Im 14 & I think Im Pregnant!Help!?
When you said that you passed the test do you mean it was positive? If so.. you really need to talk to your mum.. she may be a little upset at first but she would be alot more upset if you ran away and didnt tell her.. I think that you would be surprised how much support that you would actually recieve! After they get over the initial shock they will be more understanding.. just get ready for alot more responsibility! And also, you need to go and get checked by a dr to make sure everything is okay with the baby (if you are pregnant) so yes, best to tell your mum ASAP.. just blurt it out if you have to.. mums are alot more forgiving and understanding if the truth is put forward.. :-) Good luck!!
I think I have really upset my mum?
I was talking to my mum about me going to talk to my dad and she said that she didnt want me to go because he is very mad because my brother has told him that I went out and I went home with a 21 year old lad (i did go to his house but I have know him for like ever and I have a boyfriend and he came with me). So I walked out of the room and went upstairs then she came into my room called me a immature b*t ch and took my laptop of me. So I told her to f*ck off. And the she completely flipped and told me that she doesnt want me to stay at home. So I told her that I will go and stay at my boyfriend and that.made it even worse and she started calling.me more names and I got more pissed off and I phoned my boyfriend and he said that I should go to his, and spend the night there so I can calm down and then think about what I will say to her in the morning. I am not going back home and saying the.whole "it was.all my.fault " because it wasnt...she called me an immature b*tch and that is what pisses me off but my.mum is the only person in my family that I am close to and I have pissed off everyone else and I feel so f*cking stupid and I just dont want to be treated like a f*cking child! What should I say to her?
Im 13 And My Moms Pregnant And Im Really Upset. :( Plz Help Me!!! It Means Alot Too Me!!!!!!! Thanks!?
See My Mom Is 38 and she has 2 kids my brother 16 and me 13. I am upset because she just got a divorce to my dad and she got her bf around March. My mom is a great person and Im always telling her i want a little brother or sister!!! Maybe we can adopt. But now im soooo sad! I love kids!!!! I am amazing with little kids and i know how im always saying I want a baby in the house and so now my moms pregnant and im really upset. My brother wont be happy either. She just found out 3 days ago and im not allowed to tell anybody. Im also upset because my dad dosnt know and its going 2 make him soooo upset. My mom dosnt really want another kid but,...she cant do anything about it now. My moms bf is a great man and is really nice. He dosnt have any kids so hes excited. Ive always been the baby for 13 year and now im scared and sooo upset. Its the fact of my mom being pregnant not the baby coming. Ever since my mom told me she was pregnant thats ALL ive been thinking about and idk how to even talk to my mom anymore. I seem afraid and im just upset. Can somebody plz talk 2 me and tell me how I could get over it and why im so upset. I dont want my mom 2 be pregnant. I would love have a sister but not from my mom like adopt or something. I dont wanna see my mom pregnant and Everybody is going to freak out on my mom like for example: OMG YOUR PREGNANT or YOUR 2 OLD TO BE PREGNANT or OMG U JUST OF DIVORCED AND NOW YOUR PREGNANT. I am kinda jealous of my mom being pregnant becase idk how its gonna work. We will have 2 move out of our house into a new one and my grandma also lives with us since my grandpa just died and well were living in a 3 bedroom house and 4 people are living in it with 1 bathroom. And now its gonna be 6 people in one house the new baby and my moms bf...and well....Idk how to talk to my mom and now she like just changed...and im upset. I LOVE BABY THO and idk why im soooo upset and scared, I think it has something 2 do with my dad isnt the father and i never get 2 see my dad and so idk how to react to this. I know its just another person to love but i cant keep my mind off it. Ive always been the baby and now i feel like thats changed and my mom will be 2 busy with work (she already is now!!!!!!) and with the baby and i will just be sitting there...sigh plz help me and talk 2 me. You cant feel my sadness :(
My mother gets very upset and angry over little things. Could she have some type of mental illness?
There are a lot of things that may be contributing to your mother’s short fuse. If she’s working and raising a family, she is stressed. If she is having relationship issues with your father, she is stressed. If there are financial problems, she is stressed. She could be stressed so much that it takes nothing to upset her. One little tiny thing can cause her to lash out at you (or others).This does not mean she is mentally ill. She probably needs to have more positive ways of dealing with her stressful life. Your mom may need some more help (voluntary, by the way!) around the house. Tell her to go watch a show on TV and you will clean up after dinner (or make dinner). Ask her if she would like to go out with friends. You can also just say, “Mom, I am worried about you. You seem very tense and things I do upset you more easily now. I don’t want to upset you, and I am concerned you are very stressed out over something and I would like to help you.”This may be just what she needs to hear from you. Be brave!
My mom thinks that I am depressed but I am not. What should I tell her?
To be honest with you, people think the same with me. The think so because I don’t show a whole lot of emotion and I don’t talk a whole lot. The reason is, is because I’m an introvert. A big one at that.Honestly, all I think that you can do, given the question and minimal details provided, is just insist that you are not depressed.You could possibly go out of your way to make yourself more cheerful, or just act more cheerful/happy in general. That’s about all I can think about given the details.But, I will say, don’t say it jokingly, or this might possibly make her to believe that you are really depressed.Sit down with her, make it a point to make sure she knows that you are not depressed. Sit down with her at a table, possible ask her why she thinks you’re depressed, and try to improve on the things that she says. Then, insist that you are not depressed.Best of luck!
Why do I upset my mother and feel a lot of guilt afterwards?
Good to see that you recognize the need to change, which is the first step towards maturity. Sometimes, we overlook rude behavior from younger people, simply because we think they don’t know any better, but it is not attractive and does not serve them well as young adults. ‘Sounds like you get that.Breaking the pattern of response takes some conscious choices at first. Positive reinforcement through feeling good about relationship improvement, mutual respect and less drama for you and those you love, should make the effort worthwhile.Journaling is a useful tool for working through feelings and responses. Try to pick one thing that you struggled with, try to see it from the other person’s side, then consider behavior options and better responses.Wait before you respond to triggers and consider if your reaction is automatic, or if there may be another approach that would be a higher road. Some people use the technique of waiting 10 seconds and breathing when they need to rethink and replace emotionally patterned reactions with better thought out responses.I wish you patience, understanding and great success in moving forward to adulthood. I suspect you are well on your way!
When I am upset, my mom never comforts, tells me I'm only upset because there is something wrong with me that I need to fix. What is this philosophy?
You are entitled to your feelings. You are entitled to your reactions so long as you aren't harming anyone. To say otherwise suggests that something is wrong with her not you.Generally that something is called being callous, unsupportive, or even emotionally abusive depending on how it's done. When you care about someone, the usual response is to try to help them, not deny their feelings. By saying there's something wrong with you, she's trying to deny that your feelings are legitimate. It's wrong to do that. Just in case you may want to research gaslighting, and see if it applies to your situation.Assuming that you don't actually have something wrong with you, like a personality disorder, to where you get upset over things you shouldn't, all this is just wrong. You deserve support.
I've just said terrible things to my mom. How do I make her feel better?
Listen, she is your mother. She still loves you. You still love her, no matter how angry or upset both of you are. I think you should take a break. Go outside, take a walk. Take your phone (and answer it if she calls, you don't want her even more upset). But get away from the situation, breathe, dont think. Clear your mind. You feel bad right now but if you walk back into the situation, you will explode again. Trust me here. She needs time, you need time. Go away, give her space, and more importantly give yourself space. You can apologize when you are ready, even if it takes a few days. In that time, think. Dont assume everything you said was wrong. Maybe it was, but what we say when we are angry is usually a reflection of our true raw feelings. Maybe you were surprised at how much you had bottled up inside you. Make a list of what yo said, and beside that write rational, or irrational. Then go back to the things you think were rational. Remember what your mother said in response to that. See if you see her side of it. If you feel you were right somewhere, stand up for yourself. Aditting you are wrong if you dont think you are isnt going to solve the problem, its going to creat emore in the future. On the other hand, you may feel terrible for the harsh things you said, but not for your ideas, or your side of the argument. You can apologize for losing control without apologizing for what you believe in. Remember, dont be rushed. Do it in an enviornment conductive to positive convrsation. Iff you have to be formal, do it. If you have to text her to mee you in a coffee shop, even if it seems ridiculus, do it. If you still want to rant and yell, spen the night at your friends house. Ask them their unbiased opinion on what you said. Give yourself time. Make sure you are in a positive and cooperative mood when you go talk to her. Hopw this helps:)
I'm embarrassed to tell my mum about my boyfriend!!!?
hiya ma name is kelly im 14 and im goin out with this really sweet boy steven. we are not sexually invloved. its weird im totally embarrased to tell my mum about him! I dont want her to know about him, i feel bad on him though!! has anyone eles experianced this ?? if ur a mum would you be upset if your daugher didnt tell you? no horrible comments please!! luv kellyxxx
My mom told me I make her want to kill herself. Do I have the right to be hurt by the fact she told me?
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I can’t even imagine how distressing it was to hear.First off, yes, you have the right to feel hurt. In fact, you have the right to your feelings in any situation, no matter what they are. However, in this instance, I have trouble imagining anyone not being hurt and in no small measure shocked and even terrified to hear these words from their mother.You’re not giving us much context, so I’m not sure if the words your mother said were uttered because of her being annoyed or upset, or whether she is depressed or has genuine suicidal thoughts. What I can tell you for certain is this: her saying it to you is wrong. These words carry with them a tremendously heavy weight, the kind of weight that a child cannot be expected to carry. Even if your mother was upset and annoyed with you, saying you make her want to kill herself is not a mature and healthy way to deal with her frustration. If on the other hand you suspect that your mother was making a genuine threat, then it’s all the more important that she accepts that she needs professional help. No matter what is behind these words, they are a sign that you and your mom need help - both individually and as a unit. The best thing you can do right now is seek out a counselor with whom you can discuss this in confidence. You didn’t give us your age, but if you are a teenager or a young adult, you simply do not have the resources to handle this on your own (and even if you are an adult, such words from your mom can be extremely shocking and traumatizing). Once you talk to a counselor (they are often available at your school or college for free), they can help you with your next steps.Remember: no matter what happens, your mother is an adult who is responsible for her own feelings and actions. I hope she gets the help she needs to deal with them. Either way, it’s not your job to be responsible for her emotions. I hope you get good help and guidance, and the situation improves. Good luck!