What are the pros and cons of using Craigslist for casual encounters?
Four cons that I've discovered, from a straight male perspective. First one: Sometimes it's almost as if there are no other humans on CL cas besides me. It's often fully inhabited by bots who sometimes post very realistic-looking ads in order to get you to engage in an email exchange. At the end of the exchange the other "person" sends you some weak-ass message like, "Oh I'm nervous about meeting in person, please go to this link [insert spurious link here] and get verified so I know you are real and not a killer."Second one: The listing page is updated by CL every fifteen minutes, so they say. But I've noticed it sometimes takes half an hour or more for a posting to appear on the list. You can refresh the listing page once a minute for a half an hour (there is a browser add-on for that in Firefox), finally see a new listing, and find out according to the time stamp on the listing that it was posted 35 minutes ago. Third one: There are a lot of unrealistic expectations. I can't tell you how many times I've browsed an ad that looks good until you get to the part where it says something like, "Must be well hung, sorry no one under 9 inches considered."Fourth one (and this is perhaps the most obvious one): If you are a man seeking a woman (m4w), you stand almost no chance of being seen. That listing page is completely packed. To give you an idea, I just now took a look at the listings pages for my area. At the top of the page it tells you how many ads there are for each category. On the w4m page (women seeking men), it says, "1-100 of 270". On the m4w page (men seeking women), it says "1-100 of 6651". In other words, 270 women seeking men, and 6651 men seeking women. And of the 270 women seeking men, a huge number of them are bots (see point one).Nevertheless, the human sex drive is strong, so you persist anyway.
Messing around with a guy thats engaged.?
well messing around is very vague that can mean anything frmo making out to sex, but im going to assume the worst lets just say you had sex, and here are some of the pros and cons Pros: you get the satisfaction of knowing your more desirable than his own wife you get a nice man Cons: you will be thought of as a whore if people find out you will be ridiculed by the wife, and you would be hurting someone very deeply You are breaking up a relationship of love you are making things complicated for everybody you shouldnt be messing around with anyone who is married or engaged EVER once the ring is on the finger, their off the market unless they file and get a divorce
Getting married after high school?
It depends on the two of you. If you honestly feel like it's a good idea in your hearts then I say go for it. I got engaged young, 18 & my senior year of high school to my 23 year old fiancé. I got a lot of shock, anger, excitement, mean glares, and many things were told to me that made me cry but most of those things came from my parents. I've been engaged for over a year because WE felt like it'd put us in a better position financially and me emotionally (because of family illness and problems I've had a rough year) if we waited. Honey getting married young isn't the best thing for everyone. It depends on the maturity of you both and the maturity of the relationship... and yes you can be engaged and even married couples might not have a mature relationship. How much has your relationship with stood? When the going gets tough you (or she) can't be like "Oh well uh bye now" you have to stick it out. In today's society we mature slower in a lot of ways then in the years past like when it was common to get married straight out of high school. However relationships, I feel and my mother (who was married in the early 70's) agrees, are harder. We also are like "Well I'm leaving now". Just take a look at this marriage and divorce section. So many people are asking about divorce and its rate is rising every year. Why is it so easy for us to fall out of love? But I digress. . . . I'm just saying that you have to look past this year, next year, or the next 5 years, think about the next 25 years. When you're young you have special circumstances and honestly you need to both talk it over and see the "pro's" and "con's". It probably wouldn't be a bad idea to read up on the statistics of marriage... especially those of young marriages. Statistically young marriages don't work. This I don't understand because by today's average my parents were young (21 & 23) and they've been married 35 years and I know many people who have done the same thing. My aunt married in the 70's at 16 and they've been together 31 or so years. My friends parents got married at 18 & 21 and they've been together 28 years. And I strongly encourage you to talk to your family about this, although I'm sure they will have a reaction much like my own did. Good Luck
Why do so many male prison inmates engage in homosexual activity, but don't identify as homosexuals?
Being in prison is like being in Vegas: What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.There are several reasons for homosexual behaviior in prisons. Most of these reasons have nothing to do with being a homosexual, although some do. I worked in a prison in Georgia which housed deathrow inmates as well as lifers and everything between so I saw this behavior everyday . . . whether I wanted to or not.One reason men engagged in this type of behavior was for protection. These guys just wouldn't survive on their own without being eventually raped. Having nothing of material worth to offer, sex was the only thing they had. Let me tell you, a man in prison being raped by someone who is vying for dominance is brutal, more brutal than that of a man who willingly "gives it up."The culture in prison is like this: you are either in charge. or you're not. In order to get respect, you had to use what was available to you and that would be force. The quickest way to demean a guy is through man on man sex, i.e. rape. So homosexuality was used as a tool to gain respectability.This type of homosexuality is the same type which is evident in a pack of dogs. Anyone who has ever raised dogs or has many dogs knows that one will be the leader of the pack. To show their dominance, the leader will "show" homosexual tendencies. The dog isn't a homosexual just as the ones in prison who is "respected" isn't a homosexual.Having said this, I'm not denying that there are individuals whom identify as homosexuals in and out of prison. These individuals may be conservative in showing there sexuality or may be flamboyant in demonstrating their homosexuality (as flamboyant as prison life will allow). Usually those who are flamboyant use their sexuality to their advantage by trading sex for favors or prison money (cigarettes, etc.,). And on a final note, it has been cleverly noted by Jim Davis, that "straight men facing the choice of whether to use or be used. The rules are suspended in prison regarding man on man sex."
What are the pros and cons of both, English Common Law and the Napoleonic Civil Code?
What are you talking about? Straight from the horses mouth: "As all persons are held innocent until they shall have been declared guilty, if arrest shall be deemed indispensable, all harshness not essential to the securing of the prisoner's person shall be severely repressed by law." - Declaration of the Rights of Man and of the Citizen, France 1793. The only criminal related act in that period, predating the civil code with 7 years, I think there was something else added in 1810-1815 not quite sure. Why do you bring the Napoleonic >CIVIL< code into the discussion when the code is a CIVIL code and NOT A CRIMINAL CODE, there is no mention regarding presumption of innocence in the Napoleonic Civil Code. For someone actively involved into the legal system like myself is the same as bringing up astronomy into an argument regarding genetics, what would a scientist say to you in such an argument? Excuse my passion but I just noticed there is a whole damn myth on the web started by people with no legal knowledge on sites like ehow and so on regarding this matter. To end another myth no democratic country in the world presumes guilt instead of innocence as clearly stated by the universal declaration of human rights in article 11: "Everyone charged with a penal offence has the right to be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law in a public trial at which he has had all the guarantees necessary for his defence." Now that you know you can help combat misinformation, do it next time you see it, I'd advise going back to the source you initially read that and spank them with a reality check.
What are the pros/cons of having a baby at ages 19-21?
You sound more prepared then some, but one thing I would like you to know is that your life will be put on a stand still when you bring a child into the world. That doesn't mean that you can not live your life, but for the most part it all goes to your child. If you and your fiance have any plans for the future besides children, then think of those first and try to accomplish them first, because having a child can put those on hold (and that might make you have regrets.) You want to be as prepared as you can be though. Since you are already engaged, maybe wait until you are married and then go from there. Maybe by then you will have your future planned out and have things already done and then starting a family can come into play. Yes, you two are young but sometimes that doesn't matter (depending on the person and their maturity level.) Just live your lives for yourselves right now and do the things that need or you want to be done, then come back and rethink having a baby. Good luck on whatever you two decide to do. If you do decide to start a family, be the best loving parents you can be and make sure you are financially and mentally stable!
What are the pros and cons of getting married young?
I’m not married, but my best friend got married at 21. I can tell you the cons and pros from what he told me about his experience.The pros:You get to have a loving family and experience family life quite early.You get to take care of someone who's very special to you (parents and siblings excluded)Assuming you're waiting for marriage to have children, you get to experience fatherhood or motherhood much sooner.You get to be closer to your kids age-wise.The cons:Depending on when you start - you won't finish your education in time!You're going to have less money, because you have people who depend on you, so you're going to be less financially stable.You're going to have more responsibilities early in life.You won't be able to do whatever the hell you please and sleep with as many people as you want.You're not going to be free to travel around the world without the fear of being tied down to one particular place.You're going to be more constricted in your home, not being able to act as you please.You won't have a lot of time to spend with your friends and lovers.Basically the biggest cons are lack of freedom, tons of responsibility and less financial stability.