How come I don't have a lot of clothes..?
It seems like everywhere I know (friends, people in general) especially teenaged girls around my age, have sooo many clothes to the point where their closets are packed. How come I don't have that situation, I feel like I'm the only one that has nothing compared to most. People I've spoken with have said they own liek 50+ tops, 15 jeans/shorts, etc. Some even say that they are overfilled and need to sell them they have so many.. I wish I could say that about myself:(
Why does my mom insist on buying the same clothes?
So I went shopping a few weeks ago and picked out some super cute tops (4 of them). I wear one out with my fiancé and my mom asks to borrow it. I said sure that's cool she borrows it for a dinner night, I have no issues sharing clothes. Then the following weekend both her AND her friend go shopping and buy the same shirt as the one she borrows from me!!!!! I was irritated but got over it. Then then the other day I see her wearing yet another one of the shirts I got originally. It wasn't borrowed as I just saw my shirt in the closet moments before. At this point I'm upset. Really? Are you serious right now? Then today while doing laundry I notice hanging up in the laundry room another of my shirts. Thinking my fiancé hung it to dry I grab it bring it up to put away with the laundry and I realize that this was not my shirt as I am now looking at 2 of the same shirts. At this point I'm livid!!! I have no idea why it makes me this angry. We borrow clothes from time to time no issues but for some reason her buying 3 of the 4 new shirts I got angers me. They aren't even different colors they are the exact same!! I am 26. My mom is 46. The age thing isn't the issue. We cohabitate in the same household just fine. But this? This feels like a violation!!! I've been told it should be a compliment ect. I totally get that but this does not feel that way at all. How can she think it's ok? I've pointed out that it bothers me but she just said "so" with the whatever get over it tone :(
How do I convince my parents that I don't like the clothes they want me to wear and let me buy the clothes I want?
If you only need to wear it once, around people you don’t know - I might do it. If it’s a habit - print an article written by medical advisors which endorse your point of view (plenty of psychologists, psychiatrists, educators advocate your viewpoint)My mother made me wear shoes which I was laughed out of the school. I was constantly switching to my boots behind her back. There was a hat - that the teacher also wore, which I conveniently ‘lost’. She wouldn’t take no for an answer.So if that’s your situation, there’s always getting rips and stains, losing it, bleach in the wash, shrinking, just can’t find it, wearing something over it (and losing the thing later). Good luck.
Is it weird that a father lets his 16 year old daughter wear skimpy bikinis?
Let me tell you a story that just happened about ten minutes ago.One of my friends on Facebook is a beautiful nineteen year old young woman. She posted a picture of her face and just below her collarbone. You could see the tops of a tank top in the picture. Her father commented, “Cover up! As a dad I want to see you covered head-to-toe, lol. Next step: remove the nose ring!”I cannot even begin to express how fucking disgusting that is. You know what I immediately thought? “Wow, her dad is a creep, and a complete asshole.” Your mindset is just like his. Why did he think that was an appropriate thing to say? I wondered.First, she wasn't even showing skin in any way, but it's still the same sentiment. A man’s job as a father is not to be sexually interested or involved with his daughters’ business. It's not to police her and try to notice how sexual he believes she is being. That's so gross. A father’s job is not to hypersexualize his daughter.Fathers don't “let” their daughters wear things. They discipline them if they find their clothing inappropriate, but a wise person knows that nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate. Nobody “lets” their child be naked. Nakedness is a natural state. I wouldn't want my child go to the mall in nothing but a string bikini and would tell her that's a bad idea, but if she wants to go to the beach in it, that's her decision and her body, not mine. I’m sure that the girl in question is wearing the bikini in a “normal” setting. Her decision to wear a bikini should have literally nothing to do with her father.I wonder why you think it's appropriate in any way for a father to give his input about how “skimpy” his daughter is. Fathers have no special responsibility when it comes to their daughters’ sexual lives and it's frankly creepy as fuck that people seem to think otherwise.Lastly, unless you're this girl’s mother, keep your nose out her business. This father knows not to stigmatize his daughter sexually and he seems to have a good head on his shoulders in that respect. I'm sure neither of them need your approval. When we normalize dads being sexually involved with their daughters, girls like my friend have to put up with that humiliating nonsense and are treated like a possession, not a sentient human being. Let's get rid of the notion that girls are their dads’ properties, that they should be “given away”, that they should be sexually pure and sexually protected, and that they don't know what's best for themselves.
My dad yells at me for wearing leggings?
I'm 16 and a sophomore in highschool. So I wear leggings a lot, especially to school. I'll wear them at least three times a week. They match with everything and fit my legs nice. My dad always yells at me for wearing them and says I can never wear them again because they're inappropriate. He tells me to wear jeans. Honestly, I would, but jeans give me a muffin top. I have like six pairs of jeans and they're all cute but they give me a muffin top and the only thing I can wear with them is a baggy sweatshirt. ALSO, my public area like sticks out and it's really noticeable when I wear jeans. It's not as noticeable with leggings. I can't tell this stuff to my parents but that's why I wear leggings so much? I'm really short and it's hard for me to find jeans that fit me and don't give me a muffin top. I don't know what to do because my dad won't let me wear leggings
How do u convince your parents to let u wear short clothes?
Okay, so I'm Indian as well as my parents. I have gotta say, my parents are conservative, but Atleast a little better than others. When I was little, I was aloud to wear anything I wanted, weather it was shorts, dresses, tang tops, bikinis,etc. From the 6th grade, my dad stopped letting me wear skirts and shorts and such stuff unless it's for the gym, or field day, or six flags, or the pool. I live in U.S...where everyone wears shorts, and I'm the only e not aloud to. Even my other Indian friends that my mom knows are aloud. I'm not aloud to wear dresses above knee legnth,no skirts....and it's reallly annoying and embarrassing when ur st a party, and ur the Only one wearing jeans.i really want to convince them, instead of going behind their back, but idk how to convince..pleaassees heelllpppp me!!!! I reallly want to be aloud free
Teens: Do you like going shopping with your parents?
I want to as my mom if I can go shopping at the mall with her next time I see her. I haven't seen her in..Months, actually. Just talked to her on the phone. She's busy with her job and the person she works for she can't visit us. It's fun going to the mall with her, plus she understands me better and is more open minded then my other relatives. I don't see why a lot of kids don't like going shopping with their parents. Even if it's out to the grocery store I'm fine with it. Not so much getting dressed, getting out of the house and the aches of walking long distances for long periods of times, but the shopping part is fine.
Is it unfair that I'm 18 and my dad doesn't let me wear shorts?
Is it unfair that I'm 18 and my dad doesn't let me wear shorts? He will say stuff like “dont be walking around naked” and I get SO mad because its extremely hot where I live so of course if i’m going to be outside I don't want to be burning up in jeans! my shorts aren't even extremely short, nothing ever hangs out so I don't understand why he gets mad at meSounds like a First World problem to me.Now, if he criticized you for wearing shorts, but didn’t feed you, clothe you, and put a roof over your head, that would be unfair.In fact, if he didn’t criticize you for wearing shorts, but didn’t feed you, clothe you, and put a roof over your head, that would be unfair.I’m not saying I agree with your dad’s views. I personally see no problem with wearing shorts. But I’m not the one supporting you. 18 is a legal adult in the US. But if you’re dependent on your father for your necessities, you still are bound to live within his household rules (assuming they’re not abusive or otherwise criminal), even the rules you don’t like.I’m assuming you get enough to eat, have a roof over your head, and you obviously have clothes—even if they’re not your first choice of clothes. You even have a computer (or at least a cell phone) and an Internet connection.I’m thinking you don’t have it so bad.If you disagree, you’re old enough to get a job, your own apartment, and the shortest shorts you can find. Until then, I suggest you file this one under “minor inconvenience.”