How do you open up about depression?
Find your confidant and tell them everything, from the very beginning. Yes, it may take you through the pain again, but you have to understand that you are opening up for a reason and it’s important that you lay yourself bare in front of your friend, and get yourself understood and not judged. It’d going to hurt, but you are going to heal.If you have no one to open up to, text me. I’m always up for a conversation.Hope it helps.
Why do some depressed people get angry when they finally get away from the depressed feeling?
Because you become a stranger in a strange land. You become accustomed to the constant uncomfotability you feel and deep down believe that the feeling for you is normal and “just the way it is and will always be”. For someone who has never felt the dread of merely waking up in the morning having to face another day, or the emotionless (at least outwardly seeming) motions of life, it may seem weird. For me, depression was a vehichle. It was something that I wore well. Or at least I believed I did. My overwhelming melancholy was my creative fountian. Producing words and art and the occasional bad decision. It was my closest friend, and like peter pan and his shadow it was a love hate relationship. Humans are creatures of habit. We also try to be as comfortable as possible when the forces of nature, and our minds, let us. So, making the best of the situation (depression) we accept our fate and find our comfortability. We learn to navigate the dark and desolate corners of our minds like a cat in the dark. We memorize the pits and sinkholes, and become the old and lonely tour guides of the nightmare museums of our own minds that no one ever ventures to visit.Until medication, or therapy, or whatever candle you find or were given lights up your world. Its so bright it’s terrifying and everything looks and feels different. Your once “oh so certain truths” are tattered and crumbling in this new light and the recess of excuses and poor me are no longer welcoming and safe. You are a stranger to your thoughts and feelings.Then, there is the flashing neon warning signs reminding you that what goes up must come down. Never allowing comfort in this “happiness” for fear of the consequences of the inevitable plumit back into the abyss. Its only a matter of time.Depression is confusing. While it is a horrible place to dwell, it is a place a lot of people call home. While lots of people leave home and never return, home to some, will always be…… well home.If this makes any sense …. It is my understanding of why I at least never stray too far from home, just far enough away to never get trapped and lost there again, but still visit once in awhile.
My boyfriend has depression and has gone through a lot, how do i get him to open up to me?
Ok. I understand how you would want to break up with him. Communication is very important in relationships. You should tell him this. Next time you see him, and you two are alone, just take some time to talk to him. Look him in the eyes and tell him you're serious about what you've been asking him. Tell him that he needs to let you understand what he's been going through, or you'll probably never understand him. Tell him that you love him and care about him, and you only want whats best for him. On the other end of things, you need patience. You can't just set a deadline as to when you'll break up with him just because he won't talk. I've also been going through depression, a lot. As someone who goes through it, its VERY hard to open up to someone about what you've been going through. At times I'll definately not want to say anything. I've known my boyfriend for two years, and it took me up until about 1 month ago to tell him that I used to cut myself (and I haven't even cut myself in 3 years). It takes a lot of time for old wounds to heal so that you can actually talk about him. You need to understand it takes time. I guarantee you that if you stick by him through all of this, that he'll talk when he's ready to. When you talk to him about this, just tell him that you're there for him and tell him to take as much time as he needs to talk to you. This will probably make him feel a little better and take a lot of pressure as to telling you, off of him. If you really love this guy, you need to stick by him through anything, even if he won't talk to you about it at the time. And as for him, he needs to know communication will help a lot more. You said that he told you some things yesterday? Well, bring up one of the things he told you, and ask something about it. Maybe you can get him to open up a little bit more. Tell him that you'll be here for him, no matter what has happened before to cause him to get depressed. And that also, you're willing to let him take his time to tell you.
My parents ignore my depression?
I am 17, next year i will be a university student so i could have more freedom, but right now i feel like i wont make it. I've been battling these feelings for two years but it feels so much longer; i finally broke down and sobbed to my mother that i hated myself, my life. She stormed out angry, and kind of gave cross looks and ignored me for the following couple days. Now shes returned to this state where nothing happened, in just some 'confused angsty teen' and she acts all nice and distant. It was really embarrassing and hard to admit that all i think about is suicide, but now I know i cant even get help. All i want is some medication or therapy of some sort, but i cant do that through her since she manages my health insurance and fees. Plus next year i will still be under her health coverage. How can i get help when she ignores i need it?