Something just doesn't feel right about this situation, can I get some advice please?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. Well for the past month he has been talking to this girl Ciara a lot. At first it was just they were catching up because he graduated in January and hadn't seen her since. Now it's that's his buddy he has to look out for because they are going to the same college in August. They talk on the phone for hours and even last night were on video chat for almost 3 hours. They are going to see a movie this weekend. He's spending 4th of July with her family and even going to the beach with her sometime next month. I tried not to think of it as something so horrible but then I was talking to a friend that went to school with them both (i'm a year younger and go to a different school). I found out that they used to talk dating wise in like October and stopped in January. They stopped because he graduated but once they found out they were going to the same college they got close again. I think what got to me the most is I was messing with his phone and he still has a picture of her in it from when they first met and another that was just something she sent. It wasn't provocative but I don't know..... It just seems like something isn't right. I don't know if I should go as far as leave him but I just don't want to get hurt! An that's how it seems to be leading. What are others opinions on this? I know this isn't exactly marriage but I need somebody experienced in love and dating advice
Would you confront the person (or people) your spouse is cheating with?
I had my chance.But I let it go. I look back now and see I made a mistake. I should have beat his fucking ass like the bitch that he is. But in my heart, I knew it was karma. I had to pay for what I did years before.In 1999 I took another man's wife.I started talking to her online a couple of years before. I was married. She was married. I didn’t like my wife and she didn’t like her husband. She lived a long way away, then one day she moved closer. Eventually she came to see me and it was love at first sight. Even more than that, I loved her before we ever met.We made love the second day we had together. Then she went back home and tried again. They went through counseling, something she said was just to say she tried.16 years later she talked me into moving to a strange place and I met the guy, who like the song said, was “just a friend”. We went to counseling after I caught her cheating. Just to say she tried. I’m looking at the counselor while she said all of the right things that were all wrong. Lies. Going through the motions. Ducks in a row. Rehearsed answers with the finger pointed in the right direction.Deja vu.Exact same situation. Years later.I’m in a liquor store. I see him, he doesn’t see me. He walks out. I’m right behind him. He’s staring at the ground, he never looks up. He never looks anyone in the eyes. I’m ready to take him down. But then I think about days gone by.I believed what she said. Years ago. How bad her husband was. Her innocence. His behavior. I remembered when I was her knight in shining armor. Now he was the knight, saving her from me.I watched him get in his car and drive away.I am strong and fast. He looks old and tired. I wanted to hurt him but I know in time he will hurt too. I deserved it. He will too.I paid the price. He will too. But not by my hand.Karma is, indeed, a nasty bitch.
How do I make my Wife stop treating me like a worthless piece of crap?
My wife is bossy, arrogant and narcissistic. She speaks to me like I'm some stupid little kid she's trying to control. She manipulates me into always doing things her way. She constantly runs up my credit cards and takes money from me because she always "needs" the finest of EVERYTHING. She even CHEATS on me with other guys because she thinks I'm not really fit and handsome enough for her and she wants "new experiences". As much as I hate her I love her at the same time because she's very attractive...and I don't want to be alone...and sadly I've gotten used to her behavior. How do I make her quit treating me like a worthless piece of sh*t?
What was the last thing you said to your ex?
Thursday, August 29 at 7:30 PMMy phone rang, it was my ex calling me after two months. I knew the purpose of the call instantly.Me: Hey ! . . .been a while.She: How are you? Any luck with the job?Me: Well …, the search is still on; I have two leads though, mostly it will work out.She: Okay.Me: So . . . How are thi…She: My marriage is fixed.Me: Wow . . . that’s great news! I am so happy for you. (I had been practicing this for a while)Me: So, who is the lucky guy ?She: I can’t tell you.Smiling forcefully even though she couldn't see meMe: Ohkay …. What’s his name?She: I can’t . . .I wasn't prepared for such a responseMe: So, when is the big day? Are you engaged? (My heart skipped so many beats when I asked her this; yet, I was surprised uttering such words without blacking out)She: It’s not decided yet. (Gloomily)Me: I want to tell you something . . .I am sorry for all the times I have hurt you.She: (Sobbing)Me: I just want you to do everything in your wedding, how you always imagined it to be, go all the way out and invite all our friends.She: I am sorry, I can’t invite you.Like i'd come if you did invite, I thoughtMe: I know . . . that’s OK.She: (Sobbing)Me: It’s Okay (Smiling widely , I was hoping that'd reflect in my voice). The worse is over, it’s done. I wish you all the happiness in the world, I have nothing against you. Go ahead with your life and live it fully, and may be someday when we are way ahead in the future, I hope we run into each other. Remember this, you are a beautiful person, you deserve to be happy. (I ended my speech)She: I am sorry. (Sobbing)My mum called for me from downstairsShe: Goodbye, Sujath.Me: Goodbye,*her name*.Her last word was my name and my last was hers.She got engaged after two days and married month and a half later.That was the last time we spoke.
My Husband Made Me Feel like $2 Whore?
We stay at my husbands parents home for Christmas and last night I had a few drinks and while we were in bed i got naked and started dancing for my husband and wanted to have sex. My husband refused to do it saying that it was his dad's house and his dad was going to kick us out of the house if we do it and while I was on top of him he pushed of the bed and I ended up hurting my arm. This morning everyone knew about it and his mom told me that she heard everything and I should have behaved better and not use my sexy looks to seduce my own husband and that I dress too sexy and I wear to tight too short dress. My husband was setting there the whole time and haven't said no thing about it. I wanted to cry so bab!!! I mean I"m not whore and I don't dress like one. What should I do know, Should I leave? Or Should I stay till Christmas day?
Do you think that the dowry system will cease to exist in the next 15 years because we are the new generation and don't support such type of traditions?
To a certain extent, Yes.I have recently asked my parents to put NO DOWRY criteria in a matrimonial profile. Earlier they refused but then I discussed the social problems like what we read in the newspapers and what's happening in our social circle. Many cases of dowry demand and violence and female foeticide or discrimination against girl child is still rampant in cities in my neighborhood, etc.Gradually they understood and supported it. Now they promote NO DOWRY in their circles.Its important to understand that times have changed. Dowry is a curse of the worst kind. Today women and men are equally capable and work and earn and share each other's work.Dowry is the source of huge number of problems like domestic violence, abuse, dependence, suffering, pain, expectations, inequality and unnecessary demands and greed, etc.Financial independence of women is equally important for men because it helps the family to have peace and autonomy. Men and women share decision making and take responsibility for their action in life.Further in-law family feels respected and self dignity of the husband remains intact because marriage is a union of two equal souls.Even at the time of separation in some circumstances, women always have some skill and income to live with dignity after divorce or feed a child if any.Independence of women is the sine quo non for a developed India of the future.New generation is assertive and egalitarian in many ways due to higher education and social media and rising awareness of rights and the increasing prosperity with time.This new generation must start talking to parents about social issues and respect women as a norm. This communication will bring the real change.Thanks for A2A.