First Time mom....third time dad...please help?
I have a 13 year old son whose dad was also pretty uninvolved with the pregnancy part but went bonkers in love with his son in the delivery room. I also had mood swings from hell, and you probably are reacting to those mood swings more than what your husband is actually doing or not doing. It's hormones and it's real. If he thinks you are faking it show him a book and look for support wherever you can get it without letting him drag you down. I don't think he can fake the "magic" and you probably wouldn't like it if he did. This is very normal behavior for guys during pregnancy. Definitely talk to your doctor, that's why s/he gets the big bucks.
Moms please help. im a first time mom?
Preemees have a hard time eating at first because of weak mouth muscles and swallow. If they have not shown you how to assist with this, I will try to describe it. You are going to have your baby in your left arm with the head cradled in the crook of your elbow like normal. Instead of just holding the bottle, you want the bottles nipple to go in the babies mouth and the bottle to lay resting on the back of your hand between your thumb and first finger people call it the snuff box area. So your thumb and first finger should be pointing at the baby. Next gently squeeze the side cheeks of the infant to give a little extra muscle support with your thumb and index finger on opposite sides whilebalso giving gentle upward pressure two with your middle finger on the bottom of the mouth to help the tonguebsuck. Just overall gentle pressure allaround could increase the babies oral intake.Good luck.
What advice would you give a first time mom?
Epidurals are a gift from God! It will get better (this applies to pretty much everything) By the time you figure out the solution to the problem, the problem will change (this applies to everything from sleeping to eating) It's ok to make mistakes - you won't scar the kid for life You can't hug him/her too much or tell him/her too often that you love him/her.
How do you feed your baby if you are a first time mom?
That depends on whether you plan on breast feeding, using a bottle, or both. Your birthing coach can help with that. Your insurance company may have a lactation specialist who can help, or you can go on-line and watch a video from La Leche League, which is a group that advocates breast feeding. You are supposed to work to toughen up your nipples by tugging on them. I didn’t find that too effective. When your baby is born, make sure if you are breast feeding to insist that the nurses do not give the baby a bottle. Shortly after they take the baby away to to all the tests and such they subject new borns to, they will bring the baby back to you. Sometimes they are very hungry and will latch right on. To help this process, lay on your side, tucking the baby into the crook of your arm. You might need to rub the nipple on the baby’s lips, or brush a finger on your baby’s cheek, starting at the apple and stroking down toward the lips. Babies work on smell for the first few weeks because their eyesight is so bad. They can recognize their mom’s scent within a few hours. Bottle feeding alone can start at the hospital or birthing center and the midwife/nurses will show you how to do it right. Don’t forget, you have friends and family who will not hesitate to tell you how if they think you are doing it wrong. Take a breath and keep on trying. Good luck!
HELP! first time mom, and my boobs are so ENGORGED that not only did they swell, i have hard lumps! ?
at the hospital everything was fine.. but when i got home, thats when the milk REALLY set in! and now i cant stop then from being rock hard! Ive tried everything... ive tried pumping in the shower, ive tried having water run over my breast and massaging them (it only made them swell more) ive had my boyfriend help me massasge them out as i was feeding her, ive tired to pump a little before i feed, ive tired cabbage leaves, ive but frozen veggie bags on my breast! And every time it helps a little but then it comes back, and the hard lumps dont go away, and now they are HUGE! i dont kno wat to do... shes feeding fine, but i am in WORLDS of pain! The lumps are even im my arm pit!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How can friends and family be most helpful to a first time mom with a newborn?
Every new mom is different, so the most helpful thing you could do is ASK the mom what she wants or what you can do for her.For example, if you want to go visit Mom and baby, phone or send a quick text: “Hey, I'm going to be at your place in __ minutes. Is there anything you need me to pick up for you?”This accomplishes two things.1) this gives her a time frame for your arrival. She has time to get herself ready and to handle any disruptions. If I got a text from someone coming over, I would put the dog in the backyard so his barking wouldn't wake the baby.2) You are offering to get her something she may need, saving her a trip.Also, when you go over, bring food. Seriously, Mommy has no time or energy to cook anything right now. Food is always appreciated.When you are over visiting, don't just sit there and hold the baby. Ask questions like, “is there anything you'd like me to tidy up?” or “Do you want me to hold baby while you go do anything/shower?”My SIL was over the moon about my son and asked me once while she was over, “Do you want me to hold the baby while you play the Sims?” I was shocked and pleased to be getting an hour of me-time while she cuddled her nephew. It helped to recharge a little.Also, do not expect to be waited on. Get your own damn glass of water and let Mom rest.
First time mom and unbellical cord?
Na.. nothing special, you can take a real bath now! Some people like to save the scab.. personally I think thats gross but... to each their own. Congrats!
My dad choked my mom for the first time today... what should I do?
Do you have an aunt or cousin that you can talk to? If your parents drink & fight like that, it could become dangerous for you & your brothers. If your dad is willing to choke your mom today, he might be willing to do worse tomorrow. If you don't have any family to talk to, maybe you could talk to a school counselor or someone at a teen or family center in your community. Or maybe a reverend or deacon at church? I'm really scared for you. I hope you have someone you can talk to that can get your parents the help they need. My dad was an alcoholic who became abusive to my mom & us kids so it took her a long time but she finally had to leave when he almost killed my little brother in a drunken rage. You could also try to contact the local chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous or Al Anon. I bet they have some people you could talk to that went through what you are going through now. Al Anon is a support group for the family of alcoholics. They have special groups for teenagers and kids whose parents are drinkers. Keep us updated. I hope you can find some help.