How do I make friends in college?
'Great Things lie outside your comfort zone'The first day I joined my college, I was the typical shy guy, always hesitant to make friends.Looking at a group of people standing in front of me, I would pretty much be within my comfort zone and would often reassure myself with this constant voice in my head saying 'You're better off alone,who knows how those dimwits might react when you go and approach them'. But How would I know for sure? Maybe they'll be amazing acquaintances , Maybe they'll be the dimwits I was expecting . So I went ahead, keeping all that negativity in my head at bay , keeping all the self-bashing thoughts , wriggling out of my comfort zone and introduced myself. That feeling of Euphoria when I overcame all that social anxiety, constant negativity was totally worth it and this growing sense of confidence came in me. The response I got never really mattered. So GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE and start talking to more and more people. Looking back 3 years from now, I'm so proud I went up to those group of people which now happen to be one of my closest group of friends.This particular activity will not only make you more confident, but it'll help you gain more and more friends from time to time. College is the time where you branch out and start making friends because the friends you make in this phase of your life are going to last a lifetime and will have a deep impact on your future. So do choose them carefully.One important thing:If the response you get initially is embarrassing or really rude, do not get discouraged. The way they react is a reflection of their own character. So be Gentle, simple and smile.Smile a lot, it sends the message that you're easy to approach.I'm pretty sure you're going to do just fine! You got this! :)
I am in college and have no friends, is this bad?????
Alright so I am a 19 year old guy almost done with my first year of college and I dont have any friends. I had a few friends but they never wanted to do any thing with me so we are no longer friends, I use to have a best friend since I was 5 but we are no longer friends either. I also have never had a gf, been on a date, kissed a girl, nothing. I still live at home, but I am getting an apartment this summer. The reason I go to college and stay at home is cuz my college is close to my house, but I cant stand my parents and I am moving out this summer. So is it bad if I have no friends and live alone???
Is it hard to make friends in college?
I just returned from the FBI Collegiate Academy club.It was incredibly fascinating and I thought to myself that perhaps, the kinds of people I want to be friends with are here. In this club. Attending this meeting. So I thought that, optimistically, just as I had thought with the dozens of other club meetings I had attended.In every single one of these club meetings, I have found that nobody cares to make friends. Truly, no one cares enough to even keep a conversation going. I look around at the stillness of the room; inhabited with 100 people, not a single one makes the effort to get to know the next. I am no better. In many ways, I have given up. I have given up being the lead on every single conversation and friendship, and I have given up because I am exhausted.But there are of course, exceptions. 100 people and no one, except one person initiates a conversation. Out of hundreds of people, one single person, and now, he and I have become friends.Although it is sad that I haven’t found a connection with anyone except this one, it is also true that if it were me two years ago, I would probably be in a different spot. I would’ve been more outgoing, and I would’ve probably made several friends, excluding that one, and still, I would’ve probably felt just as or even more lonely.The truth is, the number of friends does not really matter.This single person is worth more than those other hundreds combined.This single person has somehow found his way to me, and he is someone of incredible intellect, kindness, ambition, empathy, and depth.One conversation with this person immerses me into the world I want to live in; I want to be challenged, but reinforced in my deepest beliefs, and I want to be appreciated, but grounded at the same time.What good does a superficial conversation have if you leave more hollow after?What good is a friend who judges you or uses you, or only wants to be with you during the good times?Making friends at college is as easy or as hard as you make it.I have made it hard on myself, but only because I know that I cannot take anything less than someone who is truly compatible with me.
Why do I have no real friends in college?
I always end up making friends with people who leave and I never hear from them again, people who stop being my friend or we just grow apart. I am 19 and somewhat shy. I can talk to almost anyone though. I am in my second year of college and have no real friends. I try to join organizations to meet some new people, but that doesn't work. I don't even have friends from high school. I made friends freshman year, but we are no longer friends or they transferred. It seems like no one understands how to be a real friend anymore. It seems like I will be alone forever :/
Second week of college and I still have no friends?
I'm a freshman and I've been here for two weeks. I feel really sad and lonely because for some reason I just don't have a group of friends yet. I'm friendly and I try to be as outgoing as possible, so I don't understand why everyone is making friends except me. My roommate is really nice but now she has her own little group, and I'm sort of a fifth wheel. This is such a big school.... Help?
Is my friend jealous of me cuz i have a college degree and she doesnt? can friends get jealous of you 4 that??
My friend said my philosophy degree is worthless and she also said i was retarded. im beginning to hate this witch and i will ditch her as my friend soon. But I'm just curious why she would act so hateful to me when i always compliment her and I am a good friend?
All my friends have left for college and now I feel painfully alone and sad...need advice/help?
I'm actually somewhat in the same situation as you are. All my friends have left for college leaving me behind. I've started to shut in and become a bit of a recluse and have started to not talk to people for the most part, its getting a bit bad for me. My advice would be try to make new friends when community college starts, at least that's what everyone keeps telling me and I plan to try my best at it. I've heard that it can be difficult at cc to meet people but I'm going to put all my effort in because I know what's down this road of loneliness and self-destructive thoughts and I can't let myself end up like that. Hope it helps :)