12 year old girl - Paranoia, Anxiety and Depression stressed out and in tears?
The first and most important thing right now dear is to get yourself stabilized emotionally and mentally. Forget about everything else for awhile because nothing is going to go well until you are mentally healthy and balanced. You can and will get back to your studies later. Put them aside for now and work away at them as you feel you can.....I have to say that I am really surprised that your parents or school teachers have not noticed this in you after 5 years. Have you not mentioned this to anyone at all? Start now. Talk to your mom and/or dad, aunt or uncle, a friends mom, someone who is aware of mental illnesses and will help you, and do not stop trying if no one listens. Call your doctor and go, but stay safe always. Call the help line where there are many people trained who will listen and help you. No matter what, you have to deal with this and anything else you are keeping secret within yourself. You can also start keeping a journal and write about your feelings, thoughts, and anything else that may have caused you pain of any kind. You are also right. This will not get better and it may get worse, so put this down as the priority in your life right now. You can with some help, feel so much better in a few months, so do not think this will continue forever. Do whatever you must to make someone you trust listen to you and do not hold back anything. I will also share with you that I am right now going through very similar things with my grand-daughter and what I have mentioned here has came from teachers, counsellors, and social workers. Take care, and I so wish you much wellness, and a lifetime of contentment and peace.
My 12 year old son wet his pants in a haunted house. Can I sue the haunted house?
On Halloween, my son went with friends into a haunted house. It was supposed to be fun, but it was too scary. They had witches and ghosts as you'd expect, but they jumped out when no one was expecting it. My son was so terrified that he soaked the pants of his pirate costume. All of his friends and many other people saw. Now he is the butt of jokes at his school. I feel that I should be able to sue the haunted house for his pain and suffering. Would I have a case? And how would I go about taking them to court? (Assuming that they won't settle out of court.)
What are the consequences of getting fired in a job? Does it affect future career possibilities?
To the extent that it takes an emotional toll on you, it's not fun to be fired. That's why some people prefer to quit in such a situation.Getting fired without cause has legal consequences for the company. In nicer terms it's called being "laid off" and it comes with severance packages.Getting fired for cause (with a proof of bad performance evaluation history) is less painful for the company doing it. For the employee, it simply means you're leaving because they want you to leave. There is no "global" / "national" permanent record (unless you committed a crime). If a prospective employer calls your previous employer, the previous employer is at risk of being faulted for slander if they mention that you were fired. In the worst case, they'll say "no" to "would you hire this person again?", which can speak volumes.The area that's most difficult is coming up with good references after getting fired, because it's a somewhat visible event. There are ways around that, such as saying that you quit the company because it wasn't a fit, and you prefer that the prospective company contacts your second previous employer for references instead (it's not illegal to make a white lie about this).Sometimes simply knowing that getting fired is not the end of the world can reduce from the anxieties causing it (prevention). So know your rights: Termination is like a break-up. It's not fun. People won't be praising you anytime soon. But it's not going to really affect your next relationship; as long as you start with a fresh attitude and leave baggage behind.I've never been fired, but I've sometimes been anxious about speaking up to authorities at work. So I've researched the above by speaking with or reading material by HR professionals.
What is the big deal over gays serving openly in the military?
I wholeheartedly agree. It should not be a big deal. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and it is not a choice. The rationale behind DADT is that it allows the military to focus more on combat and not harassing the gays. The premise behind this rationale is that some soldiers can be really bigoted. There are some really dumb people there, and they tend to be the machismo, overly aggressive type. They can be quite cruel to others, including gays. But as you say, if that is the case, they should just impost harsh penalties against sexual harassment (harassment against gays IS considered sexual harassment). Jeff S strengthened my argument by showing how bigoted he is. I don't know how people can grow up so horribly to think this way. Jeff assumes that male-to-male affection is seen as whimpy. It is not. It has no better or worst impact than seeing a man and a woman show affection. Maybe Jeff sees it as whimpy, but it is WRONG to treat gays differently. I never served in the military, but gay people are entitled to the exact same rights as straight people. This is about ethics here. Not allowing gays to serve openly is like not allowing a certain race in. That is wrong. So is not giving gays equal rights. And to that rez guy, you make your own argument look dumb by using such offensive terminology. Do you not know that the term you use is extremely offensive? Or did you just not care? Gays aren't people to you, are they? Whatever your views are, you are required to keep your language consistent with Y!A rules. Do you think using extremely offensive terms does that? No. EDIT: Being open and not hiding sexual orientation does NOT classify as flaunting it. With DADT, it was OK to say that you are straight, but not OK to say that you are gay. That is pure injustice and it is pure wrong. It is really that simple, and takes little intelligence to understand. It has no impact on the effectiveness of the US military. Being open to the fact that you are gay has no impact on the effectiveness of the military any more than being open about the fact that you are straight. Lastly, being gay does not have anything to do with having beef. Nice try though.