Is he socially awkward, nervous, or being selfish with me?
So there's this guy that I like, and he likes me too. We're not necessarily together, but we go on dates. Lately, I've begun to notice a pattern with him. When we hang out with other people, he doesn't speak to me or sometimes even come near me, and it's not with certain people. It's with everyone except his best friend, who is also a good friend of mine. Like the other night, one of my friends were over at my house along with him. He knows this girl and he's sorta friends with her, and there's no problem between them. So I tried to get him to come and hang out with us, but he sat down for a few seconds and then stood up and went into the other room to go and sit on his phone. And this stuff doesn't just happen with my friends, but with his friends too (although that could be because I'm third wheeling it, which is okay, sometimes you have to third wheel). I don't know. Is he just socially awkward, nervous, or is he being selfish with me? That may come across as sorta self absorbed, but I don't mean to be. I'm just naming the options I know of. I mean, it could be something else. Help?
Why do people think shy people are selfish?
I'm a shy guy so I understand and accept that many people just won't like me. I can accept the fact that people will find me boring or aloof but selfish is the last word I would think to hear when referring to a shy person. I would think someone who is selfish is the type of person who has no respect for the boundaries of others, someone who always has to make it about themselves and could care less about other people. I'm not that way at all, I'm just not a social butterfly and people shouldn't expect me to be that way just because they're that way. Why do people think shy people are selfish?
Social anxiety at a party, please help.?
I get really nervous and anxious in social situations when I'm among large groups or with people who I don't know. I get really shy, awkward, quiet, and pretty much unable to talk. My boyfriend's sister, who is 10 years older than me, is having a Halloween party. The only person I'll really know there will be my boyfriend. Everybody else will be drinking, and possibly be doing drugs; I don't do either of these things. My boyfriend told me that at the party he won't stay with me and I'll have to go by myself. This really stresses me out, and I know I won't be good at socializing with others because they already know each other, they're way older than me, and they'll be under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Do you think my boyfriend should let me stay with him at the party? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
I'm mean, rude, cold, selfish; I have stolen many objects etc. Why am I a bad and weird person?
Well as much as this will piss you off. The answer is because you choose to be like that. Now hold on before crucifying me and let me explain:When I was young I used to be an introvert. I was a shy, socially awkward person who was too nervous to approach people but yet felt lonely and blamed myself for it. Long story short I am now a very socially active, confident person. I can lead any conversation and am very capable of easily making new friends. How did this change come you ask?I thought I had gone through an experience that taught me who I am. I like to think that via experiences I have learned a valuable life lesson that has strengthened me as a person. The truth however is far less interesting. I was a waiter…I served food and had to take loads of crap from customers. This taught me the first step into changing myself. And that was to really not care about what others thought.To be a waiter you eventually become resistant to others opinions ( trust me people have a lot of them )However the next step turned out to be the most important. That was for me to actually accept who and what I am. Now you can look at this and say HA! See you were born the way you are but this is not true. You see… I had to take a look at myself, the good and the bad. Once I realized and made peace with who I am, I had the opportunity to choose which parts of myself I will give attention to and nurture, and which I will actively avoid giving control over my life to.You see I am a dick… I am selfish, and possessive. I don’t care much about others’ opinions.BUTI am also loving. I can be kind. I value my friends and will go far for them. I love nature and animals etc.I look at all these contrasts within myself. I recognize them for what they are and I accept that they are all a part of me. NOWI can choose which part of me I want to grow and develop. I can actively try everyday not to be the negative things. ( And i say actively cause trust me it is a daily battle )But to be a good person isn’t someone who is just good inside. It is someone who actively chooses to entertain only the good in him.OR not!!!!You don’t have be a nice person: THERE ARE NO RULES BUT WHAT WE DECIDE ARE RULES. However… I promise you continue not to work on your flaws and you will remain friendless.Work on them however day by day, and you will be surprised what difference it can make :)
Is shyness a turn off for guys?
Not really. We guys can be shy, but most of times it just we prefer to stay quite and want people to leave us alone. Not because we're always shy. Personally, I don't find shyness in a girl a turnoff. I find it cute actually. :) Makes me feel less nervous. Because when a girl is too confident, most of us often feel intimidated by it; it feels like we have to keep our game up or things will get awkward soon. So yeah, being shy is actually a good thing. But try to be more outgoing sometimes.
Do guys like shy or outgoing girls?
outgoing mostly i think. cos if you have confidence in yourself and love yourself and believe youre funny then other people will too. answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar.DPp82P_QEgzlJ3724qGYJ53NG;_ylv=3?qid=20110414071040AAJhU8g