How did you make friends in university?
Hi there,I hope you’re doing well. Honestly, I really was nervous as i knew that after school, it’s going to be a completely new environment for me. Though i never faced trouble in making friends, but i was definitely scared. Trust me, it’s easy. I knew that i was just overthinking and worrying too much. That is why, when my college started, i kept few things in mind;To be open to everyone. I would greet people of my class, introduce myself and start a little conversation with them. Little because, i did not want to sound too intervening and desperate.I was always very interested in knowing about the interests of the other person. This way, i was able yo understand the person in a much better manner and the other person also felt nice in knowing that somebody is keen in knowing things about them. This leaves a good impression and also helps in the establishment of a good friendship.I did not judge. How could i? Since i had just started to make friends, judging somebody after knowing so less about them is wrong on so many levels. Also, know that by judging a person, one will never be able to establish a genuinely good bond with anybody.I decided to be myself. Many people try to be somebody else while they try to make friends. They do so in order to gain acceptance from others and not feel left out. One thing that they don’t understand is that they can not go on being someone that they’re not forever. And the day, they’ll stop being someone else and will be themselves, people may start having problems because for them it wasn’t the same person before.These were few of the things that i did to make friends in my university. You can find so many tips for making good friends on eWellnessExpert on their site online. I hope this helps, take care. Have a happy day! :)
How do I make friends at university?
If you wonder how to make friends at university, it is not unlikely you are to worried about ‘not being good enough’ to be someone else his friend. And you are desperately seeking for approval. That shit won’t get you anywhere in life. It’s a magical wall you are putting up, excuses.A friendship often starts with some common grounds.I remember my first class at university, lessons in Finance. This was so boring that after raising my hands 6–7 times to answer the question I ended up doing something else. During the break others joined me and wondered how come I knew what I knew at the time.That was the birth of a study group, that was week 1.The professor wanted me to stay after class. That was the birth of further intellectual talks whenever we would meet outside lecture hours.I remember sitting behind a Bloomberg terminal (as first year BSc) during breaks, and swearing of frustration that some of my plans failed miserably. I thought (idiot as I was) about some zero coupon bond with an option would pay out massively, and boy was I wrong. A variety of swear words flew through the room (back then I hated being wrong).Others noticed my behavior - and walked towards me, “hey dude, what you doing?”. A professor noticed, reviewed my work and was shocked. He asked if I wanted to help out during the Bloomberg workshops for MSc and MBA students.Boom! My network continuously expanded at university.Why? Because I did what I was so passionate about. That journey attracted others (and still does). If I had to start at university tomorrow, I would follow my hobby and passion. As a side-effect, others will join my journey.
Is it too late to make friends and meet new people in University?
I'm in my second year in University at the moment. Last year, well I can't say I really enjoyed it! I was always hyped up about how college rules, but circumstances in my life lead the other way. I was in a relationship with a girl I really loved and cared about, but it was both our first relationship so a lot of mistakes were made: fights, sadness etc. Also, I'm a pretty sensitive and shy guy, so I absorbed the impact of all this, and became even more introverted and insecure. The result? I only spoke to less than 10 people from Uni all academic year, the little group I was closer to always invited me out but I always avoided it (now that I'm better I realized I didn't even liked them, aside from a couple of kind girls there) and looked for excuses, and all in all my only friends were my girlfriend and some old trusty friends from school - I still hang out with them. Anyway, many things changed, I even went to a psychologist with minor depression, and she helped me big time. She actually transformed me. I became less worried about what others would say (a factor that many times inhibited my social functions) and was all in all more relaxed. I happened to stumble upon friends from elementary school, and I now have a large group of non-academic friends. But still, I lack friends from Uni! I really am 'jealous' having a group of friends I'll hang out with after lectures, hang out in each others houses, maybe even meet some girls! For some reason though, while I'm more laid back, I seem to hesitate to find friends from there or meet new people; I feel like as if everyone has been grouped and I don't fit in... So, do you think I should stick to my trusty friends, or isn't it too late to reach out for new friendships (and meeting potential partners)?
I hate university and I haven't made any friends.?
I started university three weeks ago and I've been put with people I have no common interest with. They clearly talk about me when I leave the room just because I don't drink or draw penis' on the wall. I FEEL SO LONELY. I come from a really tight knit group of 4 friends. We've been together for 7 years and have influenced each other. I'm so at ease with my friends and now they've been torn away from me. I'm sorry if I sound over dramatic but I've turned into some kind of hermit. I don't have any friends, I hate my course and I miss the way things used to be. Before unviersity my life was actually perfect and now it feels like I'm serving a prison sentence. I'm made to feel like a freak just because I don't drink. I'm true to myself and people just think I'm weird. I feel so lost and lonely. I've been here three weeks and I'm just sitting in watching Merlin whilst everyone else is out. I just wish I had someone like me to talk to - - I don't want to plague my friends with my problems when they've got their own lives to live now. I just hate it here so much. I miss my school, my family and friends. It's not even terrible here but I cry anyway. I feel that I'm being so selfish - - my parents have paid everything and given me the best accomodation and I can't bear to tell them I hate it. I've told them that I'm no good at English but they think I should stick with it. I really hate having no one to talk to. I'm just sitting here on my larries and it feels that the best years of my life have gone. I've never fitted in with the norm and people here blast crap music at 4am when I'm trying to sleep. They leave the kitchen filthy and I don't see why I should have to clean it up. I just don't understand why I'm having difficulty making friends. I'm a nice person and I think I'm a good friend to have. I've joined clubs and societies but the people there are the same as my flatmates. And at my lectures if you meet someone there's no chance you'll see them again as there's a high chance that they'll live on the other side of campus & hundreds of people attend lectures. There's this boy I used to know here and he uploads pictures of himself having a fantastic time and I just feel so jealous. I feel like such a loser - - despite the fact I'd never swap my life for anyone's. I'm sorry for my essay lol but I just feel so upset right now. thanks for your time :)
Second year university, virgin, and I feel like a failure?
I'm 18, almost 19. Still a virgin. I don't think I'm being cocky when I say I'm not an ugly person, I can make people laugh, but when it comes to girls I have a real interest in I always slip up my conversations. I also don't know when to move in or when she's just playing around. I'm beginning to wonder if I should stop finding girls to start a genuine relationship and start being more casual with who I get with. Except I would feel terrible. Is "too nice" the correct term? I have friends, female and male. But I can't seem to succeed romantically. What should I do, what am I doing wrong? Should I lower my moral standards