Teach my 6 year old how to appreciate?
So my daughter is 6 1/2. And she doesn't appreciate anything me, my husband, grandparents, or anyone else does for her. Sometimes when money is tight and I need to grab some groceries from the store i will say Jay, mommy and daddy don't have a lot of money right now so i cant buy you any toys ok? She will say ok. So when we get into the store she will ask for a toy. And, very nicely, I will tell her i cant. Well that's it. Shes throwing a complete temper tantrum in the store and talking so mean to me all because i cant afford to buy her a freakin toy. We will go out to eat, say to Apple Bee's. I will ask her if shes hungry and she will say yes. Shell order her food and when it comes take two bite and be done. Which never really bothered me because shes a grazer anyway. But i will get it to go and later that day or next day for lunch she will say I'm not eating that...And get such an attitude. She doesn't appreciate anything. Toys, clothes, food, nothing. And shes getting worse. She has a nice little movie collection going. well the other day i went in to clean her room and there were DVD's laying all over the place. in the closet under clothes, under her bed. where she just throws them because shes too lazy to put them back in the dvd case that holds all her DVD's. So i took them all away for a week and that seems to be helping. So, I'm thinking about tonight, after she falls asleep. Loading up all of her toys, movies, everything and taking them to my mothers house, whom we don't visit often. Ive got to do something to teach this girl how to appreciate things before she gets older. Ive had many talks explaining that daddy has to work hard to get the money we use to buy things.( I am a stay at home mom for the time being) And that sometimes we don't have the money..over and over Ive had that talk. Ive talked with her about kids whose parents are poor and cant even afford toys for Christmas. Ive tried everything else. Spanking, time outs, grounding. And nothing seems to work. So my question is, Were your kids this way and how did you fix it? Do you think taking all of her toys away will show her whats it like to have nothing? Any advice will help. Thank you!
How do rich people prevent their kids from being spoiled or arrogant?
Rich parents have got double responsibility to see the wealth is used for great purposes in the world and to see to it that they raise great kids who contribute to make the world more meaningful and less painful.When richness in character is imbibed more than monetary value among kids, they are betterAccess to huge wealth or funds can be made available after a certain age (say 18)Rich kids have easy access to world’s famous books/gadgets/media that can be shared by the parents as meet up/ exhibition / sessions so that kids meet people from all background, share stuff and are groundedParents can make the kids aware that exclusive access to wealth is not the goal but shared access to wealth creates happinessParents can themselves maintain simple and disciplined life style, as kids easily replicate what they seeThe pursuit of art, paintings, music or any form of relaxation gives balanced approach to life and kids of rich can be trained in any of these to give them grounded approach to lifeEstablish that money is great but cannot supplement character. This can be time and again taught and parents have to inculcate this principle in kids through a great network with valuable friendshipsPrevent access to evils of wealth like drugs, guns, violence / vulgar sources of any form (online or direct)Take kids regularly at least once in a year to less privileged homes to offer money/time/education etc so that there is awarenessTo teach kids that money is just one dimension but not the ultimate reality of life. By concentrating on lot many other areas like science, sport, frequent outdoors, charity, travel and having a multifaceted life kids are raised as great citizens of tomorrow
Why are my kids acting so mean to me when I never did anything?
Hi, I'm 15, and I was the same wasy when I turned 12...but I don't understand why your kids are acting out this way. Sure, it could be a phase that they're going through, but this stuff shouldn't be happening with 16 year olds. I think what you're doing wrong is that you give your kids everything that they want. The problem with that is that now they expect you to give them everything that they want. What happens when you spoil your kids is that they get used to being spoiled, and they think that you;re SUPPOSED to give them what they want and when they want it without working hard to earn it. Maybe you should start being more strict. What I mean is stand up for yourself and don;t let them take avantage of you. YOU are the parent, and you have control over them. The thing is, you have to earn respect from your children by teaching them morals (and following them yourself). Don't let them get away with treating you like this. Talk to them, and tell them how you feel. You're human, after all, and your feelings get hurt too. They need to understand that. As for the over-spoiling of your children, you have to stop giving them everything everytime they want something. They need to EARN things by behaving and getting good grades and treating you well. Remind your kids of all the things you provided them with(without sounding obnoxious), while you never asked anything from them in return. Maybe they will feel guilty for what they've done to you. Since Eli is the oldest child, you need to focus on getting him to know how to behave. It seems like your other two children follow his example. Once you've gottem him in the right state of mind, work on your other two children. They will most likely follow his example. What I see here is really sad. I really appreciate my parents because they treat me well, and I would never do this to my parents. I think that the fact that they're good looking and the fact that they get everything they want kind of makes them feel like they have more priveledges. It's bewildering what society does to people. Your kids HAVE to start appreciating all the things that you do for them. It makes me feel bad that you're a single mother working so hard for your kids and they don't even respect you.
How do you give a child everything they want and need without spoiling them?
Giving everything a child needs includes a good dose of letting them face a hard truth of life — that people can’t have everything they want.Now, don’t get me wrong — you can buy your kids fancy toys, expensive things and even indulge them in material things — if you can afford to do so. There’s very little need to create artificial scarcity and material goods will not spoil children.However if you don’t let them face the consequences of their actions or if you replace love and attention with material things, that is a sure-proof way to teach wrong lessons that will hinder your children when they are older.People need to face the consequences of their actions. If your kid breaks their toys but you replace them with new ones, you are teaching that it’s OK for them to break things. If they do bad thing and you reward them with things they want you are teaching them that nothing they do have consequences.That’s the problem here — you can’t protect your kids from consequences, or they will never grow up. They have to face consequences and they need to understand that there are boundaries in the world. When you enable them and let them get away with everything, you are “spoiling” your kids.Therefore it’s impossible to give them everything they want. Often you just can’t, and it’s OK for children to be frustrated. Support them and teach them how to cope, but don’t overindulge them.
Is my 6 year old suffering or spoiled?
My 6 year old has been very whiney and seems to concentrate on things she has no power over lately. For instance "Am I going to die?", "Will I ever have to go to the Dr again". But also at Christmas she wanted a guitar, electronic drums and a violin, Santa brought her all but the violin and she had a melt down. I took all of her toys and boxed them for the rest of the day and she had to earn them back. She just seems to be very whiney for 6 years old. Tonight she had a melt down because she won't have anyone to play with when her sister goes to college, her sister is 14. My other 2 were so happy go lucky. How can I be sure it doesn't go deeper than just spoiled?
How would you deal with in-laws intent on spoiling your children?
I’m an in-law. My daughters-in-law requested in a very kind way that I don’t overwhelm the children with gifts as they have too much stuff already. Now I send them $20 for their birthdays and for Xmas and they save up and buy something they really want. I always thought it was important to handpick the gift - but it really isn’t the end of the world if I give them money. They are learning to plan and save money to buy things they really want to have.One of the other moms-in-law for my grandkids started putting gift money in a bank account for the children and they get the funds when they are eighteen. Not a bad idea either.The kids have too many things and that is what happens these days so the parents are cutting back on things and they will all be happier in the end.The important thing for me is seeing the children open a package at Xmas. And I do give each child one small special thing to open. Nothing too expensive. It is a compromise I worked out with the parents.When you discuss it with the in-laws one point you can make is that you know they care the way they like spoiling the children with gifts; but that you are worried they will just expect the gifts and won’t recognize the love involved. You can suggest that spending time with the child (maybe using internet if they live far away) would be more valuable in building a loving relationship. Tell them you want the children to know the grandparents and to have good memories to keep with them forever. It can’t hurt and it will probably help.
What would you do if you had a spoiled brat child?
When a parent has a spoiled child, it is their own fault. The job of the parent is to teach the child to get along in life, to get along in the world. You have to start when the child is very young. They have to know that there are rules, when rules are broken there are consequences, and that is a fact of life. You have to teach them how to appreciate the things they have and they cannot do this if you buy them every little thing they want. What I would do is take everything away from the child and make her earn everything back. I wouldn't care how much she cried and whined either. It would take a lot of patience on the parent's part but it can be done. It's all about re-teaching.
My husband is spoiling our 18 month old daughter?
So he is a really good daddy and Literally I don't need to do anything for her, he cooks,cleans and everything. but thing is he has been buying her expensive clothes toys shoes alot and I really don't see the point of it...He brought her a diamond bracelet on her first b'day and plans to buy her a diamond necklace this year,,,I have been constantly arguing with him about these but he does not even bothers to listen. It would be way better if the money would be kept for her college funds but he says he already has kept enough for her education and health. My daughter is already very spoiled and cries and gets angry when she does not get what she wants. Me and her father both had really hard childhoods, him being an orphan....I understand but if this continues she will be completely spoiled by the age of 5, What can I do?