Can you start out in a non save situation and put yourself in a save situation by puttin men on base?
No, my friend. You cannot create a save situation for yourself.
Why would you put yourself in a situation you know is going to have bad outcomes?
Why would people put themselves in dangerous situations in which harm or even death are more highly probably than in more benign situations? Sometimes it’s necessary, and someone’s got to do it. Sometimes we end up being that someone for one reason or another, not necessarily by just being in the wrong place at the right time, but perhaps this is not the kind of situation you’re talking about.Situations in which I know that there’s a high probability of a bad outcome is one that I’m not fully prepared to perform. Maybe I expose myself to the new task knowing that I will certainly fail, but also knowing that I will learn something in the process that I can then take into a similar situation later where I will likely do better than my previous total failure, and I keep putting myself in similar failure situations until I no longer fail. That may be a difficult and somewhat traumatic way to learn something, but if it is the only option and I really want to learn that thing, then it’s a good option.
Has there been a situation where you put others before yourself?
I do it every single day. Nowadays, at age 55, I have learned not to gainsay or argue with people, even when they say idiotic, racist, bigoted, wrong, unfactual, injudicious, impolitic statements. I do this because:I don’t need the aggro of an argument or confrontationI am often gallantly trying to help them save social face, andif they are wrongheaded about something, they will almost certainly be dealt a comeuppance in the future, somewhere down the line… but I don’t want to be the agent of that change for them.often it may be a relationship I wish to preserve and sustain; I don’t want a petty disagreement to mar an otherwise important relationshipAt my age, you learn to “pick your battles”. I find that Millennials nowadays are very keen at confronting and accusing and arguing and fault-finding with others about the slightest of misunderstandings or offenses; when you get old, you learn that it’s often best to let many things “slide”… if only out of pure Machiavellian self-interest. Let someone ELSE set them straight and “fix their wagon”.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you need someone to be honest with you in order to heal?
Yes I have. You can put personal demons at rest without getting personal satisfaction. The "need" for honesty is more a desire for satisfaction and a demand that the world be the way we want it to be than it is a need to heal. You can move on and be open to better things. When you do this the universe will open up to you. But be careful not to carry fourth the desire to punish someone in your past: this desire creates the opportunity by providing countless repetitions of increasing severity, until we learn to let go of it. It's the compulsion to repeat the past, in order to overcome it. You can live this way but it's painful.
When facing a complicated situation, can you easily put yourself in another person's shoes and consequently see things from his or her point of view?
Yes. But some people have better facility for this. It is a skill as well as an innate cognitive trait called empathy. Also life skills and experience makes this easier for those who are challenged by this type of situation. The interesting thing to watch is take that same someone you have problems with into a room full of preschoolers and watch how easy they make it all seem.
Is putting yourself in uncomfortable situations a key to success?
Yes, it is key to success.But let me backup first, what is success to you? Money? Personal growth? Recognition?For the sake of this questions lets say it’s personal and career growth which can potentially lead to promotions, recognition, etc.If this is the context of the question we’re in then I would say YES then it is a key to your success.I’ll explain why.Think of it like this. You are in a job and you understand the necessary skills and requirements for that job. You are good at that job and you do well. You’re comfortable because you know everything and you’re good at it.Well, how will you get better if you continue just being comfortable?Slowly, overtime, you might learn something here and there in your comfortable state but it will take a long time.In order to be successful, in the context of the question that we discussed above, you need to put yourself in an uncomfortable situations to learn and move faster.Uncomfortable situations are significant because you learn something. For instance, maybe you do a presentation, it pushes you a little bit out of your comfort zone. Maybe you failed. Maybe you aced it. Either way the outcome is learning.So let’s say now you’re in your job and maybe once a month you put yourself in those uncomfortable situations (you do a presentation, you approach the CEO, you organize an event). It’s likely something that you don’t WANT to do, that’s what makes it uncomfortable. We never actually WANT to do uncomfortable things. That’s why people that push themselves to do those things will grow faster and be more successful.I hope this helps a bit, I try to put myself in uncomfortable situations every week. Here’s something I did last week. Let me know what you think. I’ve love to get your opinion on it.