Can dogs sense favoritism?
We have 3 dogs, 2 chihuahuas and a malamute/german shepherd. I take more of a liking to the smaller dogs. I have a bond with them, and known them longer. The mala mix was given for my boyfriends little brother but he only played with the dog for a certain time and no longer wanted it. My boyfriend gives him some attention but not much. His grandparents only play with him sometimes but mostly forget to care for him. I give the dog food and water when they forget. No one really asked for the dog so that's another reason why. It would be nice to let him be an inside dog like the little ones but he don't listen. I often wonder if the dog can sense my favoritism. He only gets dog food or leftovers from the next day but I always give the chis snacks and treats. He don't get any from me because of his behavior. The dog is more of a nuisance and mostly everyone agrees. He makes a mess, gets into trash, steals from other peoples yards, gets in the way. I can't stand the dog as he has almost made me fall a few times and cleaning up after him is a bother and no one else likes to either. We've tried tying him up but all he does is cry loudly & annoyingly. Does the dog sense favorites? I've made it clear I don't like him but he stills jumps on me, begs for snacks and attention. I've tried throwing things at him to make him go away, but he just grabs it, brings it back to me. Can the dog sense my favorites? Why does it still bug me knowing I don't like it? How does it make the dog feel?
What should I say to my husband about showing favoritism to our children?
Great question. I anticipate that this is a very common issue that many of us have gone through. I am not so sure that anyone ttys to have favoritism on purpose, but I could be wrong about that. I feel the most important thing to do is communicate in a loving and non judgmental way. Your husband might not even realize what he is doing. I might set up a nice dinner or go out where you and the hubs could be alone. Let him know first off how much you live him and appreciate him. Point out all his positive attribute first. Then once you have shared all the great things you love about him. Express how you think the others kids might be feeling when one kiddos always gets something and the others don’t. Explain how you would love for both of you to have a great relationship with all your kiddos and let him know how you feel like showing any favoritism could have a negative effect on the relationship. I did read one bit of advice I’ll share here with you. It talks about the grandparent being the one who shows favoritism, but I feel like the information is worth sharing and it’s valuable. Hope this helps. Stand strong, hold on, and never lose hope. Happy mostly awesome marriage and parenting.
How can we make our mother admit to favoritism?
Your life is so similar to mine.I can feel the pain.I will say, parents love is the most important thing in life.If one is out of mothers love nothing can make them happy.Mother’s love is bliss,is peace,it need not be acquired,it need not be deserved.If it is there, it is like a blessing;if it is not there it is as if all the beauty had gone out of life.This quote says it all.I always feel lonely when I am with my mother and my elder sister.I tried many times to let her know how I feel.But she will never agree and says,”you both are equal to me”.She always shows partially to my sister.Just like you said their talk seems so fake to me.They talk like flirting young couples talking for hours and hours in phone.Now I have a beautiful son and a good husband.Iam happy with them.Now I try to avoid my mother from my life.Because her presence or thought gives a sudden pain in my heart and I will start crying.Now I am used to it.Me,my husband and my son stays in other country (in her absence I am more happy),and my mother comes online once in a while to see my son,I allow her to see him but I talk to her less.For your peace of mind the only thing you can do is try to focus on your feelings,pamper yourself when you feel sad.Her presence will make your life horrible.Erase her from your mind.
I'm having problems with my parents favoritism.?
Hey, I totally understand how you feel. I'm the middle child too, and no matter what, my parents put their problems on me. Man, my mom spends money on chess lessons for my brother. SERIOUSLY! It's like 60 dollars/ hour that she could be using for my basketball or SAT prep. The point is, when you grow up, none of this will matter. I'm the same age as you. When i grow up, I want to move to NYC and become a doctor or pyschologist. Oh, and when I was 7, my dad constantly told me of how stupid I was and how because of that, I would have no friends when I started at a new school. The point is, even if I try to talk to my parents that they're being biased, they refuse to listen. There's nothing you can do about it. Just focus on the future and what you're going to do once you get the hell out of that house!
What is the difference of favoritism and biases? 10pts?
Favoritism is when you like a particular person or group more than every one else. Bias is when you dislike a particular group of people for some reason.
Mom and dad show favoritism?
Its not right, they like my little brother more than me and dont say that im not right, my mom even admitted it! and she threatend to abuse me! wat should i do? plz no mean/rude comments.. and she says im worthless.. and she hates me. trust me, i know.. how do i deal with parents like this???!?
I'm afraid of my boyfriend?
I think something might be wrong with me? He never hits me but he gets SO mad at the drop of hat. Not over everything but when he does get mad it's to an extreme. He is much older than me (I'm 25, he's 41) and he yells at me to no end, talks down to me, lectures me, tells me what I'm doing wrong with my life and freaks out over everything. I don't understand why and I wish I didn't feel so afraid but I get such a knot in my stomach and worry. It's stressing me out so much. We live together and I love him a lot... but it sucks to not feel supported by someone. I moved here for him, so I don't really have any friends to talk with here. Now I have quit my job today because of the poor working conditions and ridiculous favoritism and I'm so terrified for my BF to find out because I know he is going to blow a lot of steam and be very angry at me and make sure I know what a terrible, lazy horrible person I am. I don't know what do?? :(
Why do my parents spoil and show favoritism to my little sister?
I'm fourteen and my sister is seven. My parents always believe her, but not me!! She was the one that broke the vase, but they day I was blaming my sister We were out shopping at Wal-Mart and she was pushing the cart towards me to hit my ankles. I tell them, but they say, no she's not or stop trying to tattle! But when I accidently bump into her, she of course cries like a baby and I get into trouble!! They bought her a Barbie doll since she wanted one, and when I ask for a package of gum, they say I'm wasting their money!! And her stupid doll was twenty bucks! They treat her like royalty, and me like crap. She got to talk to her little buddy Claude on the phone, but when I wanna talk to my friend Chris, they say no talking to boys on the phone!! Please help me! And don't say Im whining, I just need advice cuz it's driving me bonkers!! and tell me how in the world a seven year old gets to talk to boys but I can't!! By the way, he's my bf in secret!! poll: is my sister a brat? and should I talk to guy friends on the phone?
Should my boyfriend treat his 8-year-old son the same as he treats my 3 year son, even though it's not his kid?
If your boyfriend is your son’s stepfather, then yes, he should. You are expecting your boyfriend to behave like a stepfather. But it’s not at all clear to me that he signed up for that role — and you can’t press-gang a stepparent.Unfortunately, it seems you started living together without discussing what his relationship to your son would be. You assumed he would become a co-parent to your son, and he assumed otherwise. Now you are dealing with the consequences of mismatched assumptions. You want him to treat your son with the same love and devotion he gives to his own son, and he’s not interested in doing that. I assume he’s friendly toward your son, at least? That makes him less stepfather, more “Mom’s boyfriend, who is a pretty nice guy.”Your expectations do not match your boyfriend’s wishes. What about your son’s expectations? Have you encouraged your son to see your boyfriend as his stepfather? I’m betting you have, whether you intended to or not. Perhaps that was unintentional, but in doing so, you did your son a disservice. Now you have to help your son adjust his expectations toward your boyfriend to match reality. It appears to be very difficult for you to adjust your expectations, and you’re an adult; expect it to be much, much harder for a toddler.Your boyfriend gets to decide what sort of relationship he wants to have with your son. And you get to decide what sort of relationship you want to have with your boyfriend. You can continue living with him, accepting that he is not going to take on a parental role to your son. You can continue dating him but live separately, if that will make it easier to accept his wishes. Or you can break up with him.What you should not do is keep badgering him in an attempt to force stepfatherhood on him. You also should not play passive-aggressive games where you retaliate against your boyfriend by pulling away from his son. If you’ve gotten to that point, your relationship is over. Period.