I feel super empty and purposeless? (Involves a breakup)?
Hey there, sorry to hear about your break-up :( I had the same problem with a girl in high-school, a few years ago. It will get better, I promise. Love is a pain to get over because all you want to do is for it to go away, but it won't, it takes time. I was the same in that she was the centre of my life at the time, and I found that I had nothing to do because on weekends I'd be at her house or she'd be at mine, and after school the same thing. One thing would be to find a hobby, or start a hobby you've stopped doing. I know its the annoying advice people give, and at the time I wanted to punch the people who said this in the face haha "how can a hobby help me get over this", but it helps. Also spending time with friends helps. You want to avoid time to be with your thoughts until you're at the stage where thinking about the break-up doesn't bother you as much, it'll still bother you slightly, but eventually it'll fade until you can think about it and you feel okay. I have opinions on your family involving themselves in your love-life, as in I think its out of order for family to force a break-up but I'll try and not be too provocative about that. All I can say is that I guess they're trying to look out for you, because they love you and care about you. Speak to them and ask them why if you haven't done already, and ask them to be fair in what they say. Listen to them with an open mind, you might find they have some valid reasons behind it and may start to see that they are right, or you might not, but at least you'll know. Explain to them how you feel, if they aren't sympathetic then ask them why they don't understand how you feel about the person. They should understand that you care very deeply about the person they forced a break-up with, and they should be sympathetic. If there reasons are completely unfounded and wrong (make sure you're being open minded so you don't just think that they're wrong because they're criticising someone you care about), then challenge them on it. Hope that you begin to feel better :)
I feel purposeless, Literally nothing whatsoever interests me, What should I do to get out of this place?
What you’re feeling can actually be a blessing in disguise. Eastern traditions assert that this world is a place of suffering, and beyond this world there is a pure, spiritual world, where there is nothing but ever-increasing bliss. To get there, the best method is to practice bhakti-yoga, which involves reawakening the unlimited bliss we have lying within us for our original source (The Divine, God, Allah, Jehovah, Krishna, etc.) The best way to reawaken this bliss is to chant the holy names of God, but there are other methods one can practice as well. Through the practice of bhakti-yoga, we qualify ourselves to leave this world and go to the pure spiritual world. Of course, the practice is so joyful that you will start to feel elated and experience profound joy even in this life as well.Anti-depressants just alter your brain chemistry and don’t give you a purpose. But, bhakti-yoga gives you a purpose and a reason to get up every day feeling invigorated.The practice of bhakti-yoga is an entire science of its own, but if you are interested in learning more, you can check out these books:Amazon.com: journey within: Kindle Store (easy read but profound)https://www.amazon.com/Comprehen... (profound work and more philosophical)
Why do I feel empty and kinda depressed ever since my ex broke up with me 8 months ago?
Break ups are hard. It’s always difficult to cope with something you have put in so much energy and effort into. Plus here you also care about the other persons so much. A separation is bound to hurt.Loving someone means you risk losing them. And when you do lose them, it is like losing an integral part of your life. A relationship, in my experience, means vulnerability, love and proximity. And when you lose these things, you end up going through an enormous emotional upheaval and an enormous change in your life. You have to give up on those endless phonecalls at night. You don’t have anyone sending you cat memes or dog videos. It’s painful (life without cat memes definitely is lol).But life goes on. It is not going to be easy at all. But you have to get back on your feel and try to move on. Why? Because you deserve to be happy.Here are a few things that can help-Pick up a hobby. Anything you’ve ever wanted to do but never did. Write that book, learn how to make pottery. Just do it!Communicate. The best way to deal with depression (especially after a breakup) is to surround yourself with people who love you- friends, family, colleagues and everyone else.Eat chocolate. Chocolate always helps.Self-love. Nothing works as miraculously as self-love. Basically, treat yo self. Get blue highlight or splurge on a day in a spa.Read this- Dear Girl Who Recently Broke Up, You’re Finally Free – An Open Letter – Paperless Postcards Maybe it’ll help.Take care <3
How the hell do I know my purpose? my life seems purposeless?
No one has a purpose, you have to find a purpose if you want one. A purpose isn't passed down through the generations like genes. It sounds like you really need to get some self confidence. Start going to the gym (I meet people there all the time) improving your body and conditioning. If you want to make it as an officer (I hear officer training is tougher than regular basic) you will need some muscle and endurance. Quit sitting on your *** feeling sorry for yourself. Spring is right around the corner, go out to the park, get in pick up game of basketball, football, or frisbee. You don't have to be good at sports to join a game (most people aren't). Sports will also help with your leadership skills, which the military looks for in an Officer. You don't need a bachelors degree to become an officer in the military. You can enlist and work your way up through the ranks and they will put you through school. But with that said spending 4 years in college will be a lot faster than enlisting and working your way up. I would talk to a recruiter. They will probably suggest something like the ROTC, which I think would be good for someone in your position.
How do I stop feeling so empty eventhough nothing is missing?
Find a purpose/goal bigger than you and pursue it. Then you won't feel the emptiness you are feeling now!Or you can spend few weekends visiting an orphanage or an old age home. Spend few hours with the inmates there, just talk/listen to them. Then your emptiness feeling will vanish!!Or teach some subjects you are good at to few underprivileged kids you know or in your neighborhood , for free!!Analyze all your interests/likes and see whether you can pursue one or two of them as serious hobbies. Please remember that a hobby isn't something you do in your spare time but its something for which you spare time.Travel frequently on weekends, preferably drive down if you have a bike/car with a couple of friends or family. Visit any nearby place, it doesn't matter which place. Its just to see the countryside, experience first hand the life in the hinterland, enjoy the sounds and sights.There are many many more you can do to get rid of that feeling! Just be creative.
I'm 18 years old and I feel awfully bitter and empty?
Yes, I've experienced the same sort of thing before. U have depression. Things will work out but because of the depression u have low energy and feel down and empty all the time. I think its fixable for u just speak to a therapist about it cognital therapy is actually the best, instead of just regular therapy because they sit with u and discuss ur actions and how they affect ur mood and so on... U just need to hang in there! I made the mistake of not telling my teachers I was suffering until it was too late and now I have to wait a year before I can go back to uni and study.. Let them know and try and bring urself to get help! And tell some1 like a friend a reaally goood friend who will push u and motivate u! Don't give in!!!
I feel like my life has no purpose...?
Hey, I'm a 16yr old boy and I have severe depression, I self harm, and have suicidal thoughts. I always feel like I'm not good enough, and that my life doesn't have a purpose. (honestly, it really doesn't have a purpose at all. No one can change my mind about that.) I just feel so worthless, and stupid, and empty, and alone. Like no one really cares about me or loves me. Sometimes I feel like no one would miss me if I was dead. I don't ever like to say anything to anyone about how I feel, cos I don't want them to think I'm an attention whore. I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help me.
How do I overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused and alone?
Hey, hi.You feel lost, aimless, confused and alone. Let's deal with this. Many of us have been in this stage and some of us are even now. It’s okay. It can be undone.You need to know that the phase you're going through right now is just a psychological illusion. And be thankful that you have came across such phase in your life. It makes you learn what life is all about. You'll be stronger than ever before.We often expect a lot to happen from life, people. When those expectations doesn't come true, we tend to feel hopeless and disappointed. Life is in no one’s hand. We need to accept whatever life throws on us. Also, when we believe that life is only meant for achievements and start comparing our life with others, we create chaos in our mind. We need to know that no one here is very well carrying out their destined purposes. Everyone is randomly striving out for what they believe is life.Life is uncertain. People's relations here are mostly based on their needs. So, don’t be serious about anything. Aims are our artifacts. They really don’t exist. Our only reason for existence should be the joy of living every moment. No one is going to carry their aims and achievements to their graves.So, be happy for you have got a life to live. Many are still longing for someone's love. Be compassionate and love people and animals. You won't be alone then. Confusion arises only when one is so involved in sorting out things not knowing things are already sorted down.Cheers.