Do you think a Victoria's Secret gift card would be an appropriate wedding gift?
This would be SO incredibly, shockingly inappropriate under the circumstances. It is not your job to tell her what she should be wearing for her husband. It comes across as if you and the husband are ganging up on her and guilting her into wearing sexy clothing, as if his right to be sexually aroused were more important than her right to control her own body. Given that she doesn't like sexy lingerie (and I bet she isn't "afraid" of it - I suspect it probably gives her rashes and boils and the like), I can't see it coming across in any other way, especially from a third party. If I had declared I didn't like sexy lingerie and someone gave me this, I would be hurt. A cheque is a much more appropriate gift under the circumstances. If he wants her to wear sexy lingerie, let HIM do the work of explaining it to her: don't you put her in the situation where she feels she's being ganged up on over it.
If a friend is acting poorly towards you, is it appropriate to dump them like you would break up with a lover? More that just being appropriate, is it feasible or advisable?
If a friend is acting poorly towards you, is it appropriate to dump them like you would break up with a lover? More than just being appropriate, is it feasible or advisable?Thanks for the A2A, Sagan.As stated by others it really depends on the situation and what you call a dump.I had a very good friend at work. He and I had some great times working together and then once in a while we started getting together outside of work. On Wednesday’s we would go to the bowling alley and have lunch and bowl a couple of games.I am a huge fan of being respectful in most circumstances. My buddy started having some issues at home and maybe some PTSD from Iraq I am not really sure, he did not talk about it much. However, he started missing planned activities like our bowling lunch. We would talk the previous day and say, “are we still on for lunch tomorrow?” Absolutely was his reply.I normally take my lunch to work because I am cheap. Wednesday would come and go. He did not show up at our meeting point to ride together. No phone call, nothing. When I saw him I asked what was up. Oh sorry I had an appointment with the VA. Really??? I have no problem with the appointment nor whatever the reason was that he went. I had a problem with the fact he was not courteous enough to let me know, especially when I confirmed the meeting the previous day.This happened three or four times. I finally quit asking or planning lunch with him. I see him every once in a while and we have good talks, but it is certainly not the same as before.I believe my actions were reasonable. Another friend of mine did not when we talked about it. He thought I should have been more empathetic. Maybe I should have, I just do not know. What I do know is he was not empathetic to my situation when I was required to find lunch on my own because I had not bothered to pack it on Wednesdays. So, I did not “dump” him, I simply just stopped making plans with him.
What are appropriate responses when a platonic friend says "love you," and I do not have romantic feelings for them?
What are appropriate responses when a platonic friend says "love you"?Friends – male and female – have said "love you" to me over the years. I love/like them too but we don't have romantic feelings towards each other. What are some appropriate responses? "Love you too" feels like it's something reserved for romantic relationships, and "thanks" feels odd.I think that this is especially difficult for men. They find it hard to express affection. It's important to differentiate between loving someone as a person, and romantic love. You don't want to give anyone false hope.I would reply truthfully. If I didn't know someone well enough to have more than the love for my fellow man, I would simply reply, "Thanks, you're a great guy too." It sets the boundaries clearly.If you know someone well enough, just be honest in your reply. "You are one of my best friends and I care about you too." The ‘friends’ part clearly says "as friends ONLY." So you don't have to use the word 'love' if you are uncomfortable using it.There is no law that says you must love people back in equal amounts, but everyone needs to feel loved, respected, and appreciated. We owe it to each other to say it more often.Clay, thanks for the A2A.
I was about to wish a Jewish friend Happy Easter. Is there anything more appropriate I can say?
Anything more appropriate to say today? YES! "Have a nice day." OR nothing at all! How do you feel when someone wishes you a happy Eid al Fitr or a happy witch's brew day? .
Is a string bekini appropriate for a 14 year old girl? Please say whether you are a parent or a teen.?
Is it normal for a 14 year old girl to go to a public pool wearing two small triangles and a rectangle attach together with strings? To me, all I see is naked, but she insists that all her classmates wear string bikinis and it is totally normal. Just to clarify, she is very skinny, so how she looks is not the issue. Has anyone made rules against this type of swimsuit, and what were the results? Can a teen still go swimming and enjoy herself in a one-piece without being ridiculed?
Appropriate response to "I feel blessed to have you in my life"?
I just recoeved a message from an old teacher whom I still see & talk to and she has become a family friend. The message said "I feel blessed to have you in my life" I'm not sure what to reply to that... Is the appropriate response "Thank You"? Or would I say something else? Please no irrelevant responses... Thanks
Lighter at school.. what do you think is going to happen?
ok so my friend left his lighter at my house yesterday, and i brought it to school today to give it to him and i got caught with it last period. the teacher gave it to the principal and said that the principal had said i needed to see her on monday to deal out a punishment. what do you think my punishment will be? do you think i'll be suspended?