Am I a too spoiled of a brat?
First of all, congratulations on your courage in telling about yourself and asking a personal question on Quora.Second: if your friends are around your same age, you will be called all sorts of things at various times. If you had no money, you might not be called "spoiled." You might be called "four-eyes" if you wear thick glasses, which happened to me at that age.Yes, you have some wealth and privileges that your friends likely don't have. And they may have things that you wish you had for yourself. That's all normal.If you receive, and you recognize your good fortune, and you don't behave as if you are better than others because of your good fortune, and you do your best to take care of other people, then you are doing just fine from my perspective. And with regard to how others see you, I'm going to point you to an essay written about 150 years ago by a brilliant man named Ralph Waldo Emerson. It's long, it's wordy, it's old-fashioned language. And it is some of the wisest language about the opinions of others you will ever read. In particular, I call your attention to the following passage: "What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude." The whole essay is here: Self-RelianceYou are probably doing many things right, and many things that you'll look back on and decide you could have done better. Just like the rest of us.Thanks again for sharing with us.
Am i a spoiled brat?__________?
Ok so this isn't like a thing for me to brag but people always tell me if i was snobby or b*tchy i WOULD be a spoiled rotten brat (they say that since i'm so nice they don't count me in any category like that) but some people say i AM a spoiled brat. i always try my hardest not be be and be open-minded to most everything. AKA i try to be nice and not piss people off and i am pretty chill and pretty much go with the flow. I'm practically 15 and for my 15th bday i'm getting a car (mercedes). i have a walk in closet filled with 4 times as many clothes as most of my friends. i have a boat (that is just mine) and my parents have a boat and the family has a sailboat and we have multiple canoes (haha random i know). i spent the summer in france so i could learn french for high school, and i go up to new york city about 3-4 times a year with my mom and we stay in the plaza. i carry a Versace to school as my backpack, and i have more shoes than rackroom does. i live on the water in a pretty good sized house. i have my own mac, and i have tiffany's jewelry (multiple pieces of jewelry). i have 2 credit cards 6 coach purses, 3 chanels, and 1 versace. i'm also a model. And i belong to a Yacht Club. ^^^My friend who is over at my house made that list so i didn't have so summarize myself into materialized words. But- i spend more time with community service and helping out at shelters each year than most people do in their entire life. My friends always tell me how loyal of a friend i am, and people are always telling me how sweet i am. My boyfriend told me the first time he came over that he thought i would be kind of poor because of how sweet i am. I don't brag about anything, and i'm pretty modest about saying anything about having a lot of money. I chose to go to public school for high school in an above honors program because i was fed up with bratty b*tchy snobs at private schools.
What is spoiled brat?
An unappreciative child. A child that doesn't know how to be grateful for things no matter how big or small. No matter if its materialistic or personal. A child that doesn't understand that the things money can't buy are most important. Don't get me wrong I don't believe it's any fault of the child. A parent teaches children these values based on what they see from you. I read something the other day that hit me myself as a parent. “ stop trying to give your children what you never had and teach them what you never knew “
Am I a spoiled brat?
You are not a spoilt brat. You showed consideration for your sister and her baby. You have had a very different upbringing from your boyfriend, but both sets of parents would have brought their family up the way they thought best, If his family insisted you stay at their home, they should have gone some way to accommodating you. I find it rich that you were told you wanted 'everything your way, because it seems to me that's what they want. If you talk to your family, they are likely to have a very different view. I am teetotal, but think I would rather be a member of your family, than your boyfriend's. If there is anything to be thankful for, it's that you have found out how you would be treated if you got married. Always the outsider. If you have children, expect to have little say in how they are brought up. It might break your heart that they won't be able to enjoy the sort of childhood you had. I think you should cut your losses, and move on. One day you will meet a man who is your type. Even if you don't it is better to stay single than be a Stepford Wife, which is what your boyfriend's family wants for him.The Stepford Wives - Wikipedia, the free encyclopediaTheStepford_WivesThe label "Stepford wife" is usually applied to a woman who seems to conform blindly to an old-fashioned subservient role in relationship to her husband, compared to other, presumably more independent women.The Stepford Wives (2004 film) - The Stepford Wives (1975 film) - Ira Levin
How can you tell the difference between ODD and a spoiled brat?
Being spoiled does not make one have ODD. This can be a very hard disorder to deal with here are some of the signs. I did a huge project on this disorder and if it is not treated it can lead to very serious and disturbing issues in the future. Good luck. The following are behaviors associated with ODD: Negativity Defiance Disobedience Hostility directed toward authority figures These behaviors might cause your child to regularly and consistently show these symptoms: Frequent temper tantrums Argumentativeness with adults Refusal to comply with adult requests or rules Deliberate annoyance of other people Blaming others for mistakes or misbehavior Acting touchy and easily annoyed Anger and resentment Spiteful or vindictive behavior Aggressiveness toward peers
What would you do if you had a spoiled brat child?
When a parent has a spoiled child, it is their own fault. The job of the parent is to teach the child to get along in life, to get along in the world. You have to start when the child is very young. They have to know that there are rules, when rules are broken there are consequences, and that is a fact of life. You have to teach them how to appreciate the things they have and they cannot do this if you buy them every little thing they want. What I would do is take everything away from the child and make her earn everything back. I wouldn't care how much she cried and whined either. It would take a lot of patience on the parent's part but it can be done. It's all about re-teaching.
Help me stop being such a spoiled brat?
That's OK, I have a long answer for you. :-) Adolescence involves learning about who you are. Self-knowledge can be painful, yet rewarding. Think about How bad would it could get if you didn't recognize these problems? These ideas might help even out some of the bumps you are feeling on the road of life: 1.) Stop obsessing about yourself. Avoiding mirrors will help stop feeding your 'narcissism'. Limit yourself to 3 brief checks a day to make sure you look neat and clean. 2.) You are a smart girl. Apply yourself to your studies. Not only will this divert your focus away from yourself, but it will provide a strong foundation for building the right kind of healthy self-esteem through genuine accomplishments. 3.) Teach yourself to become more thoughtful of others: Find an activity that is not about you, such as a volunteer program helping children, sick, elderly or dying clients. 4.) If you are religious, daily prayer is powerful. 5.) Continue to choose friends who are genuinely nice people and you will learn good behaviors from them, and their families. 6.) Spend time with your Mom and be kind to her. Focus on things that you can appreciate about her. The security gained from the parent-child bond is invaluable. There's an old saying, "You only have one mother, and you will miss her terribly when she is gone." When the time is right, apologize for stealing from her and find a way to pay her back, even if she tells you she has forgiven you. This is an important thing for you to do for your own character development. 7.) Get some professional guidance: You are smart to understand that your mother's problems are affecting you. Talk with her therapist, or if your mom has a social worker, explain that your Mom's issues are affecting you and you think you need professional help to get past some of this. There are usually resources to help you. Another option is to ask a school counselor for a professional referral through the school district. Maintain your privacy however, and only explain that your Mom's problems are affecting you. Don't get into details with a non-professional. Loose lips can create problems for you at school. Use your innate intelligence when finding someone to help you. Not every 'professional' is capable. Good luck.
Am I a spoiled brat? Should I be worried?
Are YOU the one who buys your stuff? If you are, can you really afford to just keep buying more stuff when you've broken the others? If so, I'll make a deal with you: Take better care of your stuff, and just SEND ME THE FREAKIN' MONEY!In other words, yeah, you're kind of spoiled. I can't really fault you if you have parents who consistently cover for you or you have enough money of your own not to care, but...The fact that you feel guilt tells me you're not completely lost! Here's the real deal: NO ONE can make you "feel". You feel or you don't. The danger is when you begin to not feel, when you sear your conscience beyond hope, so that whatever you decide to do that is "right" for you, becomes whatever is really right. THAT will be the singular division between a Pol Pot and a Mother Theresa, a St. Francis and a Pope Leo X (or a few dozen others). “If only it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?” ― Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, The Gulag Archipelago 1918-1956
Raising a spoiled "Brat"?
I do take tv, video games, computer, ect. away from her its just so hard sometimes. I mean for her grandparents even to my husband she is the perfect little angel that is what they see. (My husband gets both sides but mostly the angel side). I have been a stay at home mom my husband is in the military, now I work at her school. So we are always together I wonder if this might play a part in her behavior toward me. The past few years I have completely cut back on buying her things except holidays and birthday. She isn't always a brat I mean she is my baby (an only child) and has her moments. Its just take this past weekend we took her to see the lights at Dollywood and took her cousin (her idea) she acted like a 2 yr old waiting for a show it was soo embarrassing When your out in public and this happens what do you do? My hubby straighten her out by telling her he would take her out and spank her. People around us started looking at him like we abused her or something. I'm Lost