I am so desperate about girls. How do I control being desperate?
I’ve been there in your position and I won’t claim I got out of it like a boss and all. I’m still somewhat in the loop but it doesn’t really bother me at all. So I guess I can answer this.My dear friend, isn't there anything else in this world that inspire you?nothing in this world that you want to do with passion ?The basic problem is you are so lonely and you need a company which sadly you don’t have or you are with a bad company. Life is not always about getting good company. Do what you have to do in order to get good friends rather than working on impressing girls. This ain’t very easy but it works.Read books that you like. If you are not a reader the best thing to hook up with is TV series like Game of Thrones which is addicting and you are occupied with it in most of your free time. As it proceeds, make good friends and spend your time with your friends a lot. It’s not girlfriends but good friends that’s an asset of your life. Try to comprehend that particular reality of life and the rest will follow. Stop being alone. Avoid being lonely. Do something to get rid of your loneliness if that bothers you a lot.There should be something that you like to do, about which you are very passionate about. If you haven't found it yet, just do those random cliché stuffs others do around you and at some point of life, you will realise you’ve hit the right one. Once you've figured it out, things are very easy. You can easily find folks who shares same interest with you. Once you find em and you're in your homogeneous crowd, you're never lonely(atleast, you don't feel so)Do this and enjoy your life with friends and be successful doing what you like!Hope this helpsEdit: It's been two years since I wrote this answer and I think everything I wrote worked positively for me. The moment you are over your obsession, then life is lighter than you think it is.Go for a jog or play some games in the afternoon. It'll work very positively for you. Read the books that suits you, listen to quality songs with great lyrics and tune. You'll be surprised by the change in you.Adding to this, once you feel that you're feeling better and is over girls, try uninstalling social media. You'll be surprised to see the number of people who calls you to enquire why you're not there on Whatsapp ;)Just chill man! Like John Lennon said, “Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.”
Do you want to become a K-pop idol?
YES. I would love to become a K-pop (or C-pop) idol.I love singing and dancing and am okay at both. I have tried to audition before and am very aware about the dark sides of the industry. Despite my many attempts at auditioning for all kinds of companies and shows (Idol School, Kpop Star, SM Entertainment, JYP Entertainment, Source Music and more), I have not gotten past the initial round of auditioning. It is terribly devastating, but I have accepted my fate.I do not think it is because of my ethnicity (I am ABC aka American Born Chinese) or my age (I auditioned from 13–15) or even my talent (tbh, there are idols that I can out sing and dance) that I failed to get in. It is because of my face. It is a fact I am well aware of and okay with. After all, I can only learn to love my face (or I could fix it, but I don’t want to).Even now, if I am guaranteed a spot in a girl group, I would drop everything immediately and go. I would leave my comfortable life here, and go live in that starving, impoverished, desperate, judgmental, exhausted world if I could debut.But I can’t.And I am alright with that. When I was obsessed with becoming an idol, a little voice in the back of my mind always said, “But don’t you want to be a normal human? Don’t you want to have a steady job, a quiet life, and be able to marry without receiving hate?” And I do. I am not a loud or extravagant person. I would enjoy a quiet life. I do want to get married early enough to safely have a child or two. I want to have a healthy body. I want to have a steady income and job.I want both lives at once, and I have only chosen the more realistic side.It still is not too late for me. I still am only 16 years old. I still sing and dance as a hobby, and every time I see idols performing, I wish I could too. I couldn’t watch Kpop Star or Idol School or even Produce 101. Even if I see a clip, I feel the urge to start again. To audition more.But I will not. And I cannot.And even though I had not ever entered the industry, I have learned a few things. I am, firstly, much more appreciative of idols. I also am able to tolerate idols’ a lot more. I think I will be able to live my life much more happily and more positively then if I had never had such a dream.
Family falling apart, I'm just a young teen, and I'm desperate for help. PLEASE somebody help me, PLEASE.?
So my mom was telling me how shes taking my brother and me to get baptized. I'm super excited! But then she whispered to me so my 11 year old brother wouldnt hear. "But I'm very upset your father wont do it. He doesnt believe anymore." so I said "He doesnt believe in God?!" So she said "Yes. He used to, but not anymore." What made my dad stop believing?! I cant think of anything that would make him stop. Lately, he's just been a miserable person. Hes ALWAYS mean, and just a terrible husband to my amazing mom and a terrible father to my brother and me. Lately, I havent been able to stand him, but hes still my dad amd I love him. Hes just cruel anymore though. If he gets stressed he takes it out on us too. I think about how things used to be before he turned into a monster. And he LIKES being an a**. I just dont get what happened to him. And now, my home life is terrible. Our house is falling apart, our family is always fighting and falling apart, we're low on money and struggling terribly, and I just cant take it. And now? School is starting and theres even more stress. I cant take it. I hate being at home and I dread school so much I bawl. I've been bawling so much over everything that I swear I'm almost out of tears. I wish my parents would get a divorce, but I still dont think that was help any, besides making my mom happier(she wouldnt be dealing with his cruelty anymore). I just wish life would get easier. I mean, I tore my acl durning softball last november, and it made my 7th grade year terrible, and I'm STILL recovering from the surgery/injury. I have experienced so much emotional and physical pain it's ridiculous. i just dont see what I can do. I have little that makes me happy anymore. I'm not saying I'll commit suicide, because thats something I would NEVER do, I just dont know what I can do anymore. I spend my days in my room crying. Knowing that when I die, my whole family will be in Heaven with me, except my dad. He'll be in hell. It's horrid. I hate it
Oh goodness, i hate being invisible?
okay so dilema. I like this guy and he just moved here. I have one class with him every day. I smile @ him in the hallway and i don't really check to see if he smiles back because i don't wanna look too crazy, i just smile and keep waking. his locker is only 5 or so down from mine so i see him b4 and after school every day. I try to talk to him but again i am really self conscious about being desperate so i keep in on a the down low. How do i get him to notice me without being desperate? thanks:)