How is it like to go dating with a single dad?
Single dads are usually diamonds in the rough...If you have ever seen a man fight for his kids you know how hard it is for a father to get full custody. I one time testified for a man trying to get custody of his kids during the divorce. She had started running around with a guy half her age, got a DWI, and was filmed by a private investigator doing something in an alley that looked very much like purchasing drugs...and this guy did NOT get custody of his kids. If that wasn’t it I don’t know what it takes for a man to actually get his kids.Any man who has full custody of his kids, in my book is an extraordinary man and likely someone I want to be friends with and potentially date.In my opinion what you should run from is a guy who does not live in the same town as his kids... I don’t care if she moved away with the kids or about any story about a job... get a job at a fast food chain or be a greeter at Sam’s just live in the same town as your kids and be involved.I have a friend who raised his 2 daughters on his own and the girls get him a Mother’s Day card every year. Way to go man!Hats off to single dads everywhere - keep doing you!
Would you date a single dad?
I had an opportunity to be in that situation, but I chose not to. My reasoning may be different from yours. I don't want to be with someone who has children. I want all of my man's attention, especially if they're going to maybe an amusement park and the mother wants to go, that would be awkward for me. I wouldn't be able to accept certain behavior. I want us as a couple to experience having our first born together. I don't want to join a ready made family. He made a huge mistake and left you for her, not look at him. I wouldn't take him back. He shouldn't be able to have you when he wants to. Sweetie think about what you want and don't want. Whats right for you.
Women: would you date a single dad?
sure..I have. What better way to see how a man will treat you than to watch how he treats his family.
What are the pros and cons of dating a single dad?
Digiones is harsh but right on the mark and you SHOULD be second as will a child you have together. The son only has him....my kids are first with me until we blend the families then the structure changes. I briefly dated a single father a few months ago who'skids were older than mine and were in and have been in trouble for drugs, vandalism...just stupid stuff,bad decision making on their parts. We talked about this at length and I knew I did not wanthis children, because they were older, potentially getting mine into situations where their futures would be compromised. He agreed so we parted ways. So in that instance we put the children first. In thefuture, if I date a single father, I will date one who's children are younger than mine. My children are 21,16 and14. My 21 year old is a single mom and works full time...drug free and she has her own apartment with my 9 month old grandson. My sons are on the school basketball team,get good grades are drug free and would be a positive influence to children their ages or younger. You have to determine what is best for your family and what will work and what will not work. Once you have decided to committ, you will have to present a united front so they won't learn to manipulate one parent against the other. I have had the pleasureof watching my son's interact with their dad's new wife and the child they have together and quite frankly, I would not be more proud of the way they handle themselves as a part of a blended family. The man I mentioned before once said any man would be proud to have my family become a part of his and would be a fool not to want us. Unfortunately, I have met only fools thus far.....
Dating a single dad- I do not have children, this is hard- help!
It's completely normal for him to behave this way due to the recent divorce. He's smart by not getting you involved so quickly. He doesn't know what type of "step parent" you'd be and it's not guaranteed how long you'll be around. Slow is good and respectful. How old is the child would be one of my questions. Not that it makes too much of a difference but if s/he's older it can be VERY difficult during this time to be introduced to ANOTHER woman. It's up to you at this point to decide if you're going to wait and take things this slow in order to be with this man. Otherwise yes, you're waisting your time. I am dating a single parent right now and it's incredibly difficult! Those kids will ALWAYS come first and it sometimes feels unfair. Sacrifices will always be made in the best interest of the child and can make you feel put on the back burner. Especially when you don't have kids of your own. There's a bond there you will never understand (so I'm told) but you have to try if you want to be in this type of dynamic. Best of luck on all accounts!
Dating a single dad that doesn't want to commit?
He like all single parents is a little hesitant about introducing you to the kid, most likely. That's just the feeling I'm getting. When you're a single dad, all your decisions are based on the idea that you're deciding for two. Not a single parent, but I have three buddies that are.
What would you do if you’re dating a single dad of 3 and 6 years old kids and he said, his kids are not ready to see him with someone else, my head told me to move on, but my heart didn't listen?
When I met my now husband, he was a single father of a 2 and 5 year old. We went on several dates, maybe 6 and had known each other for a couple months before I met them the first time (which was just a brief hello where he introduced me to them as his friend).By the time our relationship progressed to the point we wanted to spend the night together, he asked their permission if I, his friend, stay the night. In our case, the kids said yes. 2.5 years later we were married.But if the kids did say no, it would be important to respect their decision because it was so early on. The biggest thing dating a person with kids is understanding a child’s need for consistency. That being said, it’s not a great idea for him to carelessly introduce women as his girlfriend to his children. You have to be patient in these matters. If the kids are not ready to see him date, don’t act romantically toward each other in front of them. It doesn’t mean you can’t hang out, but keep in mind that these kids already had to undergo the trauma of watching their mom and dad separate. Furthermore, if you two were to split up after seriously dating and becoming involved in the kids lives, they may process that as another trauma. All in all, dating a person with kids is tricky business and both parties should be seriously invested in a future together before alerting the children of the romantic nature of the relationship.
Recently started dating a single dad of 2 kids...?
Making the comments "he looks forward to spending time with me. Plus he's looking to be married someday and I maybe the one or something like that." That is a bit creepy and way too soon to be talking like that. However at least he is honest & respectful. Meeting the kids so soon was not the worlds greatest idea though I imagine he wanted you to see the real him with his little ones so you knew what is what. Having said all of that.... be cautious, he might be showing you his good side and be hiding the wicked..meaning a sheep in wolves clothing, he could be a an abuser. Ask him why he and his ex split up, ask him if you can talk to her and would you doing a background check on him be a problem. If he says no to talking to the ex or doing a background check you need to walk away because he is hiding something. Being a step mom is harder than being the natural parent. These kids are tiny with hearts wide open. What ever you finally decide to do, do so now before they are attached to you, because if later down the road if you split they have to loose another mom.
What are the issues with dating a single father?
I think it's mostly down to what stage the woman is in her life. If you're dating women that are a little younger than you or don't have kids of their own, then yes, they probably are scared of committing to you. There's a reason that those women haven't had children yet, maybe because they don't particularly like children or don't have a maternal extinct or see children in their future. You have to remember that taking on someone else's children is a big responsibility and having a relationship with someone can be hard enough without extra baggage. You'd probably be more likely to find a serious relationship with a single mother, as she will be more understanding and open to your situation. But when it comes down to it when you meet the right woman, she will accept you and your kids and want to be a part of every aspect of your life. You just have to be patient and wait for that woman. Don't give up just because a few small-minded women have turned you down so far. Being a single father is something to be proud of and shows how much of a decent and committed man you are, which I'm sure a lot of women will love about you. Good luck and I hope you find the right lady for you one day soon.