My boyfriend's parents are stealing his money?
My boyfriend has a job and works very hard to make money. I'm pregnant with his baby, we live together and I have a job working from home. Recently though; we both have noticed that his parents are taking money out of a trust fund from his grandparents that he's to get in January and using it to buy 2 new cars and a new flat screen TV. We were going to use that money to get a new home and pay doctor bills for my ultrasounds and exams for our baby. When we both confronted them, the argument escalated to physical violence. He got hurt worse then I did, and he's just trying to find a way to get his money back from them and find us a place to stay so we don't have to get in another fight with his parents. Neither of us are good with legal stuff, and I'm confused on how they got into that trust fund to begin with...Please help...
What should I do if my boyfriend's being abused by his parents?
We're both 16 years old, and we've been going out for a little more than a year. However, even though we've been going out for more than a year, my boyfriend and I have only kissed at the most, because both of us respected his parents and refrained from doing too much to offend them. Anyways, recently, he called me and told me that his parents beat him for 20 minutes when he came back home with a bottle of shampoo from me. They didn't like the idea that he had a girlfriend even though he was still in high school. I know that this might sound extreme to some of you, but his parents are Asian, and they're very strict. This is the second time that they hurt him like that. I can't remember the reason behind the first time, but his mom attacked him with a knife. He loves his parents very much - they were very kind and loving when he was still going through elementary school and middle school - and told me not to tell anyone, in case someone would notify the police and take his parents away, condemning his younger brother, too, who doesn't suffer from the abuse, but I don't want to see him with cuts and bruises over his body again. I told him that we should stop seeing each other, but he replied (through tears) that he would rather die than not see me again. It sounds overdramatic, but some of his closest friends have told me that he really is the kind of person who loves deeply and would rather commit suicide than be without someone they love. I don't know what to do =( I can leave him and hope the abuse stops, but I'm afraid that he might commit suicide. I can call the police, but I don't know what's going to happen when his parents find out about the fact that the police are going to be involved. Help! What will happen if I notify the police? Where will he stay with afterwards?
How can I help a friend who is being sexually abused by his family?
This is very serious. If you cannot talk him into calling the police or reporting it to a school official or teacher, then you should do it yourself or ask your parents to do it. It would actually be likely to get better result from those who can help if you just support your friend and accompany him to the police or wherever he wants to report it. If you do it, then it’s secondhand and may not receive the urgency it needs.
My 19 year old daughter in college is being abused by her boyfriend. She says she can't break up with him. How can I help her?
LOVE HER. Support her. Offer to let her go to therapy, tell her to look up support groups in her area- I promise there's something around, even if she doesn't know it yet.Don't give her ultimatums. Remind her of her worth. And the day she calls you sobbing because she's finally ready too leave him, bring her home with your arms wide open. Your support and reminder of how amazing she is, and how proud you are and how much you love her, will ultimately be a big part in knowing she CAN leave, and she WILL find better.I know this is hard as a parent because you just want to love and cherish, and cuddle and coddle her. You want to keep all the bad guys away and never make her feel the way he's making her feel.The best thing my mom did, when at 16-19, in an extremely abusive rrelationship was, is that she loved me. The night I called her and said "I need you. He's in jail. I'm coming home.", she jumped in a car and met me near his house and hugged me, helped me through talking to the police, and has always loved and supported myself and my daughter through every court date, every court proceeding, every interview I had to do with the police, and every time I've had to deal with his family since.While I was in the relationship, the best thing she did, was remind me I deserved better and how much I would always be worth, and to never settle.
What are my rights as a single parent who is being abused by my own son? He is 15. It is so bad that it is affecting my health.
If you're talking about physical abuse, you can call the cops and have him arrested. The fact that he's your son or that you're a single parent is irrelevant. It's illegal to physically attack another person regardless of their relationship to you.If you mean he's verbally or emotionally abusive, while those things are just as traumatic and damaging as physical abuse, unfortunately they're not illegal, at least not enough that cops will respond to it.If you are talking emotional or verbal abuse, - look, I'm going to be brutally honest here - you're failing as a parent. That's who is responsible for curbing his behavior at this point - you. At 15 he's almost fully developed, and the groundwork to prevent this type of behavior should have been laid years ago. Does that mean all is lost? Absolutely not. But it will be a lot of work and patience, and willingness to own your own mistakes, both with yourself and with him.First things first, what's the problem? I don't mean what's the symptom (the abuse), but where is that coming from? Fifteen year old boys are typically at a stage where they're both starting to really become aware of all the injustices that were done to them as a child (it always happens to some extent. None of us are perfect parents), and also starting to really feel the effects of testosterone, which can make you feel very aggressive and physically volatile until you learn to be familiar with and manage those feelings. This can create some pretty scary rage sessions. He very well may be surprising himself with his reactions, and might be worried that he's some kind of monster, which just compounds the problem.Can you talk to him? Do you have the type of relationship with him where you talk about what's causing him pain and stress? If not, you're going to need to find someone he can talk to. A youth pastor, or a favorite teacher, or an uncle, or if you can afford it and can find a good one, a professional therapist. You need to get him talking to someone who can find out what the root cause is. Once that issue has been addressed (and any others that are lying under the surface), I think you'll find that boy who loves you is still in there.
LONG, URGENT: Why does my boyfriend like to hurt me so much?
We have more than one issue here. First of all, your boyfriend needs help. Yes, some people get pleasure in hurting sexually. But this is not normal. He must either have a history of violence in the past or may have been victim. Another, don't give into him just because he likes it. You must stand up for it. How can anything be good if it is hurting you physically and emotionally? You are young so move on find someone better who will treat you with respect and love. It is not worth letting someone hurt you. In the long run you might be hurt emotionally and you don't want that. Good Luck and take care
What do I do if my dad is mentally & physically abusing my mom & me sometimes? She said that we can’t leave because he’ll hurt us worse. What do I do?
First, if your mother fears “he’ll hurt you worse,” believe her at least enough to be very careful about how you proceed. But do proceed, because “he’ll hurt you worse” stands a good chance of happening even if you do nothing.You will need help to formulate a safety plan. Besides the National DV Hotline mentioned by others, resources can be found in many communities at:Your local Police Department or County Sheriff’s Office. Using someone else’s phone and not from home, call the non-emergency Police Department number and ask if they have a domestic violence coordinator.Your local YWCA. Most YWCA’s now have people on staff to work with domestic violence cases and get them the help they need, including housing. Again, don’t call from home.I disagree with the advice to involve a family member or family friend. Domestic violence is a very serious situation; the person you involve may not take it as seriously as it should be, and may even not believe you if your father is good at concealing his behavior, as many abusers are, and try to talk to your father.Once official agencies get involved, be prepared for your life to be in turmoil for a while. They are mandated to act, and if you are a minor, you won’t have complete control over the process. You may even feel that you wish you’d never done anything, but in the long-run, it is best to get yourself (and your mom if she’ll go) out of this situation.The time immediately after the abuser learns that officials are or may become involved is extremely dangerous. Do not remain under his control once he learns of it; run away if you have to (to the YWCA, your local DV shelter, your neighborhood hospital or health clinic — not the streets, as they’re dangerous too) and do NOT go back home, not for your mom, your phone, your clothes, your schoolwork, etc., or get in his car.
What would you do if your boyfriend was abusing your dog?
If a boyfriend abused my dog? I would dump him, hard, fast, permanently, and in no uncertain terms. Probably a process involving no more than fifteen seconds and several very choice expletives as I kick him out the door. And no, he can’t even take his toothbrush with him as he goes.
My boyfriend wants me to bark like a dog?
Dump his ignorant butt before he decides he should keep you in a kennel. He sounds like he might turn out to be one of those maniacs who want to totally control you, the domineering type with a gun you hear about. I'd drop him like a bad penny and get on with my life, if I were you, before you have to use a court order.
My boyfriend lied about being enrolled in college. Dump him?
My boyfriend was supposed to start college this last fall. He would call me on his lunch break and confide in how terrible his professors treated him, but never told me that he did not sign up for classes. Apparently the classes he wanted were filled up when he went to sign up but didn't want to tell me out of fear that I would break up with him. His mom told me last week and I am so angry. I know he didn't cheat on me, but he still lied everyday, what do you think?