Is my dad creepy or am I overreacting?
I am 18 years old and when I am in the car alone with him, he acts really creepy. For example, he forces me to kiss him on the cheek. When he picked me up from school today, he said, "hey babe". When he is with me alone, he gets a erection and makes sex noises around me. He also if guys were hitting on me. Is this inappropriate behavior for my dad to be acting this way? He has acted like this ever since I turned 18. Why is he acting like this?
Why does my dad overreact over everything?
I understand where you are coming from, i have been through the same exact things with my dad, some dads believe that this way they will make you into a real MAN and educate you well and they want to show you manners and all... which is BULLCRAP according to me, i know its hard to handle a dad like that but it looks like you are not really depressed bout it since most of the kids in your case would add the phrase :" i am really depressed i dont know what to do " and i am happy that you are not ( i hope that you are not) But one thing you have to do is BE PATIENT, you are young, and you have so much time to do whatever you want to do, trust me if i made it you will make it as well, today i am 26, i work, i have my own car, and i have my tiny apartment, a boyfriend a cat and a dog, 2 fishes, 2 turtles, and 2 birds ( ok sorry but i am proud of these possessions) and i am happy, after all what i have been through with my dad, i made it, and you will make it as well, and trust me I WAS BAD AT SCHOOL !!! Good luck
Does my mom overreact or am i just being a whiny little brat?
Well.. With that spaghetti incident, I would say that she is overreacting-id say overprotective aswell- she probably loves you and doesnt want you to be sad. But confront her, say to her that you dont like it, hatred is being created between the two because of it, it feels like a prison more than it does of a home,, etc.. Say to her, "you find it uncomfortable and that if it doesnt change im going to have to do something about it" DONT raise your voice as it will intimidate her. But im sure she doesnt want you to leave, if you understand what I mean. Say to her that it hurts you and she is always overreacting. Say to her you dont like it, say to her that she is forcing you to leave and that some point you will. Tell her that she is crossing the boundaries. She has crossed it and is turning more into a enemy than a helpful-loving-understanding mother. Your going to have to discuss this with her. Dont show any weakness, but also dont intimidate her. Talk quietly and calmly. If she says that she want you to have a good life, then tell her the good thing you want to do, tell her the things that are bad which she always repeats. You have to confront her.
Why does my dad overreact to every simple thing?
There is a problem in the very deep structure of your relationship with your dad that needs to be addressed. Expectations of life, culture etc. do not match?I have similar issues that have gone on - unspoken - with relatives dating back 40 years - not good.If you can, find a mediator. There used to be a government run charity called “relate” in the UK that tried to heal this sort of rift in families.Or try talking in a friendly voice about the problem without aggression or one-upmanship.These things build up as a matter of ego and pride and not one party backs down. We both sides feel agrieved and possibly because of the use of condescending voice tone. Never treat another human with outright contempt -especially family. Saying “sorry” is the hardest thing but soooo worth it.It is good to acknowledge that - in some respect your dad is right and that his views are at least half founded… but point out that you must be allowed your own methods to achieve a good solution that fits both of you.It is also worth noting that inside a family home -that you possibly both subconsciously regard as a safe haven where troubles should not enter - there is a very touchy possibility of each triggering the other’s rage irrationally in a “fight-or-flight” scenario… Battles away from home you can handle losing as you still ahve that safe haven to go to… but at home if you both think you ought to feel relaxed there - you will fight like demons not to be undermined in that space.If your father is the sort of person that is intelligent and knows the need to compromise, you can start to build a better future. If he is foolish and stubborn, he will not take the opportunity and may double up - but the ball and impetus to improve will be in your court. You may have to quietly work your way out of his house and find independence… this is done better slowly and not rushed into as many youngsters find themselves in deeper trouble if they run away too soon (think Naomi Watts and 3 T Rex’s… after 1 Kong).
Boyfriend told me to get over it? Am I overreacting?
My dad was in the hospital (icu ward) after a botched heart surgery. About a week after the surgery we were still waiting on the outcome, hoping for any good news even though the doctor told us to expect the worst. Well I as at my boyfriends house and he had the nerve to tell me to get over it and that my dad deserved to die because he was abusive and if he hadn't ended up in the icu he would have put him there himself. I figured he said that because my dad was very strict when I was younger and because I noticeably gained weight and cried often, but how could I just get over it considering he wasn't even dead yet? He knew I had been to the icu several times with my mom and that I was trying to be hopeful about the neurologists 2nd opinion. After I confronted what he said to me he tried to have sex with me and I felt so torn up inside. We broke up about 9 months after my dad died because I was suffering from depression and my bf complained that I didnt party enough with him and his friends. He had told me maybe we would get back together, he didnt know and he had said he wanted to be friends eventually and we did no contact for basically a year. Fastforward to now, I still get upset over what happened to my dad. My ex and I dated for 2 years and we have been broken up for a little bit over 1 year. Sometimes he will randomly text me but I dont know if he just wants me back bc i lost the weight and am not depressed anymore. I know i cried alot when my father passed away and i didnt act normal but now im doing better and im doing well in school, just got a new car and am finishing up college. Guys find me attractive and I did treat my ex well despite what i was going thru at that time bc i took him out on dates and did nice things for him. He wants to see me in may, what should i do? He had always said when i was going thru the grieving process maybe it wasnt the right time and i just dont know how to feel about all this.
Why do parents overreact in small things?
Unless you know for sure that this is indeed a small matter, then you can't quite say whether the parents are overreacting or not. You could have escaped some near-death situation without even being aware of it, while your parents are fully realizing the gravity of it all. They could have lost you, wouldn’t you overreact about it?My own child was on the receiving end of this recently, when I became an emotional wreck when she told me about one “fun” event at her camp: she fell off a horse…because the horse fell down. Yes, the horse missed her, otherwise it would have been 2,000 lbs landing on a 10 year old tiny child. See the gravity here? Only a couple of days later she returned from camp with a rather sad expression, “You know, mom, the horse could have landed on me. I was lucky” - yes, I knew exactly that 2 days earlier.They could be the emotional wrecks you imagine them to be, which means that they would overreact many times each day, but it does not appear to be the case.They could be the people who worry rarely, but when they do, it's something very bad - and instead of judging them, you should seek to understand what is it that is so troubling, this is how you acquire life experience, by the way.They could be people who overreact over small things, which means they have a skewed perception of reality and let the big things slide by unnoticed, in which case you should worry on how you have survived until now and how you are planning on taking care of your parents since they apparently are unable to take care of themselves.And sometimes parents are just human - overwhelmed with those big things in life, and all it takes is a tiny thing to throw off their balance and they become utterly emotional. Yes, parents are human, just like you, and if you don't know what truly worries them - and not things they are vocal about - it means you have a lot to learn about your parents and about life.To the extent possible, spend more time with them and to the extent that your busy schedule allows, help them with those small things, so that they do not overreact. That's how you will acquire the maturity and responsible nature and learn to fend for yourself and even maintain a household: your parents won't be here forever, you know.
How can I kindly ask my mom to stop yelling? She overreacts to everything, and the first thing she does is yell and snap even more so when I try to tell her to stop. What can I say?
If you are a dependent minor and still living with your mother, then unfortunately there really isn’t much you can do.I suggest that sometime when your mother is calm, approach the topic of perhaps attending family therapy together, so you can learn better ways of communicating with each other that are mutually respectful.I grew up with a mother who would trigger into extreme rage episodes at me (and at my younger sister, and at our dad) with little if any warning, even when I was just a very small child, and the chronic, unrelenting stress left me with PTSD symptoms far into my adult years.Once I became a fully self-supporting, independent adult, I had the power and ability to just cut the visit short or cut the phone call short) when mother would try to pick a fight with me or fly into a screaming rage at me. “Oh, look at the time, I really do need to go now. Talk to you later mother.” It was a kind of minor miracle when I finally realized that could just… remove myself from mother’s presence politely and calmly. I didn’t have to be her human-shaped verbal or physical punching bag.Hang in there. Don’t react. Remain calm. Don’t get dragged into an emotionally-charged verbal fight. Listen to her points and just calmly say “I understand”. Apologize if you need to. Leave when you safely can and do calming exercises for your own benefit and emotional health. Once you are a self-supporting adult, you can decide how much or how little interaction you can tolerate.
Did I overreact? My parents went to a party. They left at 9 a.m and came back at midnight. There was nothing in the fridge and they didn’t leave money. I was furious because they behaved selfishly. I said that I hoped they would choke on their food.
No food whatsoever? Not a potato you could peel to cook for yourself? Not a frozen pea in sight? You know, I find that a bit difficult to believe. I can, however, believe there wasn’t any junk food. Or food you could just zap in the microwave. Anything you wanted to eat.No mention of your age, but I am going to assume you are in your middle teens seeing as how your parents felt it was okay to leave you home alone for an extended period of time. I don’t think you’re an adult because an adult is meant to be a bit more mature than this.Let’s assume you are right. Not a skerrick of food in the fridge. Not a skerrick of food in the pantry. Nothing. No flour in the cupboard, no egg to be boiled, nothing. You could have picked up the phone. Rang for a pizza. Yes, using your own money. It IS possible for a teenager to pay for food themselves. Oh, you spent all your money? Despite knowing that you lived in a house with absolutely no food? Not even a can of vegetables in your house. But you didn’t plan. Perhaps I overestimated your age. I know your parents overestimated your ability to be left alone.If you were that hungry (not even 24 hours, but hey you might have thought you were at risk of starving to death) why didn’t you visit a friend and beg for food? What about a neighbour? There is always options. It’s really a rare occurrence that someone is a real victim.No phone? No neighbours? No friends? Golly gosh. Well, you have access to the internet. You could have ordered a pizza online. Or groceries.Now, on the off chance that I have this totally wrong - you really are an abused and neglected child - contact child services. Through a teacher. A neighbour. A friend. The police. Heck, private message me your details and I will do it.Did you overreact? I think so. And, irrelevant of your parents behaviour, any neglect they may be guilty of, your responsible for your own behaviour. Your responsible for if you have good manners or not. Yelling at your parents is not good manners.
How do I deal with my mom, who overreacts and yells at me for something I didn't do on purpose?
Yeah, it sounds like your mom is wrapped-up so tight that little things have her going over-the-top with her reactions.Do you have brothers or sisters? Where’s your dad? Does your mom work full-time somewhere? I ask, not for MY sake, but to show you that your mom’s stress levels will go up if she has a lot of responsibility and little adult help.Suggestion: work on your sense of humor. I’m serious: when you’re able to see the ridiculousness of your own or someone else’s behavior, then you can make fun of yourself, or exaggerate the other person’s actions until they start laughing at themselves.It seems your mom has too many responsibilities so she’s delegating some of those to you. Do what you can, as best you can, and otherwise stay out of sight until she can get a grip on herself.If your dad is in the picture, I suggest asking him for help. And if there are other kids around, they should have chores, too.Another suggestion: if your mom does the yelling thing again, just stop what you’re doing and look at her. Don’t say anything, just look at her. If she asks that dreaded parental question: “WELL? Do you have anything to say for yourself?” , then keeping looking at her, in the eyes, and calmly say, “I’m sorry I didn’t do (whatever) to your satisfaction.” That’s it.I hope she just walks away, goes to HER room, and has a good cry. It sounds like she needs to do that.