Step-Child vs. Child?
i dont think its bad. I have 3 step kids and i love them very much. I have a three week old daughter my first ,and its different. like i said i love my step kids but there is nothing like my own child from the moment she came into the world the feeling i have just looking at her. I never knew anyone could love someone so much. Just remember to spend time with your stepdaughter too. my stepkids live with there mom and come down every other weekend and i try to spend time with them all and the baby aslo.
Why doesn’t a stepmother treat a stepchild as their own child?
The reason a step mother does not treat their step child as their own child is because …. they are NOT their own child. I am a step mother. I met my stepson after his parents had been divorced for years, he was 5 years old, he is now an absolutely brilliant 22 year old man. I wanted my relationship with this child to develop as naturally as possible, I did not want to force myself onto him. He has a very loving mother (and fantastic step father) and there is no way in the world that I would try and position myself to take away her role as his mother.When I met him, I was the just woman that daddy was dating but we liked each other immediately. I had never dated a man with a child before but I knew that they came as a package deal and that the relationship the child has with his father (and mother) came first and absolutely foremost.I always wanted to be like a back up mum for him, maybe like a support mum for his mum. I wanted his mother to know when he was with me and his dad, that he had nice clean clothes, he had good nutritious food, he got to bed on time, that we would play in the park, bandaids on his knees and that he got cuddles, security, stability and love.I must admit my stepson did make being a stepmum an absolute joy. I won stepkid lotto, he was a very easy child to be with.When I knew he was coming to be with us (which fortunately was almost every week) I would shop and cook his favourite things to eat. I would buy little treats or toys for him. My justification was “He has been a very good boy lately, oh hang on, he is always a good boy!”Fast forward 9 years and I gave birth to my own son with my stepsons dad. At this stage in his life, my stepson was quite a sensitive teenaged boy. I wanted my stepson to know that he was to be a big part of my sons life and that he would not be cast aside, now that I was having a child of my own. I gave naming rights of my child to my stepson, I told him he could name our child anything he liked, as long as its not Barry. Apologies to all the Barrys out there. He named his brother a name I would never have chosen but as soon as he named him, I could not think of any other name that would suit him better!So I do not treat my stepson as if he is my own child, I have too much respect for his relationship with his own mother.I treat him as he is my stepson, I love him and it has been one of the most fantastic and richest relationships of my life.
Step-children and my biological children hate each other???
I am 33 yrs old and my husband is 39.This is my third marriage (but i married same man twice) and i have two children twins daughter and son that are 9 yrs old from my last marriage.My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage ages 15 , 10 , and 7.We have a 5 bedroom 4 bathroom home that is fairly large with dinning room , family room, kitchen, hubby has a den that leads to an office, basement and a living room. You think this would be enough space for when the my step-children come over on the weekends but it is not!They fight like cats and dogs with my kids over everything.The recent issue was the eldest step daughter who is 15 refusing to share a room.I told her she could not sleep in the den because its being remodled she threw a fit!she made my daughter cry when she told her i was a whore and her brothers would rape her when they got older.Then she borrowed my favorite Prada bag without asking and brought it back looking like it had been in Iraq!I need advice?
Is it normal to hate your stepchildren?
I am not happy when they come over every other weekend to the point I don't want to be there, considering when I see the difference in the way he treats my kid from previous marriage. He always treats him like a last fiddle, even though I repeatedly told him that I can only tolerate it temporarily. I don't think I can deal with this situation and probably going to leave because I want my child who I obviously love to death to feel inferior and be deprived on affection even if it's only a stepdad. Anyways what are your thoughts on that, mothers in blended marriage and everybody alse beeing in this kind of situation. BTW he didn't tell me he has them for six months into our courtship and later because I was kind of stuck in this state because of school I thought I can overlook him having " Brady Bunch"