Did I Lead Her On Accidentally

How do I stop accidentally leading people on?

Aha! I think I can answer that seeing how I am a recent “victim” of being led on.Basically, you need to be assertive and be very clear of what you want. If you don’t see a romantic partnership with a guy or a girl, let him/ her know clearly from the start. A number of reasons why this usually doesn’t happen.You enjoy the emotional attention/ company you are receiving. I know girls (especially single ones) who love to receive compliments and have someone adore them.You’re just too nice to everyone! In that case, please stop being so awesome to everyone around you and dedicate it to people whom you are really interested in.You are deeply insecure and require constant validation from romantic pursuers.That said, if you are treat everyone around you with an equal amount of niceness your mutual friends would not have remarked that you are “keen” on them. Hence there must be something you are doing (unconsciously?) that is being actively interpreted as romantic interest. Think about it! Was it the hugging? The cuddling? The drive out of the way to get latte with soy milk? Usually physical intimacy is a huge lead on for both guys and girls.Feeling guilty is natural since I assume the pursuer would have invested a considerable amount of time, money and emotions into you yet you did not reciprocate. At the same time, if the pursuer had a decent level of maturity, he/ she would have understood that rejection was part of the deal. Make it clear to them where you stand in this situation and how things will be from now on. Don’t keep a guy/ girl hanging or worse still, use them as a placeholder till the next better guy/ girl comes along. That’s just cruel.

I accidentally read some of my wife's mail and found out that she is thinking about divorce, even though she has never mentioned any issue to me. What should I do?

Ask her to make an appointment with a marriage counselor. But YOU make the call don’t just say something in passing and leave it. I want to call a counselor hon when are you free? Let’s sit down and make the call.Check yourself…. I know a person who is unhappy in her marriage, he does little or no housework, does little to care for the kids, wants to get a flip phone and a new plan to decrease her phone time (she reads non fiction books on her phone) and shushes her when he is playing video games online but stays up to 4am on weekends in their bedroom. So are you doing any of this?Also check your romance skills, take time out to romance her and love her. Don’t make sex the goal, make love your goal, bring her flowers, take her on a date, make her coffee in the morning, bring home her favorite wine. Take her on a picnic. You know all that stuff you did in the beginning.good luck.

What's it like to accidentally kill your own child?

Didn’t happen to me personally but did happen to a couple I was friends with. By the time I met them the child had been dead for decades but the guilt and pain lived on - and the obvious anger they had towards each other over the death of that child.They had a little girl who was maybe two, going on three. Something like that. Both parents were home that day. The mom put the little girl down for a nap and went about her duties. The dad was putzing around the house and then decided to drive into town to get a few things he needed. The dad went out into the the garage, started up the car, backed out of the garage, but when he did he felt the car bump up over something that shouldn’t have been there.When he got out to check what it was he discovered it was their little girl. She had somehow gotten out of the house without being seen and had crawled under the car. There had been a litter of kittens out in the garage that she had been fascinated by and after the fact it was figured she had probably crawled under the car while chasing a kitten.The little girl died right there, killed instantly by the car crushing her.I knew this couple back in the ‘70s. I am guessing this accident happened back in the late ’30s sometime. And it *was* an accident - but after 40 years you could still tell that the wife blamed the husband and the husband blamed himself and it was just a sad, sick situation all around.They had a big antique glass door display cabinet in the living room and in it was a memorial display for “Barbie” with a few silver framed baby pictures, her bronzed baby shoes, her silver cup and spoon and a lock of her hair.It was so sad. So sad.

What should I do when I may have accidentally led a girl on to like me?

This sounds like it's getting into delusional territory.It's normal to enjoy attentions, especially from the opposite sex. So it isn't uncommon to think that you may have lead her on. But now that you know what her feelings are, you need monitor your behavior. You don't want to get into stalker territory.If at all feasible, talk directly with her. You can prepare what you want to say, so you know all the points, and can be calm and practical. Any emotion is just going to charge the atmosphere even more, and could be encouraging. (Some people really love drama, this is the premise of many romantic movies - object of love doesn't realize what a great person the pursuer is, but some emergency or ridiculous situation shows them the truth,)Stay away from her. Don't feed her feelings with contact. If you need to, go to the men's room - she can't follow you there. Don't look into her eyes. If you have a coworker you can trust, this person can run interference. They can block her, sit next to you, call you so you can extricate yourself Put an immediate stop to all bf behavior. "Mary, please stop touching me, it makes me very uncomfortable.l" "Mary, stop giving me gifts, we are co-workers" Or just say no when she offers you something, and keep saying no.If there is a woman in your life you are interested in as a gf - now may be the time to develop that, and start talking about it. Talk about it a lot.If she has said that she likes a particular piece of clothing - stop wearing it until the situation has gotten under control.Repeat as necessary.