Concerned about friend/roomie with pcos?
So one of my roommates has PCOS (And has known about it for a few years now). When she came to college she gained A LOT of weight like 50 pounds in 4 months. I know weight gain is common for people with PCOS but my junior year of college she was also my roommate and I have noticed things about her eating habits. She is obsessed with soda and drinks like a Liter of soda every day occasionally diet but usually regular. I have seen her drink a 2 L bottle of regular soda in a day as well. I have seen her eat an entire box of oreos in a day, an entire pumpkin pie from the grocery store in a day, an entire peppridge farm frozen cake in a day, and the list goes on and on. She eat fairly unhealthy but the thing is I'm not sure she realizes how unhealthy? She always says that she knows she doesn't eat particularly healthy but not that bad to gain this much weight. But I'm seriously soooo concerned like we will go out to eat and she will get a drink and dessert with her food. Her actual meals are alright but she snacks and stress eats soo much and drinks so much soda its a bit insane. So basically I want to help her without actually being like "you seriously need to go on a diet". I always tease her when she drinks soda and am like "what happened to your diet soda rule" and jokes like that but I can't go any further because she will probably get mad. Since she's my roommate I see junk food wrappers and grocery store receipts and stuff when I pick up/take out the trash and I have accidently seen receipts where she has gone to the grocery store and bought chocolate, 2 L bottle of soda, and other junk food. So what should I do?? I'm soooo concerned for her health and I care about her (I'm also pre-med and obsessed with nutritional stuff and I constantly read her random articles about health stuff). I seriously spaz if I eat like ice cream for dinner and also had a small cookie for a snack the day before because I'm obsessed with eating as healthy as possible so this is so weird for me. Also one thing I have noticed is that whenever she goes home for like winter/spring break she always loses a bit of weight mostly because she doesn't get to eat whatever she wants at home because I'm sure her parents will get pissed if she eats junk food.
How do you thank a friend for being so caring and concerned ?
You bake them some Ginger Snaps. :)
How do I deal with an overly concerned friend? What could be the reason behind this behavior?
I have a friend that I've known for the past 3 years (we met our first year in college). He lives close by and I see him and his 3 roommates often, and I have come to be somewhere between an acquaintance and a friend to them. However, whenever I try to talk just to one of them he always inserts himself into the conversation. The other day I went over to their room and asked a roommate about the bike lockup area on campus. As the roommate was answering my friend walks across the room to see me and says "I didn't hear you - what did you want?" in an overly concerned tone. I replied and the roommate continued answering and then my friend provided additional, unnecessary commentary (such as; "yes, near that building"). The roommate also looked annoyed. They had other friends over, and my friend just stopped talking to them because he was ... concerned (I'm guessing) about me, and if I had a problem. Whenever he sees me he asks me how I am, but in an extremely irritatingly concerned tone (he is being sincere, it is just that his tone is too damn concerned). I love other aspects of his personality but this is just too much. The other issue is that he is a know-it-all. He is rude (unintentionally) and derisive when you try to debate any issue. Even if it really is a matter of opinion he will insist that he is right. How do I subtly convey the message that I hate his concerned tone? I can't just talk to him outright; although I'd love to he would not accept it and would ignore my existence and I would lose his and his roommates' friendships. Also; what could possibly be the reason for his behavior? A few of our mutual friends think that he is attracted to me (I disagree) but this concerned tone has only been present for the past few months.
Would you be more concerned if a friend announced they were training for an MMA fight or a boxing match?
MMA must be far more dangerous than boxing.The referee usually ends the boxing match if one boxer is too unsteady on his feet. In MMA that is just when the fun begins.Boxers are given a count when are knocked down. If they rise before ten, the count goes to eight before hostilities may resume. MMA fighters jump on fallen foes and frequently beat them into utter unconsciousness before the referee steps in. Very few boxers are knocked out as brutally as MMA fighters are.MMA is conducted with smaller gloves, meaning more impact delivered to the head.MMA fighters are allowed to kick. A kick to the head is far more powerful than a punch.The addition of grappling introduces to MMA the possibility of being choked unconscious, and having the muscles and tendons in the arms and forearm ripped to shreds.I would advise my friends to stick with safer sports, like boxing.
I am very concerned for my friend's mental well being...?
My good friend is exhibiting some worrisome behavior that leads me to think she may be losing her mind. I've left a message with a psychiatrist to call me, but he is out of the office and will call me when he returns in several days. So, in the meantime: what should I do? here is the situation... I am not ruling out schitzophrenia, but have reason to believe that isn't necessarily what is wrong with her. hard to say really, but her behavior is paranoia related. She holds down a job and is a responsible functional person. She just always had problems with being a little paranoid. I chalked it up to drugs she did way back in college, and thought little of it. (b.t.w. she doesn't do drugs now), About 2 years ago she went through a traumatic, life altering experience. I don't feel comfortable going into detail, I'm sorry. The paranoia then went from mild and unnoticable to really bad. Some other things added to that until she was always paranoid about something. But just in the last few weeks I became really concerned. She's become convinced her and her family are in extreme danger. She started pushing me away, being uncharacteristically rude, and when I would call her she'd be very hostile and say things like "if anyone is recording this conversation, you should know that it's illegal". She says someone betrayed her, someone she knew, and she doesn't know who. She says she can't talk about it with me ever. When I asked if she thought it was me, she said she didn't know who it was. And there's been other equally alarming behavior just like this the last few weeks. She is clearly beside herself and freaking out. But it seems that she tries to remain as calm as she can and see to her responsibilies. But she is convinced she is in extreme danger, and acting really very weird. I need to know what I should do. At this point I don't know whether she'll talk to me again or not. I left her a message about an hour ago. I can call her mother I guess, but maybe that would add to her paranoia? Then, I would need to know exactly what me & her mother could do for her, anything? One last thing, is she potentially dangerous to others? should I actually worry about myself or someone else? If she thinks that someone is trying to hurt her or her family, could she try to hurt them? Thank you sooo much for any advice or help here for me & for my friend!
My friend is boleamic im concerned about her is there a safe way help.?
ok well she has to be boleamic belive it or not because she has this acid problem yeahh long story but her doctors said she has to trow up a serten amount of time or come in to get her tummy pumped and i was wondering is there a safe amount of days when to throw up without like killing yourself. im just concerned for her even tho this is fro medical reasons
My friend uses Meth & I am very concerned for his well-being. My doctor tells me to be careful & don't become codependent. What does she mean by that?
She means dont become involved with him in a way whereby a negative symbiotic relationship develops between the 2 of you. More specifically it means as it states he is dependent on you and you on him. Practically this could take many forms but the common and obvious ones involve you enabling him by giving him money or help of some kind of which only prolongs his addiction. He is dependent on you for the money and you become dependent on him in a strange way to become his saviour . This usually happens thru some sort of psychological manipulation on his part but without even knowing how it happened you find your self feeling sorry for him and pitying him and becoming his knight in shining armour by giving him what he wants even though u can see inevitably that it will do no good in terms of his ultimate salvation. The second scenario involves you somehow trying the drug with him and forming a relationship based on acquiring and using the drug. You become dependent on each other to achieve this and find yourself in a situation whereby you enable each other with any idea of giving up not being given any traction .This actually happens more often than u think. I think u should watch how u interact with him closely and make sure you dont take steps toward this happeneing. This would mean never taking the drug and never giving him money or help (even a lift in the car to see his dealer)with regards to his addiction. If you want to help always keep a safe distance. If i were you i would organise an intervention and possibily trying to get him into rehab but if that doesnt work nor any other reasonable effort to help him to get better then i would honestly wash my hands of him and let him know you are doing this and are only willing to reengage with him on any level only if he is clean. Be careful thats all i can say . Once the drug takes over they are barely recognizable in terms of who they were before using and become monstors who cheat lie steal and basically do anything to get their nxt fix. How do i know this…i used to be that guy unfortunately.
How can I show my concern for a friend who has from bipolar?
(I’ve never before commented on a Quora question, so I hope you’ll consider that in evaluating what I have to say. This is important.)I have lived my entire adult life with depression. But it was only after my October 2012 suicide attempt that I heard my diagnosis of bipolar 2. I learned about bipolar in general — higher highs and lower lows on the natural range of mood — and how it must be managed. Fortunately, with drugs and therapy it CAN be.“How can I show my concern for a friend who suffers from bipolar?”At the risk of over-parsing, I will parse the question.I’ll start by adding to another comment. Don’t start with an assumption. Only if your friend has shared his or her diagnosis should you engage. Bipolar is a medical condition, and it would be wrong to offer advice/sympathy/concern on the basis of an armchair assessment.If, however, your friend has received a diagnosis from a physician and shared it with you, then and only then…Ask.I have been open about my condition, including writing about it on my own blog and other websites where thousands of people read about it. Other people might have tiptoed into the public realm. Tread gently.Here are things I could imagine being OK (for me):“What’s it like?”“Is there anything I can do?”“Is it scary?”“What does the medicine do?”Finally, don’t think in terms of “suffer.” I endure, I work, I take my meds, I learn. But I don’t suffer.
The difference between being a concerned friend and a nosy nag?
Ok a few months ago I posted a question about how to help my emotionally abused friend. I thank those for answering my question. Now I have another question about the same friend. She has found a new guy now and dumped the last one. But now this guy has a 7 month old son and he is trying to get partial custody. Thing is that even the guy may be better than her last boyfriend that pressured her for sex and then pretty much didn't care about her. I'm wondering if I should jump into this new relationship with her and tell her to be careful with this guy too. Because my feeling is that he is still such a new father, that he would need to spend more time getting to know his son. And may not always have time for her. And though she says she understands and all I don't think she does really. Besides that she has to take into consideration that the guy is still friends with the ex. He isn't just a guy with a kid he doesn't get to see that often. So any advice on this would be great. Thanks.
My best friend is concerned for my mental health, because I cut.?
My best friend is trying to convince me to see a therapist or counselor of some sort. I cut occasionally and am semi-bulemic. I don't know what good going to see a therapist will do. I don't like knowing that my cutting hurts him, but I like how cutting makes me feel, and I don't see the point on being put in therapy either. I'm only 16, and if I went into therapy, my therapist would inform my parents that I cut, and I would do anything to keep them from finding out. What should I do? I absolutely refuse to talk to my parents, so don't advise me to do that.