriend or boyfriend, decent job, graduation, travelling and hobbies. 25-35 age group: They'll find happiness in marriage, love, kids, job and decent money and regular achievements. or even being single.35-45 age group : Kids, work and self-identity, travelling and achievements. 45+ age group: They find happiness in being content and demanding less. Ageing gracefully and making others happy is in their agenda. Each age slot has some fixed area for the happiness. Sometimes when you pass that age slot, your happiness and criteria for being content moves to something higher. If you notice all the answers, there is no fixed age, achievement level and object which will keep you happy forever. Happiness isn't permanent. However, sadness and loneliness can be permanent. This is because their gravity to our lizard brain is stronger. That''s why we see people depressed (that includes me). What makes you happy? Is it spending time around animals (pets)? Is it taking pictures? or sketching? or singing or dancing or even acting in some drama? Is it having a wife or husband or kids? Is it spending time with friends, parents or family?Only you can answer this. Not me. Not your mom and dad or your wife. Read: What I learned about HappinessWe are all going to die, someday. No amount of speculation and theories are going to make life happy forever. You have to get some sort of purpose, which you have to take as burden so that weight of that purpose will wake you up every morning. You have to find the purpose for your journey. It can be simple as making others happy while you chase your goals. It could be being successful and then giving it back to the world. Please don't waste time in churning self-help book and reading quote-porn to make yourself happy. That is just delusion for temporary feel good time. You have to practice balancing things in life. You have to align selfishness, purpose and love with your life's journey in such way that everything is rightly balanced at least for moment. You're not going to get it right and you are going to screw it up like all of us do. There is no one best way for being happy. If there is then that is just a lie or someone else's perception of happiness, not yours.
My big brother caught me having sex?
I'm 15 and my brother is 22. He doesn't live at home anymore and he is in his last year of college. We are super close and whenever he comes home I couldn't be more excited! But my parents decided to spend some alone time and go on a vacation down to the Bahamas together, so they told Ben, my brother, to come back home for two weeks to stay here with me. I thought it was the perfect time to have some alone time with my boyfriend since most of the time Ben would be at school, his job, or his girlfriend's place. So while he was gone I invited my bf over who is 17. We have been active for half our relationship so it wasn't a big deal. But when I thought we were home alone, appearently we were not. Ben came in my home to see Daniel, my bf, on top of me and us fully naked on top of the sheets. I was moaning and telling him that "I like it like that" We were so into it that we didn't even realize and so we kept going. I was so embarressed when I saw him in the doorway. Next thing I know Ben is yelling at Daniel saying, "Get the **** of my sister!" I was soooo scared. I started crying and saying that I was sorry. Ben kept yelling and saying how he was dissapointed in my actions and he thought I was smarter than this. (which only made me cry more) It turns out Ben had came home early with his gf, Hayley, so we could go out to eat. So Ben pulled Daniel out to the living room and I was crying in my room. After Daniel left Ben came into my room and was saying how dissapointed he was in me and he had no idea that I would be sexually active at my age. I was so embarrassed. I kept crying and saying that I was sorry, but he said that he didn't want to hear it. It's been 5 days and Ben is having Hayley stay over here too so that I can be watched and so Ben won't really have to talk to me. . . I guess my question is, does he have the right to ground me since he's not my parents? And what can I say to him so he won't tell my parents? How can I make him talk to me? Please help
Can a parent get a restraining order on behalf of their child, against a grandparent?
Lets say the one of my children's grandparents exhibits erratic and explosive behavior. when they get mad the blow up and act irrationally, screaming at the top of their lungs and slamming doors, ETC....while this person has not harmed me or my children physically in any way i do not want the kids around this person. they have, i've been told, been previously committed to an institution and i am fearful for the kids well being. is this enough reason to get issued a restraining order, or can you even get one against a grandparent on behalf of your child? im not so much worried about them coming near me... i just don't want them near my kids!! also would the children's father have to agree to this for it to be effective?
My dad keeps insulting me. Help!!!!!!?
Sit down with your Dad and talk to him how you feel. You are not dumb. Do not let anybody tell you that you are. He has no right to make you feel bad. Your dad should protect you and give you more encouragement rather than bullying you. Did you talk to your mom about it? Do not be afraid to tell them how you feel. Self confidence is very important to you right now. If your dad does not listen to you then take it to the next level like your pastor or an adult that you could trust, or report it to the police. That is mental abuse.
What is the appropriate course of action when you witness a child under 6, in tears, being smacked over and over by a guardian at the store?
You should call 911. If possible, get some video on your phone. When you think you can, if you think you can, quietly, diplomatically go up to the person and say, “Your behavior is inappropriate. You need to collect yourself. Everyone is watching you. Take a deep breath in, let it out slowly and whatever you do, don’t do anything sudden. You will attract the wrong kind of attention, okay?” This will lead this person to think you are on their side when in fact what you are doing is stalling for the authorities. If their is a place nearby they can sit, invite them to sit. If you have a mint or a stick of gum, offer it to them as the agitation with the gum or mint will calm them. Sit between them and the child. When the authorities come in and they want to bolt, tell them to remain still and not attract attention. Wait for the authorities to come near and then stand up and tell them, “Over here, officer. I am the one who called.” Look them straight in the eye and with determination. If they start to rise, say “Don’t even think of moving. The only thing to help yourself right now is to remain very still.” Then do everything the officers tell you.
14 and pregnant. How do I tell my parents?
First thing is honestly ignore a lot of the answers because I'm sure you will probably get a lot of rude and inconsiderate people on here! I was 17 when I was pregnant with my first daughter. Not as young as you are, but still I understand how hard it is and I've been there. I would tell the father first and see how he feels. It's going to be easier to tell your parents if the father is going to stay in the baby's life and help support the 2 of you. Just sit down and tell them. Don't hide it for too long or they won't trust you. Know that they will be very upset and disappointed, and you have to understand where that's coming from, honestly no parent wants to see their daughter pregnant as a teenager because it makes your life much harder. If you have loving parents who have generally been there for you no matter what then they will most likely support you and help you through this. But don't expect them to be happy about it or accept it overnight, it will take time. Good Luck honey!!!