Should I tell my boyfriend that I was raped ?
I was raped when I was 18 by a guy I knew in college. I felt so disgusting about myself and I though my life would come to an end . But because of my family that I decided to live for them. Then I met a guy and I thought that he really loved me. After a while when I trufully trusted him and I told him the truth that I was raped. He accepted it. However later when we broke up, he told me that no one in the world would ever accept a woman like you. I felt like he pretending to understand my pain but in the way he finally showed his true feeling about my past. After we broke up a few years later, I was introduced to friend of my friends . I really loved him, but I was afraid that he would not accept me , accept my past . Therefore, after 2 years of dating, we even thought about a family together. I finally had enough courage and told him about my past . He has gone . He couldn t understand my pain, couldn t sympathize for me. Sometimes, I just wonder if it is actually true that no one would accept me. I have been single for four years and everyone has been asking me why I m not dating anyone. I do have someone in my mind right now . But again, should I tell him or keep that secret only for me the rest of my life ?
My boyfriend told his ex about our sex life?
A similar thing happened to me, it made me feel very disrespected. He shouldn't even be talking to his ex and especially not bringing up sexual topics (I agree with what another person said about who knows what else they could be talking about). I'm not necessarily saying you should dump him over it, but if this is not just a one time mistake and he does things like this all the time I'm 100% sure you could find a guy who treats you better than that. You should definitely talk to him about it if you haven't already.
Was I raped in a past life?
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Can I sue my ex-boyfriend for posting our past sex life on Facebook?
I got into a fight with my ex-boyfriend and as a revenge, he posted on Facebook about our past sexual relationship. I know it was wrong of me to engage in premarital sex but yeah.. I know I did wrong but that's a different story. I was only 17 when we had sex but he was 20 then. I gave my consent to it and it all passed. But just today, he posted something about how he had sex with me on Facebook to humiliate me. Can I sue him? On what grounds? Please, I want justice! I am totally wrecked by this situation emotionally and mentally.
I cry after I have sex with my boyfriend?
It seems like your boyfriend loves you very much. In a normal relationship, sex is a healthy part of the relationship; but, in your case, you have negative feelings towards sex because of past events. Through the eyes of your boyfriend, it is okay to have sex in this relationship because he does not know the background you come from. My suggestion to you would be to tell your boyfriend about what happened to you when you were 11 that way he can understand your animosity towards sex. He has proposed to you, he wants to spend his life with you. Not because of the sex, but because of you. He will understand that sex is a hard thing for you and he will be more sensitive to you, when he knows your history. He cannot read your mind. If you go in the bathroom and cry and hide your negative emotions from him, he is never going to know how you actually feel. So, tell him. After telling him, you need to look inward. Sex is always going to be a part of your relationship with your boyfriend (fiancee, husband, etc.) and you need to find a way to come to terms with it. Chances are when you boyfriend is having sex with you he is "making love" to you. It is a physical manifestation if his love for YOU. What that babysitter did to you when you were 11 was not out of love. So you need to find somebody who you can talk to about this. See a therapist. Talk t a girlfriend. Talk to your boyfriend. But you need to make sure that you are completely healed before you can go forward. Things are going to get better, and I know that because you have already taken a step to get help - right here on Yahoo Answers. Stay strong.
Can I sue my ex-boyfriend for anally raping me 4 months ago? I want him to pay for therapy because it ruined my life.
You deserve justice, please have support and counseling available to you as you are suing because of the harsh justice system in the U.S.A. The criminal or civil court can cause additional trauma, even though there are victim advocates available to help you at the criminal level.I am not a lawyer. Anyone can sue for damages caused. Sometimes, they are not able to win. What happened to you is horrible and seems unforgivable to me. You are entitled to sue and he deserves to pay for what he did for you. It is sometimes hard to afford what a lawyer will charge for there services to help you.Ask yourself: Are you suing to obtain justice? Are you suing in order for him to pay money for the mental damages and cost to you? If you lose, will it mentally hurt you too much? It is sometimes hard to afford what a lawyer will charge for there services to help you, can you afford it? Will the retelling of the story and cross examing be further harmful to you?Sometimes the court system can be traumatizing to a victim of rape. I would not sue myself If it hurt me more mentally and I thought the chance of winning was small. However, it makes sense to sue if you would like to try to obtain justice. Sometimes suing and criminal cases can help one feel better and be curative, if the benefits outweigh in your judgment outweigh the cost.Like others on this post, I will point out that it takes very long to sue and you may have to have file criminal charges to provide evidence. If you can not afford therapy and live in the U.S.A. I would contact your local hotline for rape survivors and see if they offer free or reduced services to help get the therapy you need.
What do i do after my boyfriend pressures me into sex?
Not even taking into account what has happened in your past, your boyfriend was in the complete wrong by pestering you to have sex. Someone should only have sex because they want to, not because of pressure. Considering what has happened in your past, your boyfriend acted really terribly. It is just awful that he was that insensitive to your past and I would really suggest looking elsewhere for a relationship. He doesn't seem like a guy who really cares about you. He just wants some.
My boyfriend recently told me that he was raped. Should I break up with him?
He confided in you one of the most traumatic situations that someone can go thru and you want to know if you should break up with him?!?! Sweetie, this is a cold blooded question and I can't believe I'm answeing this. NO YOU SHOULD NOT. This is an ice queen move and if anything he should break up with you. The trauma sustained just by reliving it is enough and the fact that he confided in the person he trusts and loves the most as well as putting his vulnerability out there is heartfelt on my end. The lack of compassion and empathy on your part is quite disturbing. You need to be supportive especially now. You need to reassure him that he can trust you with secrets like this. If he can't trust or lean on you for support then he should be the one leaving you, not vice versa. My boyfriend was tossed from foster home to foster home getting molested, raped, beaten and starved. Watching his sister get raped…When he told me all of this I was honored that he felt so comfortable and safe to share this with me. It never changed my views, opinions or the way I look at him. If anything I love him more for being able to trust me with such a sensitive information. I would be so ashamed of myself if i even thought of leaving him after this. These experiences shape and change a person in so many ways. Myself, I have been raped 17 times, I used to be a drug addicted prostitute and for someone to judge me based on my past life is heartbreaking and just not fair. Besides, it has helped me to better understand and relate to my patients. In some ways victims are never the same and there will always be a piece missing that we will never get back. Please dont take the next piece of him away by simply walking out the door. I don't know him and I'm sorry honey but you don't deserve him