How do I convince my boyfriend to quit smoking? I don't want it to come down to me or the cigarette.
If you don’t want him to have to decide then you need to accept that he might always be a smoker. To make a relationship work, you can’t go into it with the attitude that the other person will change.I know two couples where a condition of getting married was for the man to stop smoking. Both men said they quit but didn’t and hide their smoking from their spouse until after the marriage. Both marriages broke up - not about the smoking but about the lying.Strangely enough, with both of these couples, they got divorced but when the men finally did stop smoking for good— on their own, not because of an ultimatum, the lying was over and they both got back together.The best thing you can do is to not support his smoking behavior — don’t let him smoke around you, don’t go outside with him when he smokes, don’t buy cigarettes for him, ask him to brush his teeth/wash his hands before he kisses you with smoke on his breath. Tell him that smoking is his choice but you will not let his behavior damage you by being around secondhand smoke.You don’t say how old you are but the question to ask is —- do I love this guy enough to stay with him even through —- sickness caused by smoking? That is in your vows —through sickness and through health. With smoking, most likely it will be through a smoking related disease.
Is safe to just QUIT smoking pot after smoking so long while pregnant??
I have smoked throughout my pregnancy to control Hypermesis Gravaderum (Medically treated all-day sickness) I also take a daily pill (Anzamet) to help control the nausea - I am currently 27 weeks pregnant (have gained a whole 4 lbs so far) My doc tells me that it won;t harm the baby as cigarettes do. She even gave me information regarding the very limited studies done and there are no clear results. It helps me, and my baby is still with me and growing well. I do have to say - as a life long pot smoker, you do get a "with-drawl" effect that can add to your normal morning sickness. After about 8 to 10 days it should be a bit less. Most women that suffer morning sickness tend to see an improvement by around 18 weeks. That when the hormones tend to level a bit. Others - like myself - suffer the entire pregnancy. I was sick until a day after my daughter was born, and I anticipate being sick just as long with this one. It has been worse this time for me. I was able to quit when pregnant with my daughter. This time, its what keeps us both living.
My boyfriend smokes inspite of me telling him that I don't like it. He wants me to not interfere in his life. What should I do?
I cannot tell you what to do in your situation because I am not you and have no knowledge of your value system. I can however share what I would do in this situation and share some of my life experiences that help me conclude what I would do.Kissing a person who smokes tastes like what I image licking a dirty ash tray would taste like. It is nasty. Even if they have brushed their teeth there is the nasty residue.People who smoke smell like cigarette smoke. Their hair, their breath, their fingers, their clothes - all stink. I find it offensive. When I was eighteen and went through my bar hopping stage of life I smoked for about six weeks. I had long beautiful strawberry blonde hair. After a night out I would wake up, roll over and my hair would drape accross my face. I would think to myself - oh my God - my hair stinks SO BAD!!! I quit smoking.I had an ex-husband who smoked. He was a very respectful smoker. Never smoked in our home, always disposed of his cigarette butts in the garbage rather than flick them where ever. It was a wasteful drain on our families budget - a very expensive habit. It is a serious addiction. I watched him suffer withdrawal when he tried to quit. I never said this to him but I would think to myself - oh for god sakes - just smoke - so we do not have to live with this anger, irritability, and short temper. Bless the man he would quit for years at a time and something stressful would happen and he would start smoking again. Sad but true.I get that your boy friend feels you asking him not to smoke is interfering with his life - yet in my mind he is missing a valid point. That point being that his cigarette habit affects your life. You have to kiss him, you are breathing his second hand smoke and instead of smelling him and his natural scent your are smelling cigarette smoke. Whether he is willing to acknowledge it or not his habit impacts you. I want friends who think about how their behavior impacts me not ones that ignore that reality.Smoking IS a deal breaker in intimate relationships for me. Today I would never enter an intimate relationship with a smoker.
How do I stop feeling sick/nauseous after smoking cigarettes?
You should also check to see if you are smoking Fire Safe Cigarettes. Yes, it sounds ridiculous but states are passing laws left and right requiring tobacco companies to add more chemicals to the paper of cigarettes so that they burn out if left unattended. Unfortunately, people are having some serious side effects from headaches to vomiting. Yep. News to you? It was news to me. I wondered why my smokes started tasting funny all of the sudden. The cigarette companies do not have to tell you and the states don't advertise their new laws to the widespread public. If you want to get the lightheaded feeling, you are looking for a nicotine overdose and honestly, if you want that, you can try any other method of nicotine and not have to smoke to get it. I have smoked for 16 years and can get pretty dizzy off of a heavy mg piece of nicotine gum.
Why do i feel sick after i stop smoking weed.?
so my boyfriend got in trouble with the law and has to stop smoking weed and drinking alcohol, so to show support im doing the same. i haven't smoked for a couple days now ( i was a regular user for about 6months) and now i feel sick to my stomach ALL the time, ive been getting head aches (im not a person that normally gets head aches and my joints hurt. i do want to say im very sure its not my lack of alcohol that is doing this considering i didnt drink that much to begin with. i just dont know why i would feel sick after quitting.
Can i get sick from kissing a smoker who's trying to quit?
Very doubtful that you would be sick because of him. Smokers have coughs as you know. The only time you might get sick is from the second hand smoke, which you may be allergic to. You would have to be with him almost constantly (as in living with him). I wouldn't worry much about it, but if you start having other symptoms (coughing a lot yourself, fever, etc. you need to check with your doctor. and continue to encourage him to quit himself. If it hasn't been long since he quit doing drugs, it is probably too soon to nag him about the smoking. Just occaionally remind him how much better he'll feel when he does quit.
My boyfriend smokes a lot. How can I get him to end this habit?
Do I know this story!!! Because I was the smoker. The sneaky, dishonest smoker. Oh, the work that went into maintaining that lifestyle. One cigarette required gum, hand lotion, hairspray and often an accessory to the crime.You see, I knew he hated smoking but I wanted to be with him so I quit. For 10 days. 10 days in I had already gained weight (not recommended for a personal trainer) and was a nervous wreck. I hated everything about it and decided I could successfully hide my smoking. And I did for 7 years. It was an exhausting time in my life and the dishonesty ate me alive.Finally, I became ready…when I was ready! So, here's how I did it. I recognized how unmanageable my life had become and knew it had to change. I became sick and tired of being sick and tired. First thing, I told a couple people. People I trusted to keep it to themselves and to hold me to it.Second, I changed my inner language. I have always been my worst critic so I knew the inner messages of “No cigarette for you!!” wouldn't work. I had to flip the script. “I love being smoke free” “I am looking forward to breathing better” “I love how I smell when I don't smoke”. Those messages turned my decades of struggle into something positive.And Third, I committed to telling my husband (yes, I secretly smoked on our wedding day), if I ever smoked just one cigarette. The fear of hurting him and causing him to see me as someone who is not trustworthy, was my greatest help. I love my husband and I could hear him say “if you lied about that, what else are you being dishonest about?”. That broke my heart. So, i did what I needed to do so I wouldn't hear it.I wish your man good luck with this endeavor. It is so hard but so worth it. I've been smoke free for more than 4 years and that is my only secret between me and my husband. Whenever I think of it, I look at him and smile, knowing my love for him saved my life like it had so very many times.The stages of change. Just cuz.
Would smoking many cigarettes one after the other make me sick enough to quit? I’ve heard stories of relatives forcing people to smoke a pack at once so they don’t smoke again, and I have had similar experiences with types of alcohol.
When I was a teenager I was a vodka drinker. I drank it a lot. An awful lot. One night I was carried home insensible, woke up on the couch with a bucket under my face and feeling like dwarves were mining inside my head.I am now 58 and I have not touched vodka since that day.But - and it’s a big but - nobody forced me to do that. I did it to myself. Not deliberately, not on purpose. I did it accidentally because as a teenager I did not fully understand what alcohol was doing to me.Oh I am not tea-total. I like whisky, the good malts, but I don’t down it recklessly any more. The ones I like these days are too expensive to guzzle. I’ve been drunk quite a few times since that insensible night but never to the ‘have to be carried home’ stage.So that vodka binge put me off vodka. It stopped me going to utter oblivion levels of drinking. It did not stop me drinking.It could actually have killed me. At my age, now, it probably would.Likewise, the kind of binge smoking you suggest will not stop you smoking. It will, if you survive it, put you off one brand of cigarettes but you will switch to another. Maybe you will smoke less afterwards, maybe not. Your experiment could kill you and if it doesn’t then it will only change your preferences.You’ll still smoke. Just with a different brand. If you do your binge experiment with Marlboro then you might never touch Marlboro again but carry on with Lambert and Butler. It isn’t going to work.If you truly want to stop smoking, try vaping. You don’t have to go for the cumulo-nimbus generators, you can start with a pound shop cheapo. Just don’t bother with tobacco flavour, that’s always crap. Try the other flavours. I once had a roast chicken flavour one that really did taste like roast chicken.I am not a vaper. I smoke real leaves. Why? Because the tobacco flavour vape juices are crap. Still I use vaping to ‘smoke’ blueberries and coffee and yes, roast chicken and absinthe and they are a lot of fun.Recently I found ‘heat-not-burn’ (HNB) in something called iQos. It heats tobacco but does not burn it. That has lasted longer with me than any Electrofag I’ve tried. It tastes and feels like real smoking but there is no smoke, no ash, nothing is burning.If vaping doesn’t work for you, try HNB.But really, don’t try the binge smoking experiment. It will not work, it will make you feel appalling and it could kill you.
I'm trying to quit using drugs & quit smoking while moving house and still do my regular day-to-day appointments, etc. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can keep the anxiety at bay yet remain focused on my goal?
I'm assuming this is all coming down real soon and that you have no choice (real or predicated)Switch up your routine because every cigarette is tied to a moment or an event. If you do smoke--and you'll want to, wait out three big urges for a smoke before you go have one and when you do smoke it, smoke it fast and until you are satiated and put the thing out. It's a miserable way to smoke, which is the idea.Nicotine is a powerful drug and you have others. I have no idea what to suggest to help you try to quit "drugs". Prayer. Your primary care provider. Details, please. We won't tell anyone. ;)As for the anxiety, you are already anxious, dude! Get yourself into the moment, not the Grand Picture. This is a lot on your plate, but this is what you want to do.You are steps ahead of most people that are clueless as to what they want to accomplish. So you have that and the desire to succeed. Two suggestions then.You know where you are heading. To the new place without smokes--a clean smell in a new place is a wonderful smell.Since you know where you are heading, you plan the path and go at it step by step. You are not running a sprint even if you are short on time with these goals. You will methodically take care of each thing individually and not look at it as one Big Thing that you have to accomplish.Good luck!