Did My Friend Somehow

I keep on dreaming about my best friend’s ex and we are somehow in a relationship, but whenever I even think of him or somebody talks about him, I don’t feel even a slight bit of affection. What does this mean?

That’s a hard one, well do you love him? DO you want to be with him? is it just a sexual or Hormonal desire to be with him? Maybe you want kids? if you don't feel affection from a social view and don’t act openly about it doesn't necessarily mean you don't actually have no affection, some people just fantasize more as their imagination is larger and tend to be stuck in their own world. Dreaming about another person is unique, firstly it starts by having knowledge of that person and then it uses your ideas and opinions and materializes your regrets, fears and whatever is pulling you down at the time to make a dream based on your mood. This is not always romantically but just an indirect fear or anxiety you may feel, sometimes it may just be the desire to have something more or justs casual dream about both of you have a talk about something you've always wanted to do or feel that you think you could never do. In most cases, it can be a very dull and plain dream where you get stuck looking at something and having a bucket of feelings explode in your face and you feel like it means something, but in fact, it's just a dream after all.

Will you ever leave a friend who is somehow stopping you from growth?

A friend in need is a friend indeed.My dear, if my friend stops me in my growth, no matter how close he or she is there isn’t a way that person must be kept in my life.This is because your growth is what will keep you going.A Person who stops your growth is like a cannibal for humans.

Should I break up? My husband is my best friend but somehow I just dont have romantic feelings for him even though we get along really well. What should I do?

Depends if there are kids involved. If so, it might be worth putting effort into restoring the romance. If not, then there’s less consequence in leaving. Beware- dating sucks, and a lot of men are scum who will lead you on so they can get sex, then they'll ghost you. On a lonely night, you may find yourself missing the stability of your best friend. But who knows… you might also meet someone else who is a better fit for you.In general, the initial fireworks of romance will fade after 18 months. Consider whether your priority is stability or fireworks.In my case… I had stability, but my urge for fireworks was so strong that I just had to break free. Dating sucked for awhile, but I found someone to get serious with. There were big fireworks and now I’m in the “stability” phase with my newer partner, but we find ways to make it spicy. As a romantic partner, this one is a better match for me in many ways than my former “best friend” who I thought I’d be with forever. In fact, I’m less bored and more motivated by this newer relationship because we have more similar goals and ambitions. Having these shared goals leaves me with less mental space to wonder about other men, and instead focus on our life together.I’m getting off track but I hope this answer helps you.

I somehow feel unwanted after my female best friend got her boyfriend. What should I do? Is it just in my mind?

The Time is divided into parts and most of the part has been dedicated to her boyfriend . Earlier she was single so she could allocate (?) Time for you . Now priorities have changed and so does the proportion of time given to you . Now assume you have entered into a relationship similar to your friend . What if your friend is single ? Would you still be able to give the same amount of time and importance to her ? Even if you are more than willing to , will your girlfriend allow ? She is enjoying her life and trust me you will be her best friend as always . Be a good friend and give her that needed space :)

My friend somehow makes me pay for everything we do together. How to prevent it from happening?

I have had this experience with few of my friends during the early days of my employment. It was really frustrating but it becomes important to make them realise that you are not their financier.Make it clear from the beginning that the spendings will be split among the two of you. But the downside is that there is a possibility that they may not pay you back.Carry less cash with you, just enough for your own spendings. That way they will have to pay for their share and not have whatever it is that you are buying. Works fine usually. But when it comes to food they make you look as if you are intentionally starving them while enjoying your piece of meal.Ask them directly for money when the bill comes. Something like, “hey, do you happen to have 50 bucks in change”. This way even if they don't pay the entire part of their share, they will at least pay something.In my experience anyone with even a little bit of self respect will understand the situation and try to split the expenses after two or three encounters. There are people who don't. Just avoid going to fancy places and try to meet them just to chat. If this is something that is bothering you then you should stop hanging out with them and maintain a healthy relationship over the phone.Hope it works for you.

If I friend someone on Facebook and they don't accept, but somehow I'm 'following' them and can see their wall, how does this work?

First, a bit about what "following" is:  If you "follow" someone, it's kind of like being a fan of a fan page.  You may see whatever posts the person chooses to make public (or as the case may be and if applicable, "friends-of-friends") in your News Feed.Technically, "following" and being someone's friend are not dependent on each other.  You can unfollow your own friends and their posts will not show up in your news feed.  Or you can follow a non-friend and if they ever make public posts (which of course some people rarely or never do) you might see them in your feed.The "followee" can change whether or not it's allowed.  FB do enable "following" by default, though you can turn it off in your profile settings.  If the user hasn't disabled "following" you will see a "follow" button in addition to the "add friend" button on their page.  You don't have to have the person's approval to be a follower.  You will become a follower of a friend by default (which doesn't change if you're unfriended, I found out).  So if you're friends with someone, and they unfriend you, you will become a follower until you unfollow them.  However, I don't think that sending a friend request makes you a follower (although it did at one time back about 2010).As far as what you can see on someone's wall, that's entirely dependent on the privacy settings attached to each post.  Even someone who does not allow followers can have their wall wide open with "public" posts.... and if you have friends in common with the person you will see their "friends of friends" posts as well.

Did the friend zone exist in the 1950s?

The ‘friendzone’ is a matter of unmet romantic expectations and the miscommunication or refusal to understand which fosters those mismatched romantic expectations.Here’s a story about my grandfather and grandmother in law; On the day that he proposed to her and she accepted, she had a date with another guy that same day. She went on that date. Awkward much? But people often dated many people before having sex back then, and then jumped fairly quickly to marriage.Currently, American society is changing. We don’t have a solid sexual script, like many societies do and have had throughout history. The changes that are happening are, in many ways, good and beneficial but the confusion that comes with those changes wrecks its own brand of havoc. In the 1950s, dating norms were more established, so I suspect that ‘the friend zone’ would have been slightly less of an issue. Though some guys are always going to complain or misunderstand women (deliberately or accidentally) so they would have had their own issues.