I have an obnoxiously honest friend?
Cruelty is not truth. Opinion is not truth.
How o convince my friend she is pretty!?
Ok so my friend Sam (samantha) thinks she is really ugly, honestly she's not the type to do it for attention! Now I'll be honest she's not a stunner but far from an eyesore, she is thin but thinks she is fat so at lunch and recess I have to make sure she eats, she has frizzy browny hair that she hates, but it's really pretty and pale skin, I just want to show her that she is beautiful. On the inside especially cause she is, she has the most friendly and caring personality! How can I show her that she doesn't have to look like a supermodel to be considered beautiful? Please help she is so self conscious.
I have a very brutally honest friend..?
There's a difference between being brutally honest and being an a--hole. Emily hasn't learned that difference. Explain to her that she needs to stop being so selfishly cruel to others if she wants to have friends. There are ways to word the truth more gently, or sometimes just keep it to yourself, without being dishonest. For example, if I think your shirt looks bad, I might say, "you know, that shirt doesn't really enhance the natural beauty that you have, I think you might look better in a shirt like (describe shirt.)" It's still an honest answer, but it's not hurtful and harsh. If I think someone's boyfriend or girlfriend is ugly, I wouldn't say anything because that would be an awful thing to do. If you asked me how I thought your boyfriend looked and I thought he was ugly, I might say, "Well, he's not really my type so I can't say." Still honest, but not harsh. You see where I'm going with this? People get away with being a--holes because they use the "well I'm just being honest" excuse, but it's a lie. You can be honest AND gentle. Consistently choosing to be harsh instead of gentle is rude, crass behavior and should not be tolerated.
Please help. Why am i so pretty? Honest question?
You're delusional & falling in love with yourself because you were ugly as a child, and even you know it well enough to acknowledge it. Remember, childhood memories make a great impact on a person's behavior throughout their lifetime. Kids who were often loved and adored grow up with healthy mental attitude and a positive outlook on life. You, on the other hand, have just barely started to be comfortable with yourself. Therefore, you crave attention and the need to parade around letting everyone know who you are. YOU are low on self-esteem. People like you are easy to destroy because your mentality isn't solid enough. Deep down, you're extremely insecure and YOU know it. Those who are truly content and confident NEVER boast.
Is dark skin pretty honestly?
awww! don't feel that way, honestly! my best friend is african american and she is the prettiest girl i know! EVERYONE feels like something is wrong with them- for example: i feel not as pretty as the other girls because i have acne, yet people say that im pretty! i totally agree, no one should feel that way- look in the mirror and brag to yourself how pretty you are instead of looking at the things you think is wrong. you just have to remember that people love you for you and could care less if you were white, black, asian, mexican, etc! love yourself the way you are and remember that you are beautiful!
My sister is prettier than me and it's killing my self-esteem. What should I do?
I should go ahead and say my sister is also prettier than me. And it used to give me a bitter taste in my mouth.I am the youngest one in my family, and as siblings, we look after each other. Well, normally the elder ones were in charge and had the responsibility to protect and provide the younger.So since I was a child, I was bitchy and demanding and I wanted things to go my way, including people’s affection.Everything went well my way for first couple years of my life, until I came to an age to realize who is the prettiest of all. I still tried to fool myself that I was still the best, and the most beautiful, and that’s why I am my mom’s favorite child. But that trick did not work so well with outsiders.My sister is astonishingly beautiful and everyone liked her. All the boys in schools and college. She had many male friends came to the house and hung out. Some of them were handsome too. And all of their attention went to my sister.I didn’t take that so well.I was jealous with her look. I tried to get people’s attention. I hoped my sister’s male friends liked me more than her. When they were trying to talk to my sister, I jumped into the conversation and started talking, trying to make them like me.I pretended that I didn’t care about her followers. I also acted mean to my sister. I hated the fact that I had no follower while she had a bunch of them. I hated the fact that she didn’t need to try so hard but people still liked her. I hated that she was a ball of joy, while I was grumpy the whole time.I wish I could tell you somehow I figured it out and I started to treat her well, but in fact I didn’t. Not until I grew up and I managed to nurture myself and my self-esteem.My sister is still breathtakingly beautiful, but she didn’t have a good marriage. She divorced and is a single mom while I am living happily with my husband. I feel sad for her.You see, if you love yourself enough, you will not need to worry about people’s affection. And you will not even care about the look. It is not about how pretty you are, but it is about how happy you are.Enjoy your time with your sister, feel happy for her pretty look while you still can. And DO NOT think about yourself as the uglier, which reduces your self-esteem as you are doing right now. Focus on what you have, build your confidence and knowledge.You are loved. You are pretty. And you know it.It starts with you.