What does it mean when someone says that they feel bad for you?
It depends. If they are truly empathetic, then they can imagine your pain and understand it. They long for a resolution and actively look for ways to help. They try to imagine what might be helpful to you. They may offer solutions of their own because they are trying to imagine how you feel and are eager to see you happy. They want to hear from you what assistance they can provide or seek out for you. They stay actively involved in your life. They feel connected with you in an important way. They won't feel good about your situation until they understand that you feel better. Never doubt their compassion for you, because they don't.Sympathy can look and feel a little different from empathy. Sympathy is a two-sided sword, so to speak, because it comes from noticing pain but not understanding or feeling connected to it. A sympathetic person can be helpful or harmful- it depends.Sometimes people who "feel bad for you" realize that you feel bad and they want to make you feel better by showing that they understand. They say what they say to show compassion. They don't exactly understand where you're coming from. but they'd like to help resolve your situation because they care for you. They're available and willing to listen to your pain. In other words, they feel a responsibility toward you, but they feel frustrated when they don't have something specific to do. They will stay with you over time. They want to see things resolve, so that you'll feel better. They are your friend.Some people's pity is top-down in nature. It doesn't feel good when you hear it. They know something is wrong with you. They are showing that they recognize pain when they see it. They don't know what to do about it. They see themselves as more privileged and better off. They don't think that what's happened to you will ever happen to them and they can't imagine what it must feel like to be in your position. They want you to know that they see your pain but they don't feel connected to it. They may initially try helping in some way but they don't really want to and they're not going to listen for very long. They don't listen well. They will feel pity toward you and this may actually hurt your feelings. They don't know if things will resolve themselves but they will watch to see if they do. They feel separate and apart. They are not your friend.
Do you have sympathy for men with mental illnesses?
Well, I’ll say I relate to the feeling of having to fight your conscience and put on a facade.And yes, I know how difficult it is to not feel weak. To not sink into a pit of cynicism and despair. The feeling of not having what it takes to succeed.Personally, the most tiresome thing about it is having to deal with people who just don't get it, no matter how many times you try to explain yourself. Some people just can't understand anything they can't see concretely.All I can say is that there are people out there who can help. People who've trained their whole lives to help those who feel helpless. You’re only hurting yourself by not taking g advantage of their services. All it takes is a little initiative from you.Don't beat yourself up. Seek out help.
Do cheaters deserve any sympathy?
Personally, I have absolutely no respect what so ever for girls who cheat on their significant others. I have met many girls who have done it and felt remourse for what they did, and I have met others who tried to justify it using logic and reason (meaning they were not sorry they did it). Personally, I don't care what the reason is. To me, they are cheaters, sluts, and worthless pieces of trash. I have not been cheated on, nor have I cheated on anyone else. It has happened to some of my closest friends though. Homewrecking (hooking up with a guy who the girl KNOWS is taken) is equally wrong, if not much worse. It shows an ultimate sign of disrespect to the other person's relationship. With all this said, is it wrong to publicize the fact that someone cheated on facebook? I see no problems with it, since I have nothing but disgust for people who do it.
Why don’t women just reject me, when they’re not interested?
You sound like a sensible person who just wants to get on with your life and not waste time. If someone likes you, great! If not, no harm, no foul but you’d rather hear the truth and not shilly shally. Fair enough.Good! You seem to have your head on straight. If a woman decides she doesn’t want to date you, it is not the end of the world. What a relief!I’ll make two points.1. Some women really are taking their time to decide if they really do like you or not. Women are socialized to be nice and many are not comfortable with rejecting someone straight out without giving them a chance. Give them the benefit of the doubt and assume that they are giving you the benefit of the doubt. Reassure them. If you feel like you’re getting to the point where it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, feel free to say something like, “Hey, it’s ok if you aren’t in to it. Just let me know and I’ll move on. I won’t get mad.” Then don’t. Part politely and leave behind good memories. You are allowed to make this determination irrespective of the other person’s intentions. If you get to a point where you feel the relationship is not progressing, you can say, “You’re a nice person but I don’t feel we’re compatible. I don’t think we should see each other any more.” Then you will get to see what rejection looks like from the other side and see how well the woman takes it. You may find yourself in sympathy with those women who tried to let you down easily.2. As many others have pointed out, most women have had really negative experiences with guys who react VERY badly to rejection. Badly in the sense of abusive talk or action. There was one dip stick here on Quora asking why he couldn’t just slap women who rejected him. Hmm, I bet that happens to him a lot.Dude, we need your help. We need you and other decent, right minded guys to shut that sort of crap RIGHT THE HELL DOWN! Use the full force of your scorn and peer pressure to shame the jerks who treat other people like that.Don’t let these creeps try to disguise bullying and domination as masculinity. It has nothing to do with being a man and everything to do with being a jerk. Don’t let them hide behind you. Call them out. Say something. Make the world safe for women to be honest about dating.Good luck, hun. Just continue to be yourself and things will sort themselves out in time. You’ll do fine.
I want to kill my self life is not worth living.?
i hate life i hate living don't nobody care about me or love me. My mother got sick and had a stroke and she will never be the same i don't even think she even know who i am. And that mess is freaking getting to me she had the stoke when she was 35 years old im crying right now. This dude ruin my life because i think he gave me herpes because im breaking out into rashes all over my body well my stomach,arm,and neck but he trying to deny it like he haven't done anything and he don't know how i could have gotten it.this dude was trying to make it seem like i sleep around and if i did i would say so but i don't sleep around i really don't even go any where that mess has been stressing me out because i found out so much stuff about him that he lied about his age told me he was 25 but actually is 33 that he tried to sleep with my friend and the girl is his cousin who would do that man that's nasty. he know my situation what i am dealing with the people i live with don't care about me and call me crazy and don't even act like i am part of their family. Man then i got to see this dude every day because he work at my school. I just want to die so freaking bad my life is messed up im going to be back in the 12th grade because i failed physics and i need that to graduate.my weight has been up and down. i try to sleep so i cant deal with whats going on.some body talk to me because i really don't want to try to kill my self again like i tried to by taking 14pills it almost work i just need to talk to some body no negative comments just people that want to help.
Why do women hate confident men?
anytime i say "ooh im ugly no women wants me" they all run and flock to me with sympathy and say "dont worry i choose you over a black man anyday" so we have sex and then i never see them again. And when i am confident and say "hey sexy lady, your sexy, im sexy lets get together" they run away to the stupid ganster black guys. Even when im ganster and be all like "yo, can i get yo digggits" they laugh at me or they say "umm no thanks".. but if i complain to them about how i cant pick up girls for life they all say "its okay hunny, here is my number you can call me anytime" what is this backwards way of thinking women have today?? why is it so hard for us white men to get women these days?? they either hate our confidence or love us out of pitty??
Why do people say "sorry to hear that" when they mean "I am sorry that happened"?
I’m generally not sorry about things that happened, of which I had no control. I usually say, “I’m sorry to hear that” for lack of a better verbal phrase of condolence or sympathy, for a situation that I haven’t enough experience to which to relate, nor can I offer empathy.For example, when my grandmother died, I had only met her three times in my life. She lived some 11,000 miles away from me, and while we enjoyed each other’s company when we did meet, she was not really in my life when I was a child growing into adulthood.So when I hear that a friend has lost a grandparent that he was close to, I can’t really empathize with him to the degree that I wish I could. So, out comes that trite statement, “I’m sorry to hear that,” along with a hug and a, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do.” My feelings, actions and intentions are genuine, but sometimes any amount of words that come to my head in the moment are simply inadequate for the occasion.
A question for men home cooked meal vs hot pocket? (sex question)?
Well Jessi my spouse and I have been married for 54 years, although she's 72 she can and does pass for 45 or younger, she's one of those that never shows her age. She always has a guy hitting on her but, she's all done with sex. Five grown children and a lot of "lady" problems, the Bartholomew's glands prolapsed and she had to have a screen put in, a lot of stitching. She isn't active anymore. She has been "horny" once this past two years when she really came after it. Porno movies help when I want it but, I'm in the same condition. I have a crushed spine and am disabled. I can, when we hug and snuggle, get her going with my tongue and fingers. She is so sweet and lovable and then it happens. Men have to understand that a women may not want the same thing as a man. I go slowly, it takes us a couple of hours sometimes and she'll crawl to the ceiling. By the way, I can't keep it up but, there are other ways when the time comes. I do know she's completely satisfied and it's enough for both of us. We love each other dearly, that time for me is closer then we think, with four heart attacks, once dying on the table. We talk about it but, I have been so filled in my life with her, I won't complain. I hope this is clear. Life is more then sex, it's love and feelings, mental and physical. Thank you for listening.