Have you ever been friends with benefits with an ex? If so, how did that turn out?
I DO NOT ADVICE THISWell here is a story,I had a girlfriend once that I REALLY liked and we dated for a couple months but for some reason she dumped me. I was devastated, it took some time but I got overNow here is where the story gets interesting. She texts me one night out of nowhere while I was at a friends. Mind that it is about 1am. She asks me if I want to sneak over and I become star stuck. this is my crazy beautiful ex that just asked me if I wanted to sneak over.Now I had gotten over her but this offer intrigued me I said sure. so me and and my friend walk to her house (she has a friend over so my friend isn’t third wheeling.Her room was in the ground level basement so we went around the back and came in the slider. me and her were in her room while my friend and hers were in the living room watching a movie and we somehow became friends with benefitsAgain I will say I do not advice this because as we started hanging more late nights I relized I was falling for her again and she was not for meShe was using meSo I ended it and of course she didn’t ever talk to me again but hey atleast I wasn’t falling for someone who didn’t want me so.. thx for reading
Caught feelings for my friend with benefits?
I have had a fwb thing with this girl for about 5 months. I thought it would be great... but now I want more. We both said at the beginning that this would be only a temporary thing, a few months, and then we would to go back to being just friends with no awkwardness. But I started falling for her so I told her I wanted to date. She said no, and we stopped being fwb for about a week, but then I convinced her that I was cool with staying fwb, so we starting hooking up again. I even told her that I realized she was right, and we would make a bad couple. But really I want her to be my girlfriend so bad! Spending time with her is so great and yet so painful at the same time because it's obvious that she looks at it as way more casual than I do. It's hard having to hide my feelings and pretend everything is casual for me too. Should I just continue with it until she gets tired of it? Or should I break off our fwb arrangement? Both options seem really hard to handle.
What is it like to have friends with benefits in India?
It is just as it is in other countries.I was 22 then and was just finished with my BE. I was working as a temp for experience under a well known biz man. It was right then that my girlfriend (now ex) of 6 years decided to break up with me. It was hard but I must agree that the last one year of the relationship was hard on me too so I let it go and we broke up in a civil way.About 5 months after my break up one girl started seriously hitting on me. Texting me daily and in short bugging me. I had no interest in getting into another relationship after the heart break from the last one. So I said no to her. My friends called me crazy for this. They said I should get into a relationship and 5 months is long enough to come back from a break up. They forced me to find someone and I agreed reluctantly.Then a close friend of mine introduced me to her friend. We went out a couple of times and she invited me clubbing and we really enjoyed each others company. She was really pretty and most people would say she's out of my league. We were open to each other and I told her how I wasn't seriously interested in another relationship and how I had just agreed since my friends forced me. She said it was the same for her and the same girl who introduced me to her forced her into seeing me. We had a good laugh on that.One day while we were on a brunch date she told me that she really liked me and she thought it would be best, knowing our personal opinions were the same, if we tried a friends with benifits situation. I took a minute to think about it and then agreed. A minute is all I needed. Whenever I used to get time off from my job we used to take long drives and go to places like Goa, Mahabaleshwar, etc and spend a couple of nights and then return. It was a good arrangement and we were so comfortable with each other that we could share everything. We used to take long walks on the beach and anyone who saw us wouldn’t think we aren't a couple. We went out for about 1 year and 3 months and after that she had to move to Delhi. During that time I was also starting up my own company we parted ways.I am now married and my wife knows all about my friends with benifits affair and she is fine with it. She is also married now in Delhi and we do speak sometimes with each other. She invites me to Delhi a lot but with work stress it just isn't possible and I don't know how our spouses would react.
Is friends with benefits in 7th grade trashy?
At that age, its not the best look for an upcoming woman. When you get older, that friends with benefits thing is going to affect your future relationships with guys who might want it to be serious. As a result, it may cause some men to fall for you without meaning to and hurt them. If it were you, the guy in question may tell you afterwards that the 'benefits' thing is over because he found someone else, but there is always the possibility of you falling for him and you just end up hurting yourself. That kind of thing leads to distrust of the opposing sex. So my endearing answer to you love is no, in 7th grade f-with-b is trashy. Hope this helped.
Why does it bother me that my girlfriend had a friends with benefits arrangement in the past?
Because it makes it evident to you that she’s a whore/slut, and since you’re programmed to see her as your own, seen by the use of your phrase “my girlfriend”, it feel as though something special has been taking away from you, that you can never get back. That inability, and the further inability to comprehend what kind of relationship that will entail bothers you, and if you’re someoone who sees sex as special, and judging by her fwb arrangement, she seems to not, this creates a conflict in values you can so evidently see. Your mind is telling you there if she finds sex this trivial, she will likely have no problem cheating on you in the future. But what’s most problematic is the potential different in values, I think that’s what causing the most “stress”, as so I put it, because you want to be together, but your inner, intuitive mind is telling you, based off this information, it PROBABLY would not work out. You don’t admit that’s the case, but you know it is, because you’re probably thinking it, and it is this attempt to deny that reality that is gnawing at your soul. I recommend you talking out your concerns with your partner. But overall, my final piece of advice, follow your instinct, follow your gut, if something doesn’t feel right, it’s best to move on.
Is it okay for a girl to have friends with benefits while she has a boyfriend?
Yes, that’s what it’s all about - friends with benefits. The FWB relationship is a casual relationship, there is no commitment or any strings attached. This kind of relationship gives you some freedom that you would not have in a BF/GF relationship. It removes you from all the pressures of a normal relationship - arguing, fighting and all that drama.An FWB basically means you are in an open relationship. Most of the times, girls will enter an FWB to get a break from their boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean she has gotten over him. She is just assessing and considering you as a better alternative, but her mind is not made up.The problem with an FWB is that some people tend to get jealous and possessive too quickly, especially when the other person is still communicating with their ex. Ex is not the right word in this context because they are not officially done with each other. There is potential for their relationship to recover.When you are in an FWB, you are simply a half-boyfriend and she is a half-girlfriend. Just enjoy it or move on to get somebody who is fully committed.
My girlfriend had friends with benefits. How do I deal with it?
You need to get a grip. Your jealousy is ruining your relationship and making you miserable.You should not be asking yourself how YOU deal with it. All the stuff you mentioned happened in the past and happened to your girlfriend, not to you. If she is not having any issues with any of it, you should not either. These are her feelings to process, not yours.Your girlfriend had to know that whenever you sleep with someone right away, it does not guarantee that person will develop emotional feelings. She knew the risk she was taking, and if she did not know then, she learned. She might have been naive, but I suspect she knew what she was doing.Every sexual encounter she had was consensual (unless she told you otherwise). She went looking for these guys. You make it sound like these guys used your girlfriend for pleasure but she got absolutely no pleasure herself. I’m betting she enjoyed it as well, and you know what? THAT IS OKAY. Women are sexual beings too. She might have been disappointed or hurt when those guys did not want a relationship, but she got over it.The whole friends with benefits thing puzzles me as well, but it’s not for me to judge, nor for you. Your girlfriend is not with these guys. She’s with you. She has shared her past with you not so you can go defend her honor or whatever but because she wants you to know all about her.By the way, there is no such thing as a slut. We live in a free society. People—this includes women, in case you forgot—have sexual needs and desires. Sometimes they go looking to fulfill those desires. Some have many needs, some have none, some have a moderate amount. None of us has any right to judge the amount of sexual satisfaction anyone needs OR how they go about getting it, as long as no crimes are committed and all people involved in sexual acts are consenting adult humans.You should be dancing for joy that your girlfriend likes sex so much. You speak of how much sex you have and how great it is. If she didn’t like sex, your life would be much different.Forget about these guys. Who cares? They have moved on, your girlfriend has moved on, now YOU need to move on. Enjoy the relationship you have with her, because if you ruin it with this jealousy of men who aren’t even in the picture now, it will be gone forever.You may want to consider counseling if you keep obsessing about this.