How do I heal from a break up that I initiated?
Remember why you chose to initiate the break up. Obviously there was something about this person that you can't see long term potential with. Write down what you have learnt from this relationship, what you want and what you don't, and what you expect from your future partner. Think about the times that your partner made you sad or angry or treated you unwell. Reinforce the memories of what made you want to break it off in the first place. You're just feeling lonely right now because no matter how dysfunctional your relationship was that caused you to initiate the break up, you are used to having this person around in your life. It's just a habit. That you need to kick. So pick up a new hobby to invest your energies into. Get fit, make new friends, make new happy memories, etc. Become a better version of yourself so that you can attract a better more suited partner in the future. You need to get some "wins" in your life that has nothing to do with your ex partner, to reinforce your sense of being. In every breakup, no matter how "cordial", there's always somebody who got better, and somebody who got bitter. Be the former. Learn what you need to take away from this relationship and get better.
Shy people or people with anxiety: Have you ever initiated sex for the first time? How?
We havent slept before but we both want to and I want to initiate it for once in my life.. Any tips? Im very shy, I have anxiety and i basically turn into a potato when around a guy,even though my libido is crazy. Im on xanax for anxiety but i dont know if i should take it before the date. During stressful social situations in the past it didnt help at all, i was just as stressed even with 2mg.
Has there ever been a breakup that you regret, and why?
I think if you go through a break up,again after few days you realize and regret about it,then you're still attach with the person whom you had choose to love once.This can only happen in this case or if you think now you both are not able to handle the relationship in fair manner then the best way is to break up and mark my words you will never regret about it, rather you will enjoy your life more.Here goes my poem on last break words.I am not going to love you,The way I did before…You will now never be the reason of my tears…I wont have to miss You now everyday ..I am no more their to sort out your problems….Now just forever ,I am going to shutter down my feelings for you.As per now it wont matter, whether you exist in my life or not…At last I v know to lead my life happily without you..I know it might be easy to say ,but tough to follow…But I will do That Surely from bottom of my heart.So it’s time to say each other Goodbye!Yippee!! It’s time to Move On …..
When you break up with someone, why does it feel like they broke up with you?
No matter who does the breaking up, it still hurts for both parties. Not many people go into a relationship believing that it will end or that they will be the one that has to make the decision to leave. It can feel like a failure no matter which side of the equation you are on.Also, even though we may be the one to break up a relationship, we probably still care about the person that we loved, and in fact we may still love them even though we feel that the relationship is no longer viable. So although we feel we have made the best decision for ourselves and our own integrity, it is still painful to leave someone that you are in the habit of caring about.One last reason might be that the person we broke up with is confused and angered by our actions and is strongly projecting blame out into your social circle even though most break-up do not happen in a vacuum. People do take sides during these events and we take the chance of losing not only our love relationship and also some friendships. This can feel very isolating and compound feelings of loss.You did not ask this but I will add that I think the best way to get through this time is to fully feel the loss of what your expectations were from the relationship that you left, assess the dynamic that went wrong so that you won't enter into it again in the future, and try not to get trapped in being a target of blame for everything that went wrong in the relationship. In this situation, you have potentially cast yourself as the perpetrator and the person you broke up with as the victim. In most if not all cases, this is a false equivalency. Take responsibility for your part and leave the rest! ♥️
Do you ever think about your ex? Do you regret breaking up with them?
I think about my ex still. I broke up with him, we tried things again, and it still didn't work. It was and has been hard. I don't like that I broke up with him, but I needed to. It was the right thing because he's not the right one for me, but hard because I was in love with him. So I still miss him a lot, I want to text him and see him. But I remind myself that I already gave him a second chance, and he didn't try. I shouldn't have got back together with him, because I technically got my heart broken twice because of it. If he wanted me back he would have fought for me and showed me when I gave him the second chance, but he didn't try.