Moving together after a month of dating...bad idea?
It's SO risky when you moe in with someone you barely know and haven't been dating that long especially since right now you probably don't see each other that much because of the distance. I would say you could move and get your own place and a job and then fi things are going well in a year then you will have a better idea if you should move in together. What if you move and have no job and things don't work out? Then you'll have to move out. Either way, make sure you get a job and have money to save for yourself and to contribute to his bills. I think you should wait longer on the moving in with him part though. If he's the right guy for you he'll understand and he'll be around in a year or so when you know eachother better. If he can't or won't wait for you to be comfortable...that's not a good sign. You can have your own place and still stay at his sometimes too so it's not like you won't see eachother.
Boyfriend is moving away. Should I end the relationship now?
When my boyfriend of 1 year moved to a different city, it didn’t even occur to me that I should end the relationship. We are happily married for last 7 years now.I think the very reason you are asking this question is -- you have doubts about your relationship with him. You are not so comfortable in your relationship and fear that geographical distance will ruin it. If you love him enough and think that he is the one, you will make efforts to keep him in his life. The reason this question came up in your mind needs more contemplation and breaking up afterall is a good idea!!- Friends, family members or stories have ruined your faith in the fact that long distance relationships do no work. Do not listen to them, friends and family members do not want you to take risk as they think you might get hurt and stories - well they not always convey what is true!!Relationships are complicated, they need work and yet at the same time it should not feel like a work!! Listen to your intuition!!
Is moving in together before marriage a good idea?
To many, it seems quaint, and at worst incredible, to even question the morality and value of living together before marriage. It is more and more acceptable in our society nowadays for young men and women to "try it out" before committing themselves to a life-long relationship. But living together really is not a good preparation for marriage. One secular book on marriage states that there is "no relationship between whether or not a couple lived together-and how easily they adjust to marriage, how happy they are in marriage, and how satisfied they are with their sex life in marriage"). In fact, couples who lived together before marriage have significantly lower marital satisfaction than those who did not cohabit before the wedding. It is eye-opening to note that during the same time period in which living together before marriage has become acceptable, the rate of divorce has skyrocketed. Living together, instead of helping cement relationships, has taught young people that commitment is optional. I was engaged and we decided to move in together. We broke up a year later. We had lots of problems, but it was so easy to say get your as* out of here... I think that if we were married that wouldn't end like that. Then I got engaged again, got married and the way you see things... It's so different. You care more about your partner, I mean it's the real thing, u know? >> Conclusion: You never know, it might work for you. The experience i had was very good. We did great things together. But when you move to your house wit your hubby is so overwhelming But if you wanna try it out - and if you're happy and excited about it, go ahead. Good Luck!!!
How do I convince my boyfriend to keep convincing his parents for our inter-caste marriage?
Who else can better understand than someone in exact situation . Yes , I am in the same situation months before and still in. We've been in a relationship for 2 years when we had everything perfect towards each other. Being an Indian girl I guess you can understand the pain of postponing marriage with silly reasons for 2 years. And when it comes to the BIG day of revealing the parents and start convincing them he said his parents are completely against and they might give up their lives if he does chose me. I was dumbstruck , like it wasn't a major discussion or fight he had told them( or he didn't at all!!) once and this heartening answer came from him . On my side I have told my parents and with lot of pain I convinced them to at least meet him. And then he said when we don't have any future whats the point in meeting them. Please move on in life. Dont make me feel guilty , am sorry and etc etc. So what I finally understood was if a boy has commitment and wants to get you in his life, he will do it no matter what. If he doesn't show any efforts my dear sister its high time to make a move. In my case he moved abroad and sometimes whatsapps me saying Happy Independence day and Happy Diwali !! And he doesn't want to talk on the same topic because he made up his mind and there will be no change. I know I dont have any reasons to keep hope and wait . But still my heart silently aches for him . Sorry for my story.. All I want to say is when he failed in convincing he failed in love. So better understand the fact quickly and move ahead in life. If you both decided for yourselves and moved out , I'd very happy for you. But if he still have the same mindset please double think. Once you start balancing your life without him , you will know youre worth of more better things.
I am still having a soft corner for my husband with whom i am planning to divorce.he is flirting?
with a girl saying he is unmarried and i also got some of his mails which he has written to other girls to meet him,he has also written that he still miss the they spent together.i don't know about these girls.he has also written that loves one of them who is soon getting married.but i don't understand why he married me?ours was arranged marriage.he was very nice during courtship period.after 2 months of our marriage he changed.unneccesary restrictions were put on me like i was not allowed to go to beauty parlours,not to wear lipstick,money was not given earlier i was working then he opened joint a/c,i have to msg him regularly when i leave my workplace as to where i have reached.i was not allowed to answer his ph when he was busy in some other work.he also used to chat on the ph.his parents do not have proper relation they live with us but they have different rooms.he is very close to his mom.he used to sit with his mom till 12.30 to 1.30 am.i also used to company them but they never
I'm 30 years old but I feel connected with a 16 year old, and want to take things further?
The best rule in any relationship is to put the other person's interests first. By all means continue your friendship with this young man, but refrain from anything physical, until he has more experience with girls his own age. There might be potential for a long-term friendship, maybe even more; but wait at least two years before going any further. If you seduce this young man, you'll both be sorry in the long run; give him your support and friendship and he'll always be grateful.