My dog died and i feel so depressed!?
My dog died 2 days ago. He was a gray small poodle and i loved him so so so much. He was my best friend. I did everything together with him. I ate next to him, played with him, walked with him, he even slept on my pillow every night. Whenever i was sad he would curl up next to me and make me feel better. I only had him for 3 and a half years and he was the best. But...2 days ago...he ran outside. And when me and my mom tried to get him...he was hit. I cried so much. And my mom was sad but not that sad. My father however was devastated. He doesnt even live with us. I tried getting over this but i feel like a chunk of my heart has been ripped out. I wake up and see hes not by my side and cry. My dad seems like the only one who cares. Hes the kind of guy who never cries and when i saw tears, i fell apart. Right now as im writing this im crying. Hes only been dead 2 days and i cant eat, sleep, or do anything. Somehow i feel like its my fault...but it wasnt. And the thought of it makes me cry even more. I miss him so much. I dont want anymore pets. And right now im angry...because i do know whose fault it was...my moms. I told my mom to help me grab him but she didnt. She didnt see the truck coming, and now hes dead. And also thats why i feel like its also my fault. I tried, i tried to grab him! And only if my mom would help...he'd still be alive. Also, before he died i was already depressed. Before summer vaca started i was bullied alot and i wasnt doing very good in school but the point is that this just adds on the the sadness. I love him to death and i feel like i cant even breath anymore. Please someone...i just need some advice on what to do! Im sorry this was long :(
I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
I'm feeling depressed. She left me because I lost my job and put on weight?
Hey, I'm 29. My fiance split up with me 2 weeks ago. I used to have a near perfect body. I used to run marathons and triathlons. But sadly, I injured my foot followed by my knee early this year. I couldn't do any sort of exercise so I sort of gained 30 pounds over the months. When my foot was alright, I promised myself that I'd lose the weight and be back in shape. But again, my knee was unstable and I almost tore my quadricep tendon. My podiatrist told me no activities until the pain goes. Then it was back to resting and gaining weight. I also got sacked in August. Well just when i thought things couldn't get any worse, my fiance decides to leave. According to her, I wasn't the hard-working, determined man she'd met. I'd become lazy and disorganized. i promised her that I'd become the man she loved as soon as I'd got some rest for my leg and a job. I'd got 2 degrees and I would never give up. But she really wanted out. She was kind and polite but she made it clear that she wasn't attracted to me anymore. So I just told her to do whatever made her happy. She said she was sorry. Now no calls, no messages, nothing for the past 2 weeks. I haven't contacted her either because I don't want to get her angry or upset. But I don't know what I'm going to tell my parents. I thought we really loved each other. Its just so depressing. She was my first girlfriend and my best friend. I'm really afraid about her finding someone else. I know that somehow, if I get a job she may come back. I know it was weak of me to eat emotionally when things went wrong. But it seems so hopeless at times. Is it possible to earn her love again? Thanks.
How can you make a girl suffering from depression fall in love with you?
I'm going to tell you about my experience. I was in love with someone who was so depressed, at one point he was near suicidal (he wasn't like that when I first met him). I have lost count of the number of nights I sat up with him, holding his hand, him crying because he wanted to give up and me crying because it hurt so much to see him in so much pain, but all the while fighting for him to hang on. A year later he is doing much better although I don't think he will ever be the same. I've become the friend that saved his life, but not someone he will ever be involved in romantically. It hurts - a lot - but just knowing I made a difference to his life and we still have this beautiful friendship is a relief in itself. I thank God he's still here because there were times when I thought he wouldn't be. It's the cross I bear - loving him so much, but knowing I can never have him. He's changed so much in the time I've known him and I wouldn't change any of what I've been through (in the end I thought I would rather have him inmy life as a friend than not at all). Your friend, as much as you love her, may not ever feel the same. You can't love anyone totally until you love yourself. I've learnt this the hard way. You also can't "fix" anyone, all you can do is offer your support and help when they need it. And don't hold your breath waiting for her to be ready. This will put so much pressure on her. Now isn't the best time to pursure a relationship. Just hang out with her, do fun things with her, be there for her if she wants to talk and maybe one day, when she's dealt with her issues and is feeling better, she may see you in a different light, or she may not. But if you have a beautiful friendship, then that's something, right?
Extremely depressed over breakup?
Sorry to hear about that. I think the problem is that you are not sure of his feelings and what he wants or why he did things because if he didn´t want you that would hurt a lot but with time you would recover and start another relationship or do whatever but forget about him and be happy again (as hard it could be at first). But since he keeps talking to you that´s damaging you because that makes your head be stuck on him. I think the guy has been bad to you and doesn´t deserve you, but if you are so in love you should talk to him when you have other oportunity and tell him that you are feeling very bad and that you rather not be friend of him because it hurts you. Anyway, what if he doesn´t text you again? You have to live, not meaning looking for another boy if you don´t want at this moment, but engage in your things, be happy, and not allow your mind to think about him. If he wants you he will call you. But never give up on you, even if you love him, then even do it for him. If a person loves you doesn´t want you to be sad. Anyway do it for you and for the people that love you and care about you. And my personal opinion now (I don´t know him and you don´t have to think the same way): you deserve better, he seems superficial and inmature, there are many nice boys even ones who doesn´t look so nice on the surface but have very good feelings.
I m so depressed and lonely after my breakup. Can someone plz help me?
I had one n half year relationship n my boyfriend broke up with me. We were in long distance relationship. I feel so lonely n depressed. I m ruining myself. Its been around two months. I cry all day.. I wait for his call n text all day. I think about all the time. Not able to work even. I tried everything to get over him but nothing helped. I hv lost all my friends. I am so alone n I am missing my boyfriend like hell. But he is gone. He is not contacting me. Please please help!!!!!! I feel like my life is ended.