What would you do if you were in this situation?
If I were in your shoes, this is what I would do before quitting (which is what you're essentially doing) and asking to be reassigned.Raise your concerns to the Team Lead. It is his/her role and responsibility to mentor and guide less experienced developers. If he/she refuses to do so, I would have to say that he/she doesn't belong in that role.Don't expect your hand to be held. It's your responsibility to be proactive and grow in your role. Take the time and opportunity to learn. If you have no desire or passion to improve, then as Glenn stated, you're probably in the wrong line of work.Ask the lead if he/she wouldn't mind pair coding and/or helping you out by conducting peer (coding) reviews. Feedback is very helpful in fostering growth.Ask to work on other parts of the code that are a little less challenging. I'm not suggesting you to take the easy route, yet rather, to work in areas that you're more familiar with, while still having exposure to the more complex parts of the project. Eventually, with time and practice, the design patterns will all come together. Look at it this way. If you're working on a large puzzle, as you get closer to solving it, you start recognizing the image/pattern and it usually gets easier at figuring out where the pieces belong.Stay motivated and don't give up! If you like your work and what you do, stay passionate and try not to be disenchanted. Like anything in life, you'll have your struggles and will need to work hard. Training for a marathon can't possibly happen over night, yet alone a couple weeks. It takes dedication and commitment.Good luck.
I have been in this situation before and I have made the same mistake again. I feel miserable. What do you think I should do now?
There are multiple problems in this question, it's really difficult to pinpoint which ones should be dealt with right away and how they should be resolved.1. Get counselling. I had the same problem as you - my inability to see myself as a person that also required nurturing, support and healthy care caused me to burn out and become depressed. Again, these answers are only advice from a stranger on the internet, but please do consider it. A trained professional can help you with really digging into the situation and help you become a better, healthier, and hopefully, happier you.2. Warning sign #1 when it comes to potentially unhealthy relationships is: drifting away from your friends. Ideally being in a healthy relationship shouldn't change your relationship with your friends extremely. Sure, you'll talk less, and spend a little less time together but not extremely so, to the point where you 'barely' see any of them or you end up "ignoring" them. Your friends are a good source of strength for a predicament with your significant other, they help you center yourself (if they're good friends) and may help you with your problem.3. The way this relationship started raises a few questions. The way it is written it seems like you 'went along' with his affections, simply because it was 'overwhelming'. This doesn't show any reciprocal feelings from you - did you like him as a person? What did you like him for? 4. It seems that you stayed with him for his niceties and now that everything has changed, you feel used and cheated. A very valid feeling. How is he treating you now? Is he ignoring you? Is he asking for your opinion anymore? Does he ask about how you are doing? Do you two spend time having conversations, or doing couple-things anymore? Perhaps he or you have become busy with school or work? You need to objectively look at what has changed vs. what you wanted out of this relationship.5. Please remember that if you don't feel like you are being treated the way you feel like you should be treated in a relationship, leave. After trying to talk it out with your significant other, and nothing changes, please leave. An unhealthy relationship has very unhealthy effects especially in the long run.Hope this helps, good luck!
Have you been through this situation and how do you handle the emotions?
ignore number 1.. ugh some people are not sensative to others feelings.. I lived in one place until I was 15 years old.. my mom died of cancer when I was 10 so I was stuck with my jerk of a dad! He met a new wife a few years after my mom died.. moved her in to our house when I had only known about her/met her 1 time. He waited until I got through my first year of high school then decided to tell me he was marrying this new random person and we were moving to a new state.. This was in the middle of summer!! I had no warning no chance to say goodbye to everyong.. The best thing to do is keep in touch with your old friends because moving to a new place can be hard as hell on you emotionally and it will really pay off to have good contacts with them when going through this.. I didnt not make any decent friends in my new school until 3 months in (can you imagine having NO One for 3 months!) I fell into a Huge depression my sophmore year at the new school I started failing all my classes until I met someone who was going through the same thing as me.. You Will make new friends and life will go on.. Trust me. It Will make you a stronger person, it will make you open yourself up to new people and sorroundings it will definately be hard but it wont kill you.. Just suck it up if you have to move get plenty of support from your friends through myspace or so on and in due time you Will get settled. It will be ok I Promise!!
What would you do if there were ever a situation in which you had to save the life of either Albert Einstein or a 12-year-old intellectually disabled boy? Whose life would you save and why?
I'd tentatively save Einstein.Some object,“This represents a discriminatory preference against the disabled. Einstein is (depending on when this scenario is played out) likely to be older than the child and so already the beneficiary of a full life.” — SomeIf the prospect of discriminating based on ability offends you, I'd ask why discriminating based on age does not. Some discrimination must be made, we need only take care that we discriminate based on reality and not false biases.The scenario is complicated by considering how disabled the boy is and how many years Einstein has left in him, and my answer could be changed by turning either of these knobs to the right extremes, but this answer reflects my default preference.I know that the intellectually capable person is able to positively benefit more people's lives (including my own; I am an egoist after all), than the intellectually incapable one. Hence, I'd prefer to gamble in favor of the greater net utility.If we advance the age of Einstein dramatically or allow for only a mildly disabled 12 year old boy, I'd reverse my decision, because the boy is likelier then to represent greater utility.
What would you do if you were in Romeo’s or Juliet’s situation? Explain?
Juliet: tell Paris she can't marry him because she's already married. Maybe tell her parents, too: by this point in the feud, it seems the adults don't even want to fight any more. The worst they'll do is throw her out in disgrace, and she can run off to meet Romeo. Romeo: first, get out of Verona before he gets killed. Then send for Juliet once he has a place to stay and maybe a job. By this time, given Romeo's track record, he'd probably have moved on to the next pretty girl.
If you've ever been in a situation where you were certain you were going to die, what went through your mind?
In 2006, I had tried to commit suicide many times. The last time I tried to kill myself, I ingested rat poison.I remember being completely depressed. My mind felt like a thick mud puddle. But I felt completely at peace laying on my grandmother's couch.I told myself that all my hurt and pain would no longer exist shortly. At the time, I was very religious. I believed that God would welcome me with open, loving arms. I remember weakly smiling with deep contentment.I wondered what my family would think seeing my dead, lifeless body. That thought made me happy. They would finally see that all of my psychiatric hospitalizations weren't me only looking for attention or faking.I slowly drifted off and fell into a state of unconsciousness.I woke up about 1 hour later. I immediately thought that I was in heaven. For the first time in a long time, I felt joy and jubilation through my entire body. I cried out “Thank you God!” for allowing me to die and come home to be with you.Then, I looked around and noticed that I was still in my grandmother's house. I have no recollection, but I found my regurgitation all over the house. I even had some on my clothes. I cleaned it up.I could only imagine what my Aunt's cat thought about me throwing up all over the house.
What would you do if you were in the same situation as "Groundhog Day"?
How do you know you're not? Of the 6 billion people on earth at the time of Bill Murray's character's time loop, he was the only one aware of it. That means there is a only a .000000001 chance that YOU would be the one aware of the loop. If you are however, the one, I think he handled it quite well. He went through all the stages of grief and emerged a better person (with a lot of new skills). I've seen estimates that his loop was about a decade in length from his point of view. With 10 extra years (or more) inserted between today and tomorrow. Wow. What a gift. I'd read, I'd explore, I'd try and fail at a million things. If there were no risk... wow. The nice thing about that kind of free time is that you don't have to go in with a plan. You could take your time to decide how to spend the time. After impulsive time sinks have worn off their luster you could find constructive uses as he did. With a good day like that, you could do a lot. This is one of my all time favorite movies by the way. Thanks for asking the question.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation in which you were supposed to do some thing for the first time and you could not muster up your courage to do it?
Yes but that is when you know you have to do it. The only excuse for not biting the bullet and doing what you know you're supposed to is if in your heart, down in the pit of your soul, you know it's not the right thing--if you know beyond a doubt that it's wrong, otherwise you must be brave : action in the face of fear, letting the courage surface after the fact,…..the Nike method: just do it