Feeling left out...HELP PLEASE!!!!?
As an introvert myself, I know what you are feeling. I have been there so many times in life! It sounds like you are genuinely trying to make an effort to reach out to people, so I know it is frustrating that they aren't responding. The most important thing to remember is that as an introvert, you have so much to give to the world and you are a worthwhile person. You are probably a great listener, a deep and reflective thinker and someone who is sensitive and understanding of other people-- not to mention a good and loyal friend. Introverts often get misunderstood and their positive qualities go overlooked. There are some great books out there for introverts to help you feel better about yourself when it seems the whole world doesn't 'get' you. "The Gift of Shyness" is one and "The Introvert Advantage--how to Thrive in an Extrovert World" is another. Both of these have helped me understand my personality better and manage my energy levels for dealing with people. As for your situation right now with your friends, it might be worthwhile to seek out some new ones (I know--that's not easy either!) Look for other quiet people---they will probably appreciate being approached. Give sincere compliments. Find people who share something in common with you--musical tastes, books, classes. Conversation flows so much easier when you have similar interests. Be patient and give relationships time to develop (other quiet people may have a hard time opening up, too!). Most of all, try not to be too hard on yourself. Being introverted is something you were born with, a part of your unique personality. If not for the introverts of the world, so many books would have gone unwritten, so many works of art unfinished! I hope this helps.
I always feel left out?
Respect yourself and always remain confident. Don't try to just "fit in," but instead seek friendships in everyone. With every person you meet, there's an opportunity for a friendship. As long as your goal is not popularity, people will see your radiant confidence and admire you.
Help. I feel left out and scared in my dance class?
At my dance studio, which i have been attending for 7 years. I take hip hop jazz and ballet. My director always goes my favorites. I am a very good dancer. But i am scared to show how good i am in class. Years ago i has lots of trouble with dance but i out grew that. And now, not trying to brag but i am a good dancer. But no body notices that. There is a competition team at my dance school and one of the girls, her mom thinks i am soo good and should be on the competition team. I do too. And the tryouts were a week ago. I was to scared to try out. So yesterday there was this special program for girls who The director picks. I wanst one of them. She claimed it was for girls who take tap. Half of the girls who went didnt take tap. All the girls were either in the competition team or took more then 5 classes. my director favors people and their money. And i really feel left out and it makes me feel like i cant dance. Dancing is my passion and hobby. And i cant feel that. In everyclass, i dont have friends. :( my ballet teacher is the only one who sees me as a dancer. Help and advice?
Why do I feel lonely and left out all the time?
No one likes to be lonely. It feels sooo baaad! Moreover there are times when your own habits makes you feel the same. Yet there are always some ways to help yourself. Lets see the reasons first.1.This usually happens when you don’t keep yourself engaged. My personal experience with this is I used to feel lonely and left out when I had no work ,no school,nothing to do whole day etc. You must have heard the saying “Empty vessels makes the most noise”. Don’t keep you mind empty else you will be conquered by negative thoughts. Engross yourself with language learning,trying new instuments,doing something creative.2. Throw away people who don’t see your worth. They will only make you feel valueless. Its better not to surround yourself with such people else you will end up feeling even lonely. The behaviour of people around us matters a lot on our psychological well being. Stay with those who care about you and loves you like your parents.3. Don’t stalk people. Thier life isn’t that perfect how they show. You would begin comparing yourself with them. And when you see imperfections on yourself, you will end up feeling dejected,lonely,left out etc. Its okay if you don’t have lots of friends. Quality matters over quantity.4.And most importantly it happens when you don’t pray to god . I personally believe spending some time spiritually brings mental peace as well as mental happiness. It generates positive energy around you and you begin to feel happy again. Remember that you are never lonely, for God is always with you.5. Acknowledge that you are alone. Show your individuality. Stand up for yourself.6. And please don’t indulge yourself in stupid temporary relationship just because you are lonely. You will be even more lonely and will regret it later.7. Last but not the least,don’t take it too seriously.There is no need to panic as it is just an ordinary emotion which everyone experiences once in a while.Hope it works,Cheers!Karina Gurung:-)
Why do I feel left out sometimes?
Okay, so I have 5 bestfriends and a lot of friends. They are very nice to me and care about me. When I am sad, they are always there for me. But the thing is, what I don't tell them, is that I feel left out sometimes. Like maybe they wont text me back sometimes or they wont ask me to sit by me or something. I feel left out is the point. And I dont know why. Sometimes I'll feel like the happiest person in the world when they include me. But when I'm not included, I feel like the lonliest one ever. Is there a reason for this? is it just me or should i feel left out? All I want is to fit in better.
How does it feel like to be left out at your work place?
It is really a bad feeling to be left out at your work place and not involved in the groups. But do not panic, it is a normal thing in office. There are few things you may do to keep yourself involved in groups and be a part of a team:- start by greeting people (good mornings, good evenings, good day, etc)- always wear a smile when you are talking to people- if someone talks to you, try to be genuinely interested in the conversation. You should remember that people prefer a good listener to be part of their group than a good speaker.- Do not try to push people for seeking their attention, be calm and be yourself.- respect people' views and ways of their working (even if you do not like).- offer your help if someone is in need - always be courteous and polite.Now, as for the part where you are the victim of office politics, it also feels very bad. It happened with me once or twice and one thing always use to runs through my mind was "Why me??"The key to tackle this (as suggested by my colleague) is do not react. Your reaction will only going to fuel the talks and make you look bad. Avoid getting involved in any kind of conversation with people who are responsible for this. If you are in a group and suddenly the topic came up, do not start giving your explanation right away. If someone genuinely asks you about the matter then give your side of story and justify things.Also remember that with time this will go away.
I feel left out and lonely. What's wrong with me?
You say that when you are hanging with your friends, if their other friends show up they just leave? I'm sorry, but they are not your friends. Before we worry about how interesting you are, let's get the elephant out of the way.Your so called “friends” don't care about you. If they did, they would make sure you're included in conversations. They wouldn't ditch you for other people. They would find things to talk about you.So, my first suggestion is to end your friendship with these people. Initially, it will hurt. But in the long run, when you truly need a friend, they were not going to be there anyway.Second, try finding new friends. It may seem difficult at first or even impossible, especially if you have social anxiety. You can try making friends online by joining an interest group (you already have something to talk about!) For “real life” friends, you can join an interest group on MeetUp.The third thing is, you're not boring. You don't need to stay up on current events to interest people (unless you are really into debate as current events usually involve politics.)Now, I want you to pick a hobby. Something you are interested in and will stay with. I want you to pursue this hobby to the best of your abilities. This is something you can do without friends and is just for your sake.Good luck!
Why do I feel left out from my own family?
Obviously no one knows what the situation is inside your home or family. People can only offer their perspective based on their knowledge and life experience. Are you referring to your immediate family or extended? If immediate, I would certainly express my feelings to my parents and ask them to be completely forthright with me. Are your feelings of exclusion warranted or is it just bad communication? If parts of your extended family excludes you, it may well be they do not like one or both of your parents. In any event, do not spend too much time feeling left out from anybodies life that does not want to include you in theirs. This includes family. Besides as another responder wrote, you can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family. Allow me to add being related will not make you friends or compatible.
Do you feel left out by the members of your family?
I have long been the square peg in my family. I figured out years ago, that I could pretend to be someone I am not, be accepted - and still be miserable, or I could live authentically, be left out, but have more peace within myself. I chose the latter, and never looked back. I regret the necessity; I do not regret the choice itself. I’ve left the porch light on for my family of origin, but I don’t expect that they are going to come around and accept me for the person I am. Their loss.