As a man, will you get upset if your girlfriend/wife texts other men as friends?
You asked men to respond, probably because you (a man) are upset with your partner who is continuing to text other male friends.As a female who would never agree to give up friendships with my married or single male friends based on a partner’s request, I think it’s important that you (and your readers) understand that we all have people in our lives before a committed relationship.Friends come into our lives at different times, and stay for various amounts of time. My closest friendships are over 50 years old, and have survived through dating, breakups, marriages, etc. (Either theirs or mine).No partner in his right mind asks someone to “give up” their friends. If your partner says they are friends, that’s where you should leave it. Friends have a special bond; one that “dating” or “marriage” doesn’t even come close to. Friends are who we confide in, who give us advice, who cheer us on, who listen when we’re sad.Dating is finding someone who’s compatible to you and your lifestyle. It’s not about changing who THEY are. Find someone that fits your “mold” (if you must), but don’t expect someone to change THEIR life and/or friends because you expect them to.I don’t understand why people shouldn’t have to change in a relationship. I’m not talking about substance abuse or something done for the health of an individual, I’m simply talking about friendships.
My boyfriend is on a guys' trip. Am I wrong to be upset?
You aren't wrong but you aren't really right either. From what you said you don't really have a reason to not trust him and that seems to be the biggest issue. Posting a picture with a girl doesn't mean he did anything wrong. It doesn't mean the girl was invited along nor does it mean he did anything with her. She could have been a friend, a stranger, or someone that they hung out with that asked for a picture. But if you talked and were okay when he got back, it isn't fair to keep holding it against him. Also he is on a guy's trip. He is there to hang out with his friends, relax, and have fun. Give him a break and don't be mad that he isn't texting you 24/7. He shouldn't have to be checking in with you and you shouldn't be panicking or overthinking things just because he doesn't text you every hour. In the details you say, "I haven't been clingy, I give him space and let him have fun with his friends." But if you are mad because he isn't texting you all day, then you aren't giving him space and letting him have fun. You're mad and upset because he is out having a good time with his friends and not spending time on the phone with you. That shows that you don't trust him and you're insecure with the relationship. If you get mad at him for that when he gets home, you are putting him in a position where he has to choose between his friends and you. Wanting to have some free time to go out isn't wrong and he shouldn't be required to text you all day when he is out with friends. As long as he isn't doing anything illegal or cheating on you, give him some space.You don't really have a good reason to be mad at him and you're probably taking things too far. When he gets home talk to him and explain why you were upset. But don't attack him and make sure he knows that you realize you were overreacting a bit and are feeling a bit insecure. If you don't punish him or make him feel guilty, he will probably make sure to make you feel comfortable and secure when he goes out. But if you give ultimatums or yell, you're just going to drive him away. Then, you just need to build up the trust because that is the real issue between you.
My Boyfriend gets mad when i talk to my ex... what should i do?
It's understandable that your boyfriend would be upset. The reason for this is because guys only persue friendships with girls who they want to have sex with (unless the girl is completely sexually irrelevant - aka a fat chick or something, and she's just "one of the guys"). Given that your ex dated you and probably slept with you, it's clear that he finds you sexually appealing. So in other words, your boyfriend knows (as does every other guy on the planet) what this guy's agenda is. You don't know because you're a girl and you're blissfully unaware/naive about the motives guys have. You think he actually just wants to be your friend. That's so cute! Here's another thing to consider: how happy would you be if your boyfriend all of a sudden decided to start hanging out with and talking to one of his exes? Would you be totally fine with that, especially if his ex was really pretty or had bigger boobs than you? Somehow I think things might be different then. Think about it.
My boyfriend gets mad when i hang out with my ex?
Wow you are asking a much debated question. My opinion is that two previous lovers can not just be friends. If there were feelings before then there will always be a slight tension between the two of you, whether it's for your side, his side or both. It also depends on the type of relationship you had, how old you are etc... But i find it disturbing to have the person you are dating hanging out with their ex. They are an ex for a reason and it should stay that way unless you are trying to get back with him. I can see your point where you just see him as a friend but you also have to see that the person you are dating will have insecurities about the two of you hanging out. It's natural to feel that way because he cares about you and sees your ex as a threat to the relationship. Put yourself in the situation, would you be cool with him hanging out with an ex and not knowing what they are really doing? It creates unnecessary insecurities that will create fights and affect your relationship. It's all about putting yourself in the other person's shoes and communicating. Good Luck
Guy's keep on flirting with me, my boyfriend gets mad?
It doesn't seem to be a matter of trust- it's a matter of that he's not that special to you, because if you were, HE wouldn't tell you to flirt back and he would tell his friends to back up. Just like one time - My man and I had been dating for a short while and he took me to hang out in his friends house. I was wearing a simple sweater, jeans and sneakers - yet as soon as I walked through the door, one friend kept flirting with me, telling me I was so hot, and he would love me if my boyfriend didn't. I wasn't going to tolerate it, so I told him upfront to lay off. He didn't, and when he made a comment about how well endowed he was, my boyfriend had it. He got between me and his friend, got in his face, and with grabbing him by the shirt collar, told him how he better lay off of me and respect me or else he was going kick his ***. It was an awkward situation, but things are better now and I know it's because my boyfriend stuck up for me and didn't eat any of the s*** his friend was dishing out. Moral of the story: When a guy really loves a girl, he should be doing all he can ( within reason) to make sure that no one else gets to her - especially his friends !
My boyfriend...gets mad when im with friends?
When we first started dating all was good. In the middle of our relationship, i'd hang out with my friends and he'd go phsyco. Calling over and over till I answered and then just fighting with me till I go home. Now I got it to where we dont fight, but he's still short with me in texts and he makes it obvious something is wrong.. which makes me mad. but he doesnt understand it. he says my friends are more important then him cuz i see them all day at school, and he wants me to call him every brake and i don't want to. (i've never givin him a reason to be like this either, never cheated on him or talked to other guys, he knows i have a few friends who are guys but im honest with him about that) and i don't even go to my friends every day or every other day. just once in a while. why does he get like this??? What are some good arguments i can have towards why it's important to have time with friends...? I dont want him to feel like he's any less important.
Why do I get so upset and emotional when my boyfriend goes out with his friends?
I don't know..How would anyone but yourself know the answer to why you are feeling a certain way about something that you are experiencing?That would be like me asking you why I seem to like Burger King over McDonald's..?…But, if you are just looking for some general random guesses, mine would either be:It is that time of the month, you are PMS’ing, and your hormones are all out of wack.You are one of those super needy girlfriends who always needs/wants to be around your boyfriend, 24/7, to the point where you are suffocating him. And maybe you kinda know this. So when he takes some time out for himself to go hang with the boys, you feel guilty that you made him feel the need to take some “him time” and go unwind with his friends.Or maybe it's a little bit of #2, coupled with the fact that you feel that he doesn't feel the same way you feel about him… where you feel that all you need in life is him, and only him.. And that your life and your world is just you and him… and you want him to feel the same way.. But he doesn't.. Maybe because he feels like he is being suffocated.. And that you are trying to change him and change his life by wanting him to be with you all the time, not letting him hang out with his friends (cause you know, both you and him had other friends before you guys started dating.. And everyone hates that one friend who stops hanging out with you because they got themselves a new bf/gf), and making him feel guilty for when he does go out..Or maybe you are upset with yourself for feeling like this..Man.. I thought I was going to only list 1 or 2 things, but after #4, I realized that I could keep going, so I'm going to stop.Hope I answered your questions.. How did I do?
My boyfriend gets mad when i go out with my (male) friends, does he have the right to be mad?
The following is an attempt to seriously answer this question, unlike the 3 answers above. Don't worry, not all guys are the same. However, it is easy to think that all guys or girls are the same if you keep meeting the same TYPE.. for example if you only meet guys at bars. If your boyfriend is angry that you hung out with other guys after midnight, then he is either worried over nothing or worried over something. Based on your question it doesn't seem like you are doing anything obviously wrong with these guys, but you have to figure out (or ask him to tell you) what specifically bothers him about this. For example, if you are going clubbing with these guys, I think that it is reasonable for him to not like the idea of you dancing in a hot sweaty club with other guys. But if you are just going to hang out somewhere, then it's not such a big deal. But it doesn't matter what I think, only what he is thinking. Some guys are very, very protective over their girls and just "don't like the idea" of you hanging out with other guys. Maybe your boyfriend thinks that one of your friends is going to make a move on you and he doesn't want you to be in that situation, either because he doesn't trust YOU, or he really thinks that the other guy (your friend) is trying to get you for himself. Either way, in my experience this kind of anger represents insecurity in the relationship and you two should talk about it. If you are 22 and he doesn't trust you enough to be comfortable with you spending time (even after midnight) with other guys, then maybe you should reconsider being in a relationship with him. Would you be comfortable with him hanging out with other girls that late? If not, then maybe you two should move on, or talk about it. Good luck, Jeff
When my boyfriend leaves or goes with friends why do I get upset if he doesn't talk to me?
Are you upset because he ignores you when he heads out of the house? Or are you upset because while he’s out with his friends and not answering your bajillion text messages?If the former, then it’s because he’s a jerk and he’s making you feel insignificant. It’s a normal feeling, and you need to discuss it with him in a calm, adult manner. Own your feelings, don’t put him on the defensive, say things like, “It makes me feel like I’m not important to you, when you don’t give me a kiss good-bye, when you go out.” He may not realize what he’s doing/not doing.If it’s the latter… that’s your insecurity and jealousy taking over. Put yourself in his shoes: He’s out having beer with the guys, laughing, talking about old times, generally having a good, relaxing time. But then you start blowing up his phone for no reason, asking where he is, when he’s going to be home, who he’s with. Girl, the tighter you hold the leash, the more likely he is to slip out of the collar and take off!Men do not like clingy, overbearing women. It’s fine to text him random “I just wanted to know I love you, and hope you’re having fun with the guys!” texts. It’s also fine to ask him to pick up something at the store on the way back from where ever he’s at. It is also equally okay to ask him to call or text you when he gets to where he’s going, and when he’s on his way home, just so you know that he’s safe. It is not fine for you to be all up in his business like he’s a criminal. Would you want him to do the same to you? That type of controlling behavior is considered abuse by many.You need trust in a relationship for it to work. If you don’t trust him, and he hasn’t given you a reason (real, not imagined) for you to feel that way, then you need to check yourself at the door. If he has given you reason (real, not imagined) to not trust him, then why are you still with him??? Get yo’ a$$ out of there and find a real man!Real men won’t hide their activities from their partners, because real men don’t cheat.