Have you ever felt like you have to dumb down in order to socialize better?
I wouldn’t like to call it “dumb down” as it assumes the person is not intelligent enough to understand. The truth is that more often than not, they really have no desire to understand.Not everyone is interested in detail and all the technical jargon. It is often unnecessary yet many simply insist on applying it simply to show off.This is what I believe and practice: I think it is a lot more fun (and an interesting challenge) to adapt and modify your words in way that accommodates where the listener is. This does require discernment and being astute enough to detect the other’s intellectual ability/appetite, attitude, interest or belief pattern; without ever compromising on personal integrity. So, the concern is more about finding a way to engage with a person in a mutually gratifying manner and not about imparting information that may not desired, relevant or necessary.With enough perception (and practice) you can tell how a conversation is going and whether it is being well received. That is your prompt to continue or change course.
I've always felt stuck in life because of my social anxiety. How can I free myself?
An Extract !! For people who feel Stuck in life !!How to recognize such feel ?You are convinced that something must change, whether is your work or personal life. But you are struggling to figure it out. It happens to all of us. The important thing is to act & refuse to stay stuck.After a decade of dealing with social anxiety and trying everything from medication, reading every book under the sun and even solo travelling around the world to try and break out of my shell I’ve finally figured out what it takes. And honestly it could have been done in a few weeks.Everyone is, of course, different. And we all experience different levels of shyness or social anxiety. But when you come right down to everyone is dealing with the same learned behavioural problem with the same root cause and same root cure.Learned experience has caused it. Whether you were 5 or 35 the lower levels of your brain has learned to fear social situations. And the answer is re-training this lower level of your brain in a controlled way (because just throwing yourself into the deep end reinforces the problem in the long run). In theory, I learned that a long time ago. Putting it into practice was another story. I know how easy it is to get the feeling nobody else is going through the same thing as you are but I promise you at the root it’s all the same thing. I spent years hiding away in my room watching TV and playing games because I was easier than going out and facing people as much as I really wanted to. Watching others lead lives I wish I had but never understanding how they managed to talk to people so easily.I’m not normally one to suggest self-help books. Partly because I’m a guy and partly because I’ve read a load of them and most don’t actually have anything you can use in the real world. I did find the thing which finally turned my life around (and a way you can download the full audiobook for free): Shy to Social Free Audio Book and Community
I think guys think I'm stuck up because of my social anxiety problems?
Dear One, Social anxiety is common among young people into their teenage years. You might believe that you are not good enough, but YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. You have a lot to offer. You may be an introvert also. This makes communication a bit harder until you learn how to communicate in social situations. Self-confidence will also develop in time, so stop being so hard on yourself. You might feel different from others because of your being an introvert. There are many introverts in this world. Introverts regroup by being alone, which "recharges our batteries." Extroverts recharge by being with other people, and they can wear us out. Being an introvert is normal, as is being an extrovert, and we have to accept our personality type in order to work with ourselves and our issues. I strongly recommend a book called People Skills, by Robert Bolton, Ph.D. This book teaches us how to communicate in social situations and many other social skills. You can download it on your computer. I promise it will help you. Take good care. You will be glad you are reading this book.
I'm 21 and I Have No Social Life?
These are suppose to be my best years. The ones where I have great memory's with friends. Instead I just feel stuck and I've felt stuck since I was 16. I'm really not sure what I'm doing wrong. I make great first impressions since on the outside I look good. Then after a few minutes they start to see the real me, which is the insecure me and I probably start to look ugly after that. I'm just really shy and kind of awkward. I've been working on this problem for 5 years now. If there was such a thing I would definitely have at least a bachelors degree in self help books. Yea it definitely helped but ultimately I'm still not happy with myself. I almost feel like a waste of life. What do I do if I have no real passions in life, can't stay motivated for longer than ten days, and really want a social life?
Do people with social anxiety ever feel trapped?
In my experience it really depended on the situation, but that was only for me, for others it could be different or the same. The only actual times I ever felt trapped was if I had to present something in front of a large class, if I was in a very crowded room, or I felt my parents forced me to hang out with someone I didn't know. But like I said it's different for everyone. (Sorry if this didn't answer your question very well)
Have you ever felt like a hermit to society (social etiquette)? Like you are living your whole life alone and not in the real world.
All the time, and I’m constantly being reminded of it.I’m just a slightly below average teenager who has many existential crises per day. I do my homework and classwork and I am a decent kid. I’m just not that good at talking to people, even my own parents.I hide away in my room for at least eight hours, twelve on weekends.I don’t talk to anyone. I am the most antisocial person I know.I miss out on the real opportunities and fun that life offers because I don’t take the time to experience them. I choose to sit in the back of the class. I choose to wear headphones without listening to music. I choose to bring on the mental illness and stress that my personality brings. I have been doing better recently and have been hanging out with friends and socializing. This helps me incredibly. I never realized how much fun I can have if I leave the house.So, hermit to hermit, try to socialize. If you put in the tiniest amount of effort, it will be more than worth it. Go outside. Get your lazy butt off Quora looking for answers in life, and live.
Do you ever feel as if the world is moving ahead but you're just stuck in one exact routine? I just need a yes or a no so I know I'm not alone.
Ok, your question is a tad misleading. Are you asking if you are stuck in just “one” routine and the world is moving ahead? Or are you asking if you are stuck in a rut, where it feels like you are spinning your wheels with no traction?Here’s the problem with deciding between the two. First, as was mentioned earlier, a routine is a good thing. It provides a sense of normalcy, a requirement of discipline, and a daily focus. The main problem is if you try to have only one routine, as most people will have several (family, work, recreation, etc.). If you have only one routine, you are neglecting other aspects of your life, and that can cause problems for social and emotional health.If your question revolves around feeling like you are stuck in a rut, “spinning your wheels”, then you should know that everyone goes through that at some point in their lives. They may not readily admit it to those outside of family and/or close friends, but everyone has that feeling. Perhaps it requires you changing up your routine. A change in location, a change in work, a change in your recreation activities; all of these can provide a way for you to “gain traction” and start moving with the world.A personal example, when I was discharged from the Army, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I went to college, but still wasn’t entirely sure what I wanted. Then I got started with online games, made friends there, moved, changed jobs, moved again, changed jobs again, through all of this, my steady routines were my games, my family, and my friends. I made acquaintances at my jobs, some of whom I still keep in touch with on social media, but nothing that I would consider true friendship. Through all of this, I was finally able to find my “traction”, what I wanted to do. I have added a new routine to my others, school. As things get a little tougher, I break things up with another routine, exercise. Do I still feel like I’m spinning my wheels, sure, occasionally. With all the routines in my life, though, I know what I’m doing, how I’m doing it, in some cases when I’m doing something, who I can rely on, what I can do to unwind, etc. This keeps my focused on where I’m going and how I want to get there.I know this isn’t the answer you wanted; you wanted a simple yes or no. It is important to understand how important a routine is, and how it can effect your current mindset and outlook on the world.