Do teachers know which students have crushes on them? How?
I can answer this question in the best way only by sharing my personal experience.During my 1st year of Engineering, our Electrical Engineering female professor had caught my attention. I was a nerd back in the university and my primary goal was to top in the exams but her lectures are something that were always heavenly for me. I would worry myself to death if I ever missed her lectures, I had that kind of admiration for her. It was not sexual attraction but I really liked her as an individual. I did not want anything from her, I just loved watching her from distance. She always showered me with good grades, and complements. She also helped me get funding from our University for my projects. Also, I was made the Class Representative just because of the recognition and appreciation I got from her. In my final year, I was the first student of my university to construct a quadrotor(3 Idiots) and a strong reason behind it was the impression on her face I will get to see when I show it to her.Once during a lecture in my final year, I was upset about the fact that Engineering is getting over and I won't be able to see her anymore. Hence, I chose to click photos of her from my first bench in the classroom. Just when I pressed the shutter button on my Samsung Omnia i900(This smartphone is special because it has her pictures), I just remembered that I did not turn the flash off. Bam! The flash struck her eyes, and she did something to me that I will never forget in my life.She looked at me for a second, tilted her head portraying a "Please, Asim. Everyone is watching, please don't do it. I know you like me, but please don't."Those were commanding eyes.. demanding eyes.. but there also was a softness.. a warmth dripping in them, meant only for her best student in the Electrical Department. Then I knew that she knows that I like her from the core of my heart. She can be the most cruel teacher as she has already yelled a thousand times on other students, and slapped sometimes too, but that violent persona of her’s was not shown to me ever.. Not even once in a period of 4 years where I spent 2 hours watching her each day, 6 days in a week.. I knew she was aware of my feelings, hence she never tried to hurt me.. Clearly, I knew I was special and different for her..That night, I had the best sleep of my life.P.S. I'm deeply praying that she does not find this answer.P.S.2. I still have that lovely photo with me. (I got what I wanted i.e. victorious)
Do you still remember your first love?
No matter how hard I try convince myself, the truth is I remember her every day. Remembering her used to break my heart every time at the first phase of break up. And then things started getting better and better. I still remember her everyday but the thing is it doesn't affect me anymore the way it used to affect me. It took me time but i realized following things:She was my first love but not the last one. Its like the first car you won, you can’t hold it forever and neither its good if there is trouble in the car.There is more to life. There are more people who love me probably more than her. My family definitely loved me.I should focus on being a better person rather than indulging myself in her thoughts.She was happy with the new relationship and I truly loved her and that kind of made of happy regardless of how jealous I was.Her smile was the whole world to me at one point of time and I can’t even remember her how she looks like now.People change and so did we. We both changed, she went her way and I went mine. No hard feelings left.Happily Ever After.
Why do some people like to mock disabled people?
They do it because they can. They are entitled. Well, they *think* they are entitled. I'm handicapped so I fall into a segregated part of the population. Women are treated badly in many ways, and they can openly be mocked if they are abused or raped. I feel for all women, yet I spent most of my early years being mocked by more girls than by boys. I'm 56 and I still have terrible balance, but even in 7th grade there were girls that enjoyed pushing me back and forth between them until my pants were torn. So there's that, always in the back of my head.I learned from being mocked. I still am, as people see me walk and think I am drunk or retarded because their parents or neighbors gossiped. I learned to appreciate those in groups like mine. Blacks and Latinos, gays, lesbians. And women. When it comes to abortion I'll always say I have no say in any discussion because I'm not a woman.By being mocked, I came out of it learning to embrace everyone. You know who stands up for me the most? Black men. I get on a certain bus and a group of kids will chitter but one or two who have seen me will tell them to shush. After I sit, I explain.There are people who talk about White Privilege. The same can be said for Abled Privilege. We all have to get along. By being mocked I learned that implicitly and so I don't ever care about lifestyle differences or racial differences when I make friends.
How should I respond to a group of guys in my school bullying me?
Get your parents involved. List down your bullies’ names and ask for a meeting with their teacher. If the teacher does not take action, escalate the issue to the school principal.Next time they taunt you, you need to confront them in public. Call them out on their behavior. You need to stand up for yourself, or the bullying won’t stop. Ignoring them is the same as saying “go ahead, keep bullying me.”If their taunts escalate into physical violence, gather evidence and file a case against them.EDIT: Just an idea: Ask your friends to film their bullying behavior on video with their cellphones. If the school won’t take action, maybe a video going viral would shame them into action (or shame your bullies into stopping).
How can you apologize without actually saying the words "I'm sorry" or being apologetic?
There are some great answers in this thread about how best to take responsibility when you ARE sorry, but one way to read the question is to say 'sorry' without saying it because you actually aren't sorry at all. That often happened to me as an HR VP for a big consumer company. Consumers and staff would complain bitterly to us all the time for things that weren't our fault at all. There are lots of ways to sound empathetic without being sorry. Sometimes I'd try something like:"Wow, I can understand that was really frustrating. Anyone could be upset. Is there something we can do to help?" Even if it is your mistake, something like "That shouldn't have happened. What a mistake. Let's see if we can find a way to fix it," could work in many cases. People most of all want to be heard and hear that they've been heard and something is going to be done about it soon. If you encounter someone who say's "I want an apology" then you can say, "I'm going to look into that right away, but let's see what we can do toward making things better right now." If they hammer away demanding an apology when you've investigated or listened and decided it isn't your fault, then I say the weaselly thing - "I'm really sorry this has affected you the way it has. It's really too bad it's made you feel so upset. I really understand you feel awful." (Never say, 'I know how you feel - you don't and they'll be angry about THAT.) But, believe it, I am sorry for people like this, just not sorry for anything I did. With practice, you can use these phrases with genuine meaning and not put your foot in the wrong spot by saying you know how they feel or apologizing for something you didn't do.
I smoked pot and I am filled with immense regret. How can I become at peace with my mistake?
Greetings! First of all, try not to be so hard on yourself. There are massive double standards around marijuana use, which are merely cultural and politically related, more than of an absolute nature. Of course I don't know you or your background, but in Latin America, where I live, you can get as drunk as you want and do stupid, agressive or even dangerous things and no one will bat an eye, because liquor is legal... You know.... But as soon as you suggest you like smoking weed, which just makes you want to chill, enjoy some laughs or some music, some people label you as a drug addict individual with little or no morals. So, as a regular recreational user, I'd suggest not to let that line of though get into your life and make you feel bad or guilty. You tried it, you may have liked it or not, but it is entirely up to you doing it again or abstaining from using it. But there is no shame in trying new things!!! Curiosity is something I consider inherently human, and you were just exploring the possibilities of something that was unknown for you. If it makes you feel bad, cherish the learning you had about it and move on, it was a new experience and that all there is to it. And, if you want to do it again, keep in mind there's people who drink and drive without any regret, just because liquor isn't frowned upon. Have a great smoking (or not-smoking)