How to help a depressed friend?
A couple months ago I learned that my best friend had a tumblr (one of my classmates showed it), which I had no idea about. So, I look on it and am shocked that it has these depressing posts like,"some mornings I wish I had never woken up". Or "no matter how deep I cut, the pain doesnt go away". She even writes about he suicidal fantasies and posts pictures about anorexia and cutting. I am so upset that she never told me about her depression. She doesn't know that I look at her tumblt. I am so worried about her and don't know what to do. If I tell her parents, I know that they will get mad at her (don't ask me why, her relationship with them is bad and I don't know why). I feel like a shitty best friend for not even knowing and I don't know how to help her. And if I tell a school counselor, they will probs just call her parents. How do I tell her that I know about her depression through her tumblr? How do I help? Thanks for any serious answers.
Help, my friend is depressed!?
My best friend is depressed. Her dad is always away and her mom is always shouting at her for no apparent reason. She feels really alone and thinks no one cares about her. But that's not true. I care about her a lot. And all I want is for her to be happy. I also know that she does have a lot of good friends that care and will support her, but she refuses to believe that. We recently got into a fight (I accidentally hurt her feelings) so now that makes her feel even more like no one cares. I apologized and told her that i was wrong to hurt her feelings and i didn't ever mean to hurt her. I've begged for her forgiveness and told her I would do anything for her to forgive me but she still won't. So now she's depressed and hates me. I don't what to do! I care about her so much and love her. And I want her to be happy. She just feels really alone. I've tried supporting her and telling her that i'm there for her. I've told her that I'm willing to listen to anything she has to say, and I'll always be there for her, but because we had the argument, it doesn't seem to work. I've also told her that she's not alone and there are people that care about her and will support her but she won't listen. I don't know what to do! Please help!
Help?!? my best friend is really depressed?!?!?
maybe you should do something fun with her, like have a sleepover and watch movies, or something. it might help her realize she doesnt need a guy to have fun.
I think my friend is depressed...help?
Okay, so me and my friend are currently high school students, if that helps at all. Me, her and a couple of our other friends met in theater last year (freshmen year) and became friends pretty quickly. It was great, the four of us became pretty close. All of us but the friend in question were also in band, so she decided to join band this year, too, to spend more time with us and her boyfriend. Anyway, she's changed this year. There are two theater two classes and she was put in one and the rest of us in another. We're in band together, even have the same class period, but over the course of the year we have ceased to talk. She sits with me and a couple other girls at lunch but she never talks to any of us anymore (she used to at the beginning of the year) and instead leaves to go "practice" in the band hall as soon as she finishes lunch. It seems like she never laughs anymore, and she broke up with her boyfriend completely out of the blue a few months ago. I know she has problems at home; she's the oldest of like six girls and she hates her father (who moved out years and years ago) for reasons she won't talk about. Her parents always forget to pick her up after games and I've taken to forcing her to call them as soon as we get out (she doesn't have a phone of her own). I know the situation is bad because one of her sisters ran away a while ago. She came back a day or two later, but still. I know how much it sucks being the oldest of a bunch of kids because that's me, too. She's always tired, she's taken a very cynical look to life, and she's pulling away from her friends. I know she's depressed; I know the symptoms because I am. I want to sit down and have a talk with her, about, I don't know, maybe seeing the school counselors or something? But I feel like it also makes me a hypocrite because I would never dream of hauling my OWN butt down there. It's a little different because I don't really care about what happens to me; I've been severely depressed since eighth grade and nobody's given a ****, but I don't want the same thing to happen to my friend...any suggestions?
How to help my friend with depression?
My bestfriend has been depressed for a while now and it's starting to get worse.... She's cutting herself she's watching depressing videos... Crying... And she doesn't know why.. I'm trying my best to comfort her and make her laugh and everything but nothing is working? What do I do?
Should I tell my best friend about my depression?
Should I tell my best friend about my depression?Try to choose wisely. Those who seem to be capable of being understanding, and from whom you hope to receive emotional support might be worth the risk. Depression afflicts somewhere between 1 out of every 4 or 5 people in their lifetime. So chances are good that your best friend has experienced it. Even if your friend seems somewhat wary at first, part of a good, close relationship is to be able to have open lines of communications and be able to work through these bumps in the relationship.Some people will simply be not capable of being nonjudgmental, or supportive in the way that you need. Based on prior conversations with your friend, if you get this vibe, you may not want to disclose. Just because s/he doesn’t have the capacity to understand doesn’t mean that she/he is bad, worthless person or friend. She may be meeting other very important social needs of yours.Trust your intuition, you’ll make the right choice. There will always be risk in being vulnerable to others. But it’s part of living courageously, fully, and authentically. I tend to agree with other answers given: if you trusted her/him as close enough to disclose to and s/he is surprisingly nasty about it, then s/he is very unlikely to be worth your time.Namaste.
My best friend is always depressed, what should i do??
talk to her/him. maybe they need to see a therapist or maybe they need meds. its hard for u to say. r u close w/ his or her parents? maybe u can say something to them. say something like it seems like so and so is always depressed & im starting to get concerned. i think if it comes from u it may mean more to them. u r around that person all the time. if they r old enough to where they dont need permission from their parents to go see a health spec. then i would sit and talk w/ him or her and tell them maybe they need to go see someone and that u care for them and that is why u r bringing this up. just let them know u r concerned.