I feel like my family doesn't notice me?
So like my family , grandparents, aunts , uncles , etc. for years have always told me I need to get my life on right path and stuff. I'm 17, and now I have 3 jobs and I have absolutely no free time, and I'm doing it because I have to buy my own car. But yet, when my family found out I have 3 jobs , they laughed and asked if I was even getting paid. Pretty much they just doubt me about everything & get saying well what are you going to do when you get out of high school. And they asked if I was in summer school this year. In fact my grandma assumed that I was in summer school and said don't you have school in the morning. I just really don't understand..
My family thinks im a loner?!?
I feel so dumb saying this, but its getting ridiculous! My dad thinks that i have no friends because i havent been out in a while. Its so stupid and its making me feel really low about myself. he is A) making going out feel like a chore, and B) he's making me feel like a complete loner. The last time he confronted me which was a couple of weeks ago, i called one of my mates and went out that very day. It was so i could prove to him that im fine! I went to a couple of parties in the last couple of weeks and i talk to my friends on the phone quite a lot! i just dont get it! he's still going on at me! i dont think he gets that i just want a bit of 'me' time :( I have a twin brother who has to be honest gone out just as much as me these past couple of weeks! the only difference is that his mate lives literally up the road, so he can come down a lot :) But my dad never goes on at him?! i think its because im mostly on my laptop, again, TALKING to people. He thinks all i do is sit on my laptop? erggh. When i was 14, during 'puberty' i became really quiet and withdrawn, it was a difficult year and i wasnt myself and i didnt go out a lot. But that was 3 years ago, (im 17 now) and i have recovered, hes SEEN that im not shy at all when it comes to meeting new people. I know hes just worried about me, and i know im lucky to have a family that cares about me, but it is really really getting me down, any ideas on what i can do to ease his mind and tell him gently to back off a bit?! thank you for any responses :)
Why won't my family help me?!?
Basically I feel low at the minute and nothing seems to be helping, people seem to kick me whilst I'm down. I know I'm vulnerable which makes me paranoid and I probably do take things to heart more than I usually would, however I can definitely notice signs. My family always push me out like I'm the black sheep they talk over me and ignore me, never bother with me but they bother with my big sister. I have always been pushed aside as I'm the youngest it's like I don't count. My sister has always resented me as there is a big age gap and she was the only girl until I came along. My brother died 5 years ago this year and does not help situations at all. I wrote my family a letter as we had not spoken in a month they know I suffer from depression however they continued to leave me. We spoke after the letter and hugged and they said they want me to talk to them and hug more often, however there was no more to be said or done about it. I went to the doctors and they are going to refer me but I can see my family slipping back to their usual ways already it's only been a week. Pls help!!
I hate being the youngest child in my family!?
Ughhh! My brother and sister are so mean to me. They tell me I'm worthless and that I need to grow up when they need to grow up and stop verbally abusing me. They make me feel like I shouldnt live anymore. But I know better than to kill myself. Whenever they try to make me feel so low and worthless I just try to ignore them, but it doesn't help one bit! I just wish they'd all move out and get another life to make he||. I will never forgive them for ruining my life. Any Advice??????!!!! PLEASE!
My boyfriend's family makes me feel uncomfortable?
Whenever they are around they don't include me in conversation, they never ask me questions... they basically overlook the fact that I'm there. As far as they're concerned, I'm not. My boyfriend has met my extended family (but not my mom, dad or sister yet because I am in a different state for school) and they loved him. They took an interest in him, joked around with him, made him feel at ease, and always ask when I'm bringing him over next. His family, on the other hand, never asks about me. Ever. My boyfriend recently moved in with his brother whom I met on the day he moved in. My bf had to go outside, leaving me and his brother alone. I started making small talk and asking him some non personal, simple, questions. After giving "yes" and "no" answers, he got up and just paced around the kitchen, clearly not doing anything important, just pacing. I know a first meeting is awkward, but seriously? Also, his brother has a 16 month child and started yelling and swearing at this baby and started spanking him when I was sitting right there, causing the baby to scream. He even held his baby WHILE he was smoking cigarettes inside without windows OR doors open. The whole situation was just honestly appalling. I had such a different upbringing from these people which is also a factor that makes me uncomfortable. I could never spank or scream at a child. My bf is also "lower class" and I'm quite the opposite. I never make him feel inferior and I don't look down on or talk bad about his family. But maybe they don't like the fact that I'm different from them? My bf's cousins and other brother treat me the same way. I am a friendly, outgoing, but not an over-the-top person and I get along with just about everybody. I don't know what I ever did wrong. I have never met his mother or stepdad, but the way things are going with his other family members, its dissuading me to ever meet his parents. What can I do?
Whenever I'm around my family (mom, dad and two brothers) I feel depressed and pissed off all the time. What could be causing these feelings?
“Whenever I'm around my family (mom, dad and two brothers) I feel depressed and pissed off all the time. What could be causing these feelings?”This is the exact way I'm feeling in my house so I'm going anonymous to answer. My parents have been together off and on for years. My dad has a temper and gets annoyed over small things often. My mom gets annoyed at his actions but won't leave him. This in turn leaves me to feel anxiety every time we are home at the same time, always wondering when the bomb will go off. For four and a half months out of the year when I'm home from school break I feel nervous and depressed. I've noticed that I have started to have an attitude and I get annoyed and pissed off very quick when I'm at home.You might be feeling this way for many reasons.Do you resent your family for their actions on a daily basis or a major action one or all of them did that massively affected you?Are you so different from them that you can't agree on anything and it causes fights?If your family is the open kind where you can talk to them about your feelings un-judged you should do so. If they aren't, I suggest you find a way to see a counselor or psychologist and talk to them about how your feeling. They can help you figure out why your feeling this way and how to deal with it.I know exactly how you feel and it sucks. I have learned to deal with my feelings by reading and staying silent. I don't say anything that could trigger my father or mother to be set off. I let them tell eachother when something happens that I know they won't like. I find reasons to go into my room for as many hours as possible. If you have yet to graduate high school, you will feel immensely better once you start and live on campus. Your emotions are like night and day. If you are in college but commute, then I would suggest seeing if you can start living on campus and see how much more it would cost. If it's too expensive, try and see if you can live with a friend. If you do online college then I suggest staying in your room for as long as possible and move out as soon as possible. You will feel better eventually.
Everyone in my family talks about me?
First of all my parents are always making fun of me, they have such a low opinion of me because of mistakes I made when I was younger and by younger I mean high school and below. And I never had sex or snuck out or partied or did drugs in high school it was just grades and really stupid stuff. And my grandparents on my moms side really don't like me. My parents are always telling them all the dumb stuff i do and they talk about me amongst themselves. So everyone has a low opinion of me. I get used by my parents and they are always guilt tripping me. I decided to move in with my grandparents to get away from that, but now i get talked about here. My grandparents HATE my parents (ironically) and always talk about them, the problem is i agree b/c its true. My aunt lives here too and she is constantly questioning everything I do. She criticizes me in my face, and it really hurts my feelings, My grandparents adore her so they always agree with everything she says. She's perfect in their eyes so I everything is her way or the highway. I always fell so terrible and my self esteem is always fluctuating. My grandparents always have good things to say about my aunt but I have never heard them say good things about me. I even wake up and hear them talking about me or my parents b/c they "think" im still sleeping . I don't feel like anyone likes me, i feel so stupid and I hate myself for not being my aunt.