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When I do something for someone, I expect something in return. What am I?

To be brutally honest... not someone I would ever want to call friend.I enjoy doing things for my romantic partners and friends.  I never expect anything in return.  I get enjoyment out of the doing.However, if someone does something for me and it is clear they EXPECT a return, then I get no enjoyment out of it and don't feel like I am helping someone because I am being generous, instead I feel like a schmuck for allowing myself to be manipulated, and I resent it, a lot.  If it is a continuous, ongoing thing... I exit stage left.If you expect someone's generosity, it is no longer generosity.  On the flip side of that, if you only do something to get something in return, it's not generosity.EDIT: After reading a lot of other answers on here, I felt a bit compelled to edit my answer.To be sure, there is a bit of human nature here.  We all expect to be treated in kind.  However, if you are taking score, which is kind of what I had in mind based upon the way the OP worded the question, then you are not doing someone a favor.  You are giving them an obligation.  With friends, lovers, family I do not believe that is the mindset you should ever have.  However, if you notice that no matter how much kindness you put out there, certain people just never return it, then you have every right to expect better and simply cut them out of your life.  I guess I would ask, what are your expectations?  Are they specific?  Maybe the person you did the favor for does not have the ability to "balance the books" as it were, but rather you would have their undying gratitude for doing for them something they simply would never have the ability to return in kind.  If you are a strict tit-for-tat kind of person, then I probably wouldn't want to be around you.  On the same token, if you were the kind of person who always takes but never gives, I probably wouldn't want to be around you either.  There is a middle road here.Also, there is nothing wrong with random acts of human kindness.  You can throw some good will out into the wind and just be satisfied that if even in a very small way, you just made the world a better place for some random person, instead of expecting a return in kind.

If someone doesn't expect anything from you does it mean he/she doesn't love you?

I think either there are three possibilities. One is that we expect from the ones we adore the most. Someone adores you and expects something from you. That's kind of okay. It is their right. They love you and they want you to stand up to their expectations.Second one is that the person may not expect from you when they might think that Expectations Hurt. Or maybe they have reached to a higher level of matureness. They know that expecting does not need to be connected with affection. He/She loves you but does not expect in return the same that you love them back because they know that Kindness cannot be expected in return of Kindness. Like I do something for you maybe help you but how can I expect that you too do something for me? Then it will sheerly the give and take business. There will be just formality setup. So such people don't expect from others.The third is that he/she has expected something from you for the first time but you did not fulfill their expectations. Or else in the first place you might not even recognized those expectations of others. Then again that person expected from you for the second time. Alas! No fulfillments. Third and fourth and so on. So finally he/she was pretty well convinced that it's just futile to expect from this kind of person.So, now you have to make the volition and find out which one's the suitable.

Why do some people say “no problem” instead of “you’re welcome” when someone thanks them? When I was growing up, the only polite response would be “you’re welcome” or “my pleasure.”

It is not the “No problem” that's different, it's the “Thank you" and the interpretation of it.There is a slight difference in the meaning of “Thank you" when it is said by the older and the younger generation. This is one of the most misinterpreted mannerism of speaking in modern culture.In the older generation, help is expected, (like you have said, it is their job to help you) so in that case “Thank you” implies common courtesy, which leaves the reply as “ You're welcome for my help".As the younger generation is more independent, their “Thank you" means that, “There was no reason for you to help me, and yet you did, I hope it was no trouble.So naturally, “No problem” is the apt response which means more of in the lines of “ I merely did what is expected of me, and while I do appreciate the gratitude, it is not necessary, I'd be happy to do it again.”As the famous You're welcome Vs No problem tumblr post puts it, the younger generation expects “You're welcome” to be said by someone who expects to be thanked, as in, “I have gone out of my way to do it, and since you appreciate it and thanked me, you're very welcome for the gratitude .” So someone young saying “you're welcome”, is interpreted as being pretentious by their peers and also considered as a sarcastically reply when someone doesn't express gratitude.“No problem” does not mean gratitude is not needed, it is simply the proper way of response; i.e. the equivalence of the older generation’s “You’re welcome". They are not being rude, they are simply being polite in their own cultural languageIn the end they both mean, “You can ask for my help again.”It is funny when you think about it, the younger generation considers helping completely normal and does not require any recognition for it, and yet, does not expect themselves to be helped, in case it was a problem for the other person.I like to think it is because of all that politeness that was drilled into our heads as kids, and it evolved into a mutual understanding as we grew.