Does anyone regret agreeing to joint custody with Ex?
Rooter, there are really two questions that you have to ask yourself and answer honestly. The first one is what kind of father is he- is he a good dad? The second one is, do I love my kids? If the answer to these two questions is yes, then you need to change your view on this topic to one that focuses on what's best for your kids and not yourself. The kids need a dad just as much as they need you and you have to put their best interests first. If he is a good dad, you need to not keep him from his responsibility. He is hurt probably and regardless of the terrible mistakes he's made he probably knows that he needs them just as much as they need him and that he's thrown away almost everything but he needs to not lose this as well. I could be wrong about him but if he's a good dad that's what he's thinking. An ideal environment to raise kids is in a happy marriage but when that is not possible we have to think about what is best for kids. Two loving parents is better than two fighting parents. Try to consider this before you make your decision. Good luck!
Food Stamps with shared custody?
I have joint and legal shared custody of my two kids with my ex. Due to poor economy, I applied for and am now receiving food stamps. For my interview, I informed my worker that I did have my kids for half the week every week. He told me its ok, to add their names on my application because they are members of my household. Now my ex's husband has lost his job and she is complaining they are broke. She tried to apply for assistance and found out that I am already claiming both kids for my own household. She got extremely upset with me because the assistance program will not help her. She is threatening me that I am in food stamp fraud and she is going to call the county and tell them that I do not have rights for one of our kids. This is how we do our taxes, each of us claim one child for tax purposes. But I think gov. assistance is different. I claimed who lived in my house and I also informed my worker. So what should I do? I am still barely making ends meet (ex makes a fraction more than I do) I do have shared physical AND legal custody of both kids. I just applied first before she did. Can she claim me a fraud? I don't see how.
Ex-husband threatening to take me to court for custody of our 2 children.?
The children are 10 & 13. I am a single working Mom. I work 40 hours a wk & make enough money to take care of the children. I love my children & am a good Mom. I have the children with me more than 75% of every year since we've been divorced. My ex & I live in different states approximately 6 1/2 hour drive. He is deployed for a year every other year. We live around a lot of family which is good for my children. My ex is remarried & has a house w/ a pool & other things that might be attractive to my children. My biggest fear is that if he takes me to court & the judge asks the children where they want to live...that they will say they want to live with their father because he has these material things...not because they think it would be better to live with their father. They have a comfortable life here with me. I have coordinated my work schedule so that I can always be there for them. I am so afraid that because he has more money & a 2-income household that he will be able to get custody of them. Right now we share custody, but as I stated they live with me 75% of every year. I believe that he will follow through w/ going to court. First, let me state, I have never met his new wife...the children have met her twice. The new wife's son lives with them & he is an adult(18 years of age). If the children say they want to live with him, is it as easy as that for him to get custody of them? I am really scared I could lose them.
Ex husband threatening to call CPS on me to get his way?
my ex husband is constanly threatning to call child protective sevices on me either cuase he not getting his own way or hates my new husband.he see's the kids from 6pm till they go to school the next day once a week so about 3 hours of them awake.he wanted more visitation but only of our son not our 2 young girls the court said no.then he wanted a 50/50 split they said no due to the kids having no beds there and for the 2 young girls it would be not in there bast intrest being they have only lived with me and my husband now almost all there life and dad just started visitation within the last year.he is also mad cuase he has been unemployed for 3 yrs now and his child support is racking up he dont feel he owes child support cuz he says the man i married is fully capapble of providing for them yet at the same time hates him being such a big part of there life.now when he comes to pick up the kids he is always yelling at me swearing up a storm yesterday i had to just shut the door after he dropped off the girls cuz i am 40 weeks pregnant and just dont wanna deal with it at this point.i shut the door on him and he said ima call cps u dont open this door right now well i dint and he left.i have nothing to hide from cps my kids are well taken care of here so thats not a problem just the fighting he starts just picking them up what can i do? i also had to block his phone number from my cell due to him calling and saying call me back or u are gonna have a problem.is there anything i can do at this point?
Can CPS take my kids just because I'm homeless?
I live in Mississippi. I had my children removed in October of 2016 because we were in the process of being evicted from our apartment. We had just gotten the 3 day notice to pay rent, the day before we went to the emergency custody hearing. Despite the fact that even if we were evicted, we still had other places to go, so we wouldn’t actually be homeless, the judge sided with CPS. They have been in CPS custody ever since. That was the only reason they removed the children. We had food, running water, power, beds, and clothing for them. The house was clean, and my kids went to school every day. My oldest was a straight A student.We ended up not getting evicted, and still live in the same apartment we did when they were removed. Every court date there’s some other ridiculous demand that they want me to do. Every court date, there’s something else barring me from getting my kids back. This has been going on for over a year now. My next court date is in a month. CPS has done nothing they’ve promised they were going to do, and instead it has fallen all on me, with no help from the state. My lawyer is worthless, and I’m honestly about to fire her.
What are the two main reasons that government requires children to attend school?
1. From the earliest times in America, people believed that the idle mind was the Devil's playground. They believed in mandatory public education as a way of saving children's souls. 2. It gets them off the street and keeps them out of trouble. City governments and even many parents see it as 'custodial care', keeping kids occupied while their parents are at work. At the start of Summer, when kids get out of school, cities and towns notice a rise in petty theft, shoplifting, graffiti, vandalism, and other kid crimes.
What was it like to have a crush on your teacher?
I am a woman and nearly 30 years old. I first met Mr. C when I was in eighth grade. He was 24, and had just gotten married. And, I thought he was gorgeous! His wife worked as a nurse about 80 miles away. So, the newlyweds barely had time together because of their busy schedules. Just to clarify, he never gave me any reason to believe that he wanted anything more than a teacher/student relationship. He talked about his wife constantly. It was clear to everyone- even me- that he was very much in love with his bride. As a teenager, however, that made me even more attracted to him. The following school year, Mr. C was transferred to the high school. So, he was my ninth grade teacher. Still, he never noticed me. But, honey, I noticed him! After high school, I dated a former classmate but I still thought about Mr. C. My boyfriend and I broke up, and I eventually ran into Mr. C. We talked for a while, and he told me he and his wife had been separated for a while. His wife had been unfaithful. I asked if he needed a housekeeper. I needed a job and would have done anything to be able to be around him. I really thought he was something! But he said he didn’t need anyone to clean. Then he mentioned it would be nice to have a friend to talk to. I had just turned 19. We exchanged numbers and became friends. After a couple months, we started dating. This went on for a year. Then, one day he told me he couldn’t see me anymore. He said that his soon to be ex wife was deemed unfit to raise their daughter and yet she was threatening to take the child from his custody illegally unless he would take her back as his wife. So, he said he didn’t know what to do in order to protect his then three year old daughter. So, we split and they reunited. I am now happily married to my husband of five years and we have two children. I have run into Mr. C many times in our small town. He is still married to her, and they have had more children. Last time I saw him was about two years ago. It was the first time we really talked since our breakup. He told me that he has been miserable. I told him I am sorry, but we cannot revisit the past. I told him about my husband and children and wished him peace and happiness.