Can a single mother give her child up for adoption without the father's consent?
If she gives birth in another state, does not put the father's name on the birth certificate, and denies knowing who the father is, she will probably succeed in placing her child for adoption without the father's consent.When the birth father is known, it is still possible to place without consent, but the details will vary by state.My son’s birth mother was angry at the birth father, because he had not been in contact with her during her pregnancy. The birth father then refused to sign the papers to terminate his rights. In most states, the birth parents cannot terminate their rights until after the birth. In Rhode Island, the birth parent rights can be terminated after six months for lack of support.So his birth mother didn't terminate her own rights, and she fought the birth father in court for her right to make her own plans for her baby because he didn't support her during the pregnancy or in the six months after the birth. The judge was very clear that the birth father had rights, and she could not make plans without considering his rights. The judge subpoenaed the birth father to appear in court to present his side. The decision went to the birth mother, who placed her son with us.
Can adoptive parents give up their rights?
Usually, when adoptive parents give up their parental rights it is considered a disruption, that is, the adoption has failed and the child can now be adopted by another family. This is a very bad situation for the child, to lose another family, and to have their "new forever home" just be another train stop on the railway of their childhood. It is also difficult for the adoptive parents, for sure, but the harm is to the child.I have seen several children end up in state care, but none of the adoptive parents chose to terminate their parental rights. They kept the hope that they would be reconciled with their adopted children, usually when the children matured more, or received counseling. I do not know what percentage of adoptions disrupt.
How can I give my 12 yr old up for adoption without being charged for child abandonment, in the state of Oregon. Shes mentally disabled?
We have received in house services. I spoke to an attorney who had a pro bono meeting with a social worker and heard my plea of needing assistance to take care of my child and wish is to stay in home with support. I now have in house therapy with her 3 times a week and 1 day a week out of the home. Thank you everyone for the advice and I know my question was harsh but I was at my wits end of what to do when no one had answers but judgement.. not even meaning on here. Thank you and take care :)
How easy is it to give your child up for adoption?
I cannot speak from my own experience, but can speak from two friends who gave up their children at/near birth and have shared their heartache with me.One has been searching for her birth son for her entire adult life. She gave birth at the age of 18 and gave him up. She has registered with adoption sites listing her search. She has contacted the agency where she gave him up three days after birth, and they cannot release records, they can only make her info available if HE contacts them for information. She is tortured by the loss. Although she knows it was the right decision, it is a hole in her heart that she lives with every day.The second example is a person/adoptee I learned was my relative through a DNA test. I am a member of Genealogy, Family Trees & Family History Records and had my DNA test done, just out of curiosity. Years later, after this test, I had someone get in touch with me who was demonstrated to be a relative (through his DNA) match to me. I helped him sort through the various possibilities and was able to figure out who his birth mother was. I confidentially reached her and she was very happy and relieved to find him. She also had given birth at age 18 and gave him up for adoption. After I put her in touch with him at his request, they were able to successfully reunite and have met their extended families and maintained contact.I can only imagine the anguish that a birth mother goes through giving up a child. The not-knowing, the imagining, the hoping, the trusting, but all the while having that hole in your heart; that missing part of you that is out there somewhere, hopefully having a better life than you would have given them. Very hard.
My ex gave our baby up for adoption without telling me. can i get her back?
The child is four years old....you left it too late. You don't get to be a bad father and allow someone else to adopt your child...and then years later decide you want the child back when you cleaned up your act. The child is legally adopted....you did not put your name on the birth certificate and you did not go to court to have your paternity confirmed...and it is too late now. The adoption is final...you have no rights...and you cannot undo this. And to be honest, do you really think it is fair to take your child from the only home and mother she has known to live with you...an unemployed ex-con? She has a home now...a good one....and you can't even provide for yourself, much less your former daughter? Man up....get your life right...and then after you marry, have another child as this one is gone and there is no way you will ever get her back. Good luck and God bless.
Do most birth parents name the child they give up for adoption or do the adoptive parents do that?
We met our son’s birth mom about 2 months before he was born. She had a girl name picked out that she felt very strongly about and for a boy she asked that her last name be his middle name. While we were wiling to work with her to name the baby, we really did not like the girl name she had chosen and were relieved when an ultrasound soon revealed that the baby was male. It seemed like a good sign that her last name is the same as my husband’s middle name.We shared boy names we liked and deleted names she really did not like. She shared names she liked, and we let her know which we liked and didn’t like. Honestly, we didn’t care for many of the names she picked, but I wish we had because we did want to come to an agreement. We finally all agreed on the first name, but she wanted to spell it uniquely, which we really didn’t want. In the end on the birth certificate, she did list his name with the correctly spelled first name, his middle name and our last name. Not only does that make it easier on paperwork, but we can honestly say that we all chose his name together.
Can I put my child up for adoption without father's consent?
We're unmarried in Oklahoma and the father is just really not a good person. I'm worried he'll hurt me but he hasn't done anything physical yet so I can't charge him. The threatening texts aren't enough according to local police. Well I'm pregnant and I was wondering can I legally give the baby up for adoption to my mother then adopt my child back to relinquish his rights? He refuses to give up rights even though I told him I doubt the baby is his and the other possibility won't take a test. So what can I do?
Can you give up your child, at any age, for adoption for any given reason (e.g. you just don't want him/her anymore)?
You can, and it would help if you had another family for the child to go to. Many states have baby-safe laws, where mothers can leave their babies at hospitals, fire stations, and police stations.As for older children:There are stories of single mothers who, dying of cancer, have had their children adopted by their friends—they pop up from time to time on Facebook or on the evening news.I listened to a story of a widower, Will Ream, who ended up having his children adopted:And so Will came to a hard, awful conclusion. He needed to let them move on, without the question of coming home always hanging over their heads. And so after they've been living with their new families for two years, Will waived his parental rights. He let the families adopt his kids.Transcript | This American Life (use Ctrl-F to find his part of the transcript)I read another account, years ago, of a mother who could not find herself loving her son, and surrendered him to the state. (This was in a newspaper series about child abuse.) Nothing wrong with the kid, but she knew that she didn’t want him, didn’t want to go through counseling. The kid was a couple of years old and was swiftly adopted as she had terminated her parental rights. (Many children in foster care are unadoptable as their parents have not willingly terminated their rights, nor have the courts moved to do so.)Other times, the children were surrendered to the state due to inability to the parent physically/fiscally care for the child. There was a short while in one of the states, where parents were exploiting a “baby drop” law that didn’t have an age limit on it, and were leaving children at fire stations, including incorrigible teens and children on the autism spectrum. I don’t know how those stories turned out.Older teens, ages 16 and 17, may be emancipated, where they become legally responsible for themselves, instead going through the process of going through being a foster/adopted child.This, of course, is not legal advice, just what I have observed.