My mom went through my trash.. do i have a right to be upset?
first off, i'm 16. well my room was really messy and i had not cleaned it for a long time so my mom yelled at me, so i took a big bag up to my room and i sorted out ALL my stuff and threw away whatever i didn't need. i threw away papers, pictures, makeup, perfumes, lotion, jewelry, receipts, and personal notes or cards from friends. i tied up the bag but it was too cold and dark out to throw it away so i left it in my room, planning to throw it away the next day, but i forgot. so that day while i was at school my mom went through the whole bag, and (i'm assuming) she read the notes, receipts looked at all the pics and other stuff, and then she took out some makeup and perfume from the trash bag and put it back on my dresser! when i got home from school i noticed that stuff on my dresser but i have lots of other stuff on there so i didn't really notice it. i just figured i had probably put that stuff back myself. but then at dinner time i showed her some makeup and hair products (cont)
At what point does a person have the right to be upset with their spouse for not having sex with them?
Interresting question. I think it's all about finding the common ground... everyone has got different needs and fantasies, but you've got to concentrate on the overlap between the two of you. Of course, you can't force people to do things they don't want to do, but after a while, it's also unreasonable that the other person expects you not to fulfill your needs elsewhere, I think...I'm in a committed relationship, with children and I'm very happy with my general situation. Unlike my spouse, I wasn't very experienced sexually before getting married and committing to an exclusive relationship. I mean I had some sexual encounters but considering the breadth of the spectrum, I'm considering myself quite inexperienced.Basically, my wife has done more stuff than me (with previous partners) and some of those she doesn't want to do anymore. We've discussed it, and whenever I state my interest in those things (Nothing mega kinky: a try a anal, a BJ with a happy ending, that sort of things), she laughs and say I should try with someone else. I know this is a joke and she doesn't really mean it, and, very likely, hell would break loose if I did that. The thing is I don't see myself living my whole life wondering what those specific sexual experiences are like... On the other end, I don't want to risk jeopardizing a relationship in which I'm very happy overall. I've been a good boy so far in 10 years of marriage, but I think about it a lot! I've had opportunities in the past, but passed on them, thinking I would likely regret it the following minute...
My friend is upset I'm getting married? What to do?
My friend has recently found out I'm getting married in a few months. I didn't wan to tell her sooner because i knew she would get upset. I always felt she has some sort of crush on me but never really quizzed her on it. When i told her the wedding was planned for next year she started crying and wanted to take a sip of my drink right where i had drank from which was so weird. I didn't know what else to do or say because it is what it is.
What do I do if my girlfriend tells me she's upset but doesn't want to talk to me about why she's upset?
I think she might be upset with something that she cannot change or that she feels like it's more about her insecurity issues than yours. And she might feel like she has not the right to beg you to change it, or nothing you can or you should do. She could be sad that she won't see you for a while, but doesn't want to bother you about it. Or she doesn't feel like she has the right to do it. That's how I react when I know that I won't see my boyfriend for longer than I'm used to. I can't hide my sadness, but I don't have any right to stop him doing what he likes or what he has to do. And I'm fine in the next day. No, it's not a mind game. Sometimes we know we are not reacting in the best way, but we don't want to make you feel guilty about it. Or she's feeling depressed and is not in a good mood. Also happens to me, but I let him know. In both cases, if she doesn't open up after you insist once or twice, leave her alone and wait for her to talk to you and explain what's up. If in the next day or few days she's fine and doesn't mention anything, you shouldn't worry. Never mind. If there's something you should worry about, she should let you know.
When is your girlfriend right to be angry and when is she just being a brat?
It depends on the circumstances.. but I’ll try to create a ballpark analogy. Hope this helps.Right to be angry: When you spray painted her cat for a good time. When you took it upon yourself to create an entire online GoFundMe profile for her new boob job. When you made a date for 7 on Thursday and you didn’t show up until the following Saturday. When you celebrated her ending her eating disorder with a donation in her name to Heifer International. That time you and your drunken buddies peed in the laundry basket “just for fun.” When she said she wanted a ring, a “real flash cube” and you gave her a ring on the phone to say you bought her new flashbulbs for her antique 1979 camera. (Anyone over 40 will get that one and will be laughing right now…)Examples of complaining & being a brat: When she knows exactly what she wants and doesn’t tell you, however she expects you to just intuitively know like a mind reader what it is she wants..and expects you to deliver it. If you’re on a fixed budget so you use Groupon to take her on nice restaurant dates and she pisses and moans as though you somehow owe her food. If she, in some roundabout manner, acts as though you’re engaged in some ongoing game of 20 Questions each time you add a new person of the female persuasion to your Facebook account. If she whines so much you feel as though your owe her cheese. Or, if every time someone she knows gets engaged, she starts to whine…and wine…and each time you’re out and about, it’s “Oh, look! A diamond sale!” If she takes some lame women’s magazine quiz that tells her you’re cheating on her. If she bitches that you didn’t “like” her Instagram post or like it in a timely manner. If she starts to become upset because you didn’t answer “NO!” fast enough when she asked if she looked fat today. Are there more than 4 hair products in your shower..and she doesn’t live there. Does she have plenty of clothes in a reasonably organized closet yet never gets ready to leave on the inside of 2 hours? Then you might be dating a brat or a chronic complainer.
Do I have the right to be angry? My best friend's wedding.....PLEASE give me INPUT!! I'm yielding!?
My best friend from college is getting married...I was super excited for that...but her and her fiancé chose only a small number of people to come (60) to her wedding...that does not include my bf. They don't like him...I found it rude that they would not allow me to bring him after we have been together for over a year (not the point). Anyway...her wedding is 2 weeks away and she did not have ANYTHING together...no caterer, wedding planner, ceremony order, colors of the wedding, nothing. Her own parents won't even be there (for separate reasons), but I had the heart to help her...but her mind is on other things. I gave ideas even offered to pay for some of the things, but she doesn't even care for the big day....we got into a disagreement and aren't talking at the moment.. Would you be mad in my shoes? I really wanted to help her because people are coming from out of state...but she hasn't thought about squat. I never in my life known of a bridezilla that doesn't care. I will be singing while she goes down the isle at least otherwise she'd have nothing.