A close friend just lost his 18 year old son. How can I best support him?
I too lost my 18 year old son tragically in an accident, please, stick by him, he may not want to talk, but be there for him, not overbearing, but offer to help him, maybe his yard needs mowing, or something like that, please don't be one of those friends that after the funeral you start to avoid him… If he wants to talk about his son, let him, if he cries, comfort him, you can't really say you know what he is going through, but you can be there for him. I had so many friends, they all said they would be there for me, I noticed as the weeks went by the calls got longer in between, one friend told another that she was tired of inviting me over for dinner and I would always say thank you but I can't right now, so she eventually stopped calling, another was just a happy go lucky person (I love her for that) but she couldn't handle my grief. I didn't cry to my friends all the time, I would mention my son and the room would go silent, they would try to change the subject, that hurt me worse then my grief alone. He was me heart and soul, I can't just put him out of my mind because they don't want to remember him and the tragedy, i have to live with it until my dying day. So please, don't give up on your friend, this will take forever, just be there, keep communicating with him, take him to coffee if he drinks coffee, get him out of the house if he will go. He will have a lot of triggers that will remind him of his precious son, he might break down, just comfort him, let him know it is ok, tears are cleansing the soul, he will feel a relief after a good cry. Be a good friend. I can see that you truly are a good friend by reaching out to try to help him. In my thoughts and prayers.
What do you do when your losing your best and only friend?
well how do i start? this girl and i have known eachother for years umm we were good friends in grade school. in junoir high we became even better friends. no wits our last year at our junoir high and we are sleeping away becaese she wanted to do crew.(i thought it was great. but i didnt even think that she would not have time to chill with me anymore.) but now is kinda the summer and i want to chill with her, i love her (nohomo) but in a sisterly way. she was always here when i needed her,whenever i needed her. we told eachother our secerts. when i say best friends i mean where i was you would see her and viversa. i dont know what to do. she has lots of friend s but i dont. yeah i have friends but no friends i can call up and cry my eyes out with. i need HELP! and when i call her cell phone she never picks up or she wll pick up and say that she cant talk but that shell call me back later and never does. SO i dont know what to do can anyone help me out? need more info email me thanks
What is the difference between best friend and close friend?
There are a lot of differences, but I would tell you some simple ones to keep this answer from getting complicated…Friend is practically someone with whom you can spend time, and actually like it. Take for example, the classmates that give you company. Or some person who is more than just an acquaintance.Close friend is a step more than that. You start to look forward to the next day to meet them. These are friends, with whom you can share some secrets, who are frequent visitors at your home. For example, take the bench mate you sit with. You like to sit with them a lot, talk with them a lot, miss them when they don't come, but still there is a line, a difference between you.Now let's take “best friend”. Best friend and close friend have a lot in common. But the little differences are the ones that make best friend, a best one and close friend, just a close one. Best friend is some one with whom you can share every aspect of your life. Even your views. Mostly best friends are the people that you have most in common with. You don't actually have to care about what they think because they love you a lot and will never judge you. They are the people, that you trust so much that if someone says anything wrong about them, you don't even need to ask them about it, because you are so sure of their character an loyalty. They are the friends, with whom you roam in the schools and colleges and with whom you attack your house. Everyone simply knows that they are your best friends, be it a classmate, teacher or family member.You can actually have a long distance friendship with your best friends. But even your closest friends will forget you after a time lag.Last but not that least. Best friends don't leave, they don't break your trust. They guide you and being with them gives you memories that you cherish.They stand with you in thick and thin, and always guide you in the right direction.CAUTION: You may find a lot of people whom you think are your best friends. But I tell you, best friends, that is, the best ones are hard to find.
How do I tell my best friend I'm in love with her?
My best friend proposed to me two years back. I was a nerdy-type of a girl belonging to a conservative family. I had no idea how to respond. He mailed me a love letter and I freaked out after reading it. My mum read it too (it was unexpected and my mum was sitting right next to me while I opened my mail). I ignored him and deleted the mail.I pretended like nothing had happened, so did he. But it had. The barrier surrounding our uncomplicated but hidden friendship had been shattered. And the worst part was, while I was unaware of his feelings, the girls I used to hang out with used to tease me about him. They knew that he liked me, I don't know how.Needless to say, it was awkward. We didn't talk for almost a year, until the school farewell. I was starting to miss him and I wanted to talk to him. We had gone from being best friends to strangers and it was upsetting.After school finished, but before starting college, I took matters into my own hands and messaged him, apologized and requested to continue the friendship. I felt cruel and selfish for doing that but when he told me he wanted us to remain friends, all my doubts went away.College started and our friendship resumed. Some time later, he told me about this girl in his class that he had a crush on. He's a happy boyfriend now!The thing about falling in love with your best friend is that if the other person doesn't share the exact same feelings, it becomes the biggest what if of your life. I love him, but it isn't a romantic kind of love.The positive aspect is that your best friend knows you better than your other friends, so the relationship doesn't feel much of a strain. I don't claim to be an expert on relationships, or dating for that matter, but I think you should go ahead and tell your best friend how you feel about her. Talk directly. A phone call, or a face-to-face chat. Start it as a question. Ask her how she feels about dating. Take her out to a place special to her. Don't be afraid to lay it on thick. Tell her how much she means to you. If she doesn't feel ready, go slow and let her know that she will always be special for you.PS: I had to go anonymous because the said friend is on quora and I don't want to hurt his feelings. Don't hate me please!!!!!